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What is the start and stop technique in sex?

You may have often heard that if someone suffers from the problem of premature ejaculation, they can benefit from the start and stop method. It not only helps delay the ejaculation for men but also in turn increases the sex time for the couple overall. But what exactly is it and how can it be done? Let’s find out in detail in today’s article.

Simple yet effective

The start and stop technique is a simple yet highly effective method to combat premature ejaculation. It's all about understanding your body's responses and learning to manage them. 

Here's a step-by-step guide on how to use the start and stop method: 

Step 1: Self-awareness

Before you can control your ejaculation, you need to understand your body's arousal cycle. Take some time to explore your own responses during sexual activity such as having sex with your partner or even masturbation. Pay attention to the physical and emotional sensations that lead to climax.

Step 2: Start Slowly

Begin masturbation or sex with a slow, sensual approach. Explore your partner's body through caresses, kisses, and gentle touches. Take your time to build excitement without rushing towards penetration. If you are masturbating, start with slow strokes to your penis. 

Step 3: Pause

When you feel yourself getting too close to climax, take a pause. This is the crucial step of the technique. Withdraw from your partner and relax for a moment. If you are masturbating, stop touching yourself.

Focus on something non-sexual, like your partner's breathing, a pleasant memory, or even mathematical calculations – whatever helps divert your attention from the impending climax.

Step 4: Deep breathing

While you're taking your pause, practice deep, calming breaths. Deep breathing helps reduce anxiety and increases your control over your body's responses. Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose, hold for a few seconds, and then exhale through your mouth. Repeat this process a few times until you feel more in control.

Step 5: Resume

Once you feel the urgency subsiding, you can resume your lovemaking/self-pleasure. But remember, don't rush back into it. Start slowly and sensually, building up the intensity as you go.

Step 6: Repeat as needed

If you find yourself nearing climax again, don't hesitate to pause once more. This technique allows you to stop and start as many times as necessary until you're ready to proceed without the fear of premature ejaculation.

How does it help? 

So, what makes the start-and-stop method a game-changer for men struggling with premature ejaculation? Here are some of the remarkable benefits:

  • Increase in sex time: By learning to pause and control your climax, you can significantly extend your sex sessions. This means more pleasure for both you and your partner.
  • Reduced anxiety: Premature ejaculation often leads to performance anxiety, which can make the issue worse. The technique helps reduce anxiety as you gain more control.
  • More bonding with your partner: The technique encourages you and your partner to communicate and explore your desires together, strengthening your emotional bond.
  • Increased satisfaction: Longer-lasting sex and ejaculation generally lead to more satisfaction for both partners.
  • Focus on female pleasure/orgasm: While you take a pause from stimulating yourself, you can focus on making your female or male partner have an orgasm by stimulating her clitoris ( in the case of your female partner) or even oral sex ( for both male/female)
  • No medications: Unlike some other methods for treating premature ejaculation, the start-and-stop method is entirely drug-free.

Practice makes perfect

Like any skill, mastering the start-and-stop technique takes practice. It's essential to remain patient and persistent. Here are some additional tips to make your practice more effective:

  • Communicate with your partner: Keep the lines of communication open with your partner. Let them know that you're working on improving your control, and ask for their support and understanding.
  • Distract yourself: Develop a list of non-sexual thoughts or images that can help you divert your focus during the pause. These can be your go-to distractions when needed. 
  • Practice alone: You can also practice this technique independently through masturbation. This allows you to become more familiar with your body's responses.
  • Stay relaxed: The more relaxed you are, the easier it is to control your responses. Consider adding relaxation techniques, such as yoga or meditation, to your daily routine. 

The start and stop method is a fantastic tool for men looking to overcome premature ejaculation and extend their sex time. Remember, it's a skill that requires practice and patience, but the rewards are well worth the effort. So hang in there and don’t give up so soon! 

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed. 

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