Grass is greener there
I masturbate. Through it, I orgasm sometimes and at other times, I don’t. I haven’t experienced sex with a partner yet. From what I gather about sex through others’ experiences, I feel it’s obviously better than masturbation.
*Lipika, 24, civil-services aspirant
Coupled only
I don’t really masturbate, not explored it much. I tried but realised it wasn’t really my thing. Also, I’ve been in a relationship since I was very young age, so I didn’t feel the need for masturbation.
I’ve experienced sex with my boyfriend and have orgasmed, obviously.
*Ramona, 21, student
Who knows
I haven’t tried masturbation or sex. I have a partner and we keep talking about trying sex sometime. From what I hear about both these options, I feel sex with a partner is obviously better.
*Abhivyakti, 19, student
Who needs a partner
Masturbation? No. I don’t have time for such things. Majority of my friends who masturbate enjoy it quite a lot, though, and after masturbating don’t feel the need for a partner! I can’t say about masturbation for myself, though. I had kissed and made out with my previous boyfriend and I had climaxed through that.
*Minisha, 25, research analyst
No idea
I don’t masturbate because I have a husband. I am married. I’ve experienced sex, yes.
(Do you orgasm through sex with your partner?) *pause* I have no idea. (laughs and walks away)
*Suneeta, 28, hostess at restaurant
The feelings
I haven’t masturbated, nor had sex with anyone yet. From experiences of women around, I felt sex will be more pleasurable because there are more feelings involved there. Khud sey khud ka is not that much fun, I feel.
*Manisha, 18, student
Fingering it out
I’ve tried masturbating but I’m not sure how it is done. However, I did manage to hit some spots that gave pleasure. In fact, I tried masturbation only after exploring sexually with my partner, he helped me figure myself there.
I’ve just started with sexual life and hence, I haven’t explored much yet. I run away before reaching orgasm fearing I might squirt or something. Masturbation has never been very satisfying. Sex and fingering (by partner) have been.
*Shivali, 26, social worker
Self-service is best
I discovered masturbation quite late in life – in my early 20s -- and the process of figuring out what works for me was as gradual as it can get. But it’s been my best self-discovery. I have far and few sexual interactions and I always find myself comparing the quality of pleasure from sex to what I get from masturbation, which is so much better.
No partner has ever made me orgasm and I always orgasm when I masturbate.
*Reshma, 27, graphic designer
Porn and masturbation
I often masturbate while watching porn. I know maybe I am one of the few women who love watching porn and masturbating because from what I know, most men do so. I also ask my partner to watch porn with me so that we both can masturbate each other and get off. It’s the most wonderful orgasm that I get when I masturbate. Having sex does not give me orgasm. It never did.
*Nitika, 29, content writer
My girl is the best
I am a bisexual and now in a committed relationship with a girl. I must say that I orgasm with her much easily while making out as compared to my ex-boyfriend. She knows exactly what spots to hit and how to touch my clit. Orgasm with her is so much better that I do not indulge in masturbation much now.
*Gauri, 26, call centre executive
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