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Making love FAQs

Want to know more about making love or having sex? Here are answers to some frequently asked questions on the issue.

I always have safe sex but now I’ve got a sexually transmitted disease! How is it possible?

By safe sex people usually mean using a condom when you have intercourse and making sure you don’t get semen or menstrual blood in your mouth. You are then protected against HIV, the virus which causes AIDS, and you will also prevent infections such as Chlamydia and gonorrhoea.

However, viruses and bacteria that cause sexually transmitted diseases can also be passed on in other ways. For example by masturbating each other or by the genitals just touching without having intercourse. Even if you always use a condom, there’s still a small risk of catching a sexually transmitted disease.

Read more on the risks of different kinds of sexual activity in Safe or unsafe?

What is a 'dental dam' and where can I get them?

A dental dam, or vaginal dam, is just a square piece of latex which you can lay over the vagina when you perform oral sex on a woman. They are called dental dams because they were first designed to be used during dental treatment, rather than for sex!

You can order real dental dams on the internet. However, it's easier just to make one using a condom, by cutting it open lengthways to make a rectangle. An even cheaper option is to use plastic wrap (cling wrap or cling film). Make sure it’s the type that doesn’t have little holes in.

Particularly when a woman has her period, you can use a dental dam to stop blood from getting in your mouth. You can also use it for oral sex involving the anus.

I had unsafe sex, but I urinated and washed my penis right away. Am I safe?

No, urinating and washing your genitals doesn’t reduce the risk you’ve run by having unprotected sex. If your partner has a sexually transmitted disease, you might have caught it. You should go to a doctor or clinic and have a check-up. And next time, use a condom.

My boyfriend wants to use the ‘withdrawal method’ of contraception. Is this safe sex?

No, it isn’t safe. Although the semen doesn’t get in your vagina, the pre-ejaculate does. You risk catching or passing on a sexually transmitted disease, or getting pregnant.

  • Sexually transmitted diseases

The pre-ejaculate (the clear liquid that comes out of the penis before the boy comes) can carry HIV (the virus which causes AIDS) or another sexually transmitted disease such as Chlamydia, gonorrhoea, genital herpes, genital warts, syphilis or trichomoniasis. If you’re on the pill, it will stop you getting pregnant but it won’t protect you from getting sexually transmitted diseases.

  • Pregnancy

Withdrawal (also known as coitus interruptus) is not a very effective method of contraception. There may be sperm cells in the pre-ejaculate. More importantly, it’s easy for the man to get the timing wrong and pull out too late.

Does intercourse hurt the first time?

It doesn’t have to. If the woman is relaxed and aroused, it doesn’t hurt. If you’re very tense the vagina can stay dry or tense up. This makes it more likely that the hymen will tear and intercourse will be painful. You’re often nervous the first time, so it can easily happen. But if you both take your time, it doesn’t hurt.

What is a virgin?

A virgin is a woman or man who has never had intercourse. So the first time you do it, people say you ‘lose your virginity’. Make sure your partner knows it’s your first time, so you can take your time, and build up slowly and gently.

You can read more in the section on the hymen and virginity.

Why do I come so quickly?

Sex is very exciting, certainly the first time! Many men reach orgasm more quickly than they would like to. Don’t worry about it. When you’re more experienced and you’re more relaxed, you learn to hold back your orgasm. If you feel embarrassed, try to make light of it. Say something like, ‘Well, you really do turn me on!’ If you can laugh about it together, it won’t be such a problem.

Why don’t I have an orgasm?

Women don’t usually have orgasms during intercourse. The clitoris isn’t stimulated by the penis just going in and out of the vagina. If you want to have an orgasm, touch your clitoris yourself, or have your partner touch it. Of course, during intercourse isn’t the only time for you to have an orgasm. Your partner can also stimulate your clitoris so you have an orgasm before or after intercourse.

Can a girl get pregnant the first time?

Yes! The first time a woman has intercourse with a man she can get pregnant. Even if she’s never had a period. So always use a condom.

How do you make the first time a good experience?

See Ten tips for the first time. It’s also good if you know your own body. Have you ever masturbated? If you have, you’ll know how you like to be touched and what you find arousing. Tell your partner, and explore together what else turns you on.

 

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Hmmm! Bete Swarthi yoni bahut choti hoti hai aur lacheele bhi. So Jald baazi mat keejiye, phele finger se try keejiye, koi lubrication use keejye… Lekin apke partner ko bahut hee relaxed rehana hai aur apko bhi is dauran bahut hee support karna hai. Poora ling ek hee baar andar jaaye yeh bilkul zaroori nahin, aur na hee iski rai dee jaati hai. iske barre mein yeh padhiye http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Yadi sex dono pyaar ke saathiyoun ke beech ho, surakshit yaani bina koi zore zabardasti ke ho, so bahut hee achcha. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed
Bete yeh hona toh bilkul common hai so don't worry! Kya aap pregnancy ke nazariye se yeh puch rahi hain? So pregnancy ke liye toh ek shukranu bhee bohot kaafi hai. Aur Jaldi pregnancy ke tips yaha pahdiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/tips
Hmmm! So Sumit is duran durd ho bhi sakta hai aur nahi bhi. durd ki wajah penis ki skin Yadi woh theek tarah se peeche nahi hui hogi toh yeh durd ka karan ban sakti hai. Isliye is skin ko nahataye samaye halkaye se pichay kar ke saaf karna hota hai jissey ki waha saafai bani raheye. Iske alawa sex mein dryness bhi durd ki wajh ban sakti hai.Jis bare mein poori jaankari aapyeh link padh kar hasil kar sakte hain. For happy sex https://lovematters.in/hi/news/secret-happy-sex-right-lubricant
Bete shalu kya aap orgasm ki baat kar rahi han toh aapko detail mein niche diye huay link ko padhne ki zarurat hai. lijiye:https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/her-orgasms Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “just pucho” mein zarurr sahmil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
AApke har sawaal ka jawab hai YES, sirf ek ka hai NO aur woh ki Bacche dani k operation k baad aurat k sex kerne mein yadi koi badlaav aata hai – Nahin. Yeh ho sakta hai ki hormones ke change ki vajeh se thoda utaar chaddhav ho, lekin uske illava kuch nahin. Bache daani nikalne se sex ke aanand mein koi interference nahin, na hee discharge mien. Kai baar toh yeh dekha gaya hai ki , mahilayein aur relaxed ho jaati hai aur sex ko bina dar enjoy kar saketee hain.
i-Pill ek emergency goli hai jo ki unsafe sex ke 72 ghanton ke andar hee lee jaati hai, jitni jaldi so behtar. Lekin yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.PLEASE in goliyon ko laparvahi se istemaal mat kijiye. Safe sex ke liye condom ka istemal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bête, yaha padho zara: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete Shobna bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhee nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex
Akram bete yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh shighrpatan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay, pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna, jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hastmaithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. Yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/i-ejaculate-too-soon-help Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ravi beta apne se umar mein badi mahila ke saath sambadh ke bare mein bahut se log sochtey hain. Lekin apki is soch ke karan kahin aap kisi badi musibat mein na padd jaye isliye zara aap swayum chintan kar leejiye, aur soch leejiye. Jara yeh writup bhi padh lo : https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/turned-on-by-older-women-is-that-normal https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/should-i-sleep-with-my-neighbourhood-bhaabhi Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Bete yeh jo baat hai na ki shaadi Ya ya rishtey ke liye ladki age mein ladke se kam hona bohot zaruri hai yeh kewal samaj ke dwara banya gaya niyam hai. yadi kisi relation mein pyaar, vishwas aur respect hai na toh age koi maine nahi rakhti. Aur na hi age ke jyada hone se sexual relation par koi fark padta hai. Beshak, dono partener baalig hone chhaiye, aur sex ka matlab aur uski zimmedari uthaane ke liye Vyask ya mature hone chahiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/love-age-gap-how-can-i-keep-her
Bete Rohit, aisa mana jata hi ki jisne kabhi sex nahi kiya woh virgin hai phir chahein woh purush ho ya mahila. Isliye yadi aap sexual intercourse karte hain toh aap dono hee virgin nahi reh jate. Lekin aap is virgin issue ko lekar itna chitnit ho kyun? Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Bete yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik hee hogee. aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani bête ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge mein help karta hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
Rajendra bete please apna sawal toh poochhiye, taki hum aapko sahi salah de payen. Yadi aap kisi bhee mudde par humse gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Sunil bete yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh shighrpatan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay, pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna, jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hastmaithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. Yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/i-ejaculate-too-soon-help Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Sex ki ichha hona hona bohot hi common hai par hum aapki ismein koi sahayata nahi kar saktay! Lekin aap hastmethun try kar saktay hain kyunki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Bete please apna sawal toh poochhiye, taki hum aapke sawal ka answer de payen. Yadi aap kisi bhee mudde par humse gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hmmm suniey bête issey mukhmethun kehtey hain, haa aap yeh kar saktay hain, maslan aapki partner ko issey koi aitraaz nahi ho, pehle aap unsey is baarya mein unki rai jaanay aur yadi wo issey mana karti hai toh bilkul maan jaey koi zabardasti nahi. Mukhmethun ke baray mein aur jyada yaha padhiey : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
Thakaan ko kamzori ka naam mat do bête! Aur suno sex se koi kamzori nahi aati yeh ek mithya hai agar aisa suna bhi hai to aapnay, sex se koi nuksaan nahi jab tak ki wo safe sex hai, yaani poori samjhdaari aur safety ke sath kiya gaya sex.
toh Beta jaldi hone se koi baat nahin, dont worry. So sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Unki uttejna jab bade tab aap entry karo! Aur bête Yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik hee hogee. aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge mein help karta hai. Yeh bhi padh lo: http://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
Aray! 8th mahine mein bhi tujhe chain nahin hai? JAB TAK who khud nahin kehtee, koi sex ki activity nahin honi chhaiye. Last 3 months mein definitely safety rakhnee hoti hai. Aur biwi hai na teri? Bachacha bhi tera hee hai,
Acha aapko kaisa lagyga agar aapki wife aapko yeh kahay ki aapka ling chota hai ya teda hai? phir aap unki yoni ko lekar aisa kaisay soch saktay hain . aur rahi baat anal sex kit oh ismay bhi pehle unki marzi pucho who kya chati haon agar unki haan hai toh hi yeh karo. Iskay baarey mein detail yaha padh lo http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex
Isse Oral sex kehte hain jisse karnay mein koi samsya nahi maslan saaf-safai ka poora dhyan rakha gaya ho aur ismay dono partners ki barab marzi shamil ho toh! Isliye apne partner ke samne apni iccha rakhiye. aur behtar hoga yadi condom ka isteml kiya jaey aur yaha padh lijiey : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
Suniye Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai. Suno bête jab tak ki aap khud apnay future husband ko yeh nahi bateyngi ki aapnay sex kiya hai ya nahi ya aap virgin nahi hain, tab tak wo is baat ka pata nahi laga saktay ok ? so don’t worry.
Aap jiss ki baat kar rahe hain Isse oral sex kehte hain, jisse karnay mein koi samsya nahi maslan saaf-safai ka poora dhyan rakha gaya ho aur ismay dono partners ki barab marzi shamil! aur behtar hoga yadi condom ka isteml kiya jaey. Yeh padh lijiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
Apka sawal kuch samjh nahi aaya bete! Lekin jo yeh apka first time sex mein blood ka sawal hai na iske bare mein bohot sare doubts clear karne hognge apko jisk liye yaha padhiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Aur suniye yadi aap unsafe sex kar rahe hain toh yes pregnancy ke chances bohot hi jyada hain, jiksa pehla lakshan periods miss hona hota hai.http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani bête ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge mein help karta hai.http://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
Dekho bete! kisi bhi sexual activity mein ek cheez bohot hi important hai woh hai dono logo ki sehmati. Yadi woh abhi is baat ke liye sehmat nahi hain toh aap bhi force mat kijiye. Yeh Jaaiz demand nahin. Aur bhi activities hai jo aap try kar sakte hain :is baaray mein yaha padhein: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love
Hmm! aisa kyun ho raha hai? kya aap koi aisi activity kar rahe hain jo ki unhe pasand nahi aa rahi hai? bete pyar aur vishawas ke saath Sabse zaroori hoga ki aap unse iski vajeh poochein, bina jhagda, bina aalochna. Tab hee aap anumaan laga saktey hain, hain na? Saat hee, unhe unka vishwaas aur pyaar…. Yeh bhi yaad rakhiye, ki sex mein HAAN karna ya NAA, yeh bhi unka haq hai, unka nirnay… so yadi who na kartee hain, so ek baat to tay hi ki koi bhi zor ya zabardasti bilkul allow nahin ha, samjhe beta jee?! zara yeh bhi padhiye : http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed
Bete yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik hee hogee. aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani bête ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge mein help karta hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
Beta jaldi hone se koi baat nahin, dont worry. So sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik hee hogee. aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani bête ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge mein help karta hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
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