Love and relationships

Usually a relationship starts when two people fall in love. They may start dating. There's no one-size-fits-all formula in relationships, and what works for one couple might not work for another. But also, what happens when something goes wrong? Read more here.

Facts

Meeting and talking to new people

We all sometimes struggle to talk to new people – no matter how confident and talkative we may seem. And this struggle can turn into panic if we happen to find this new person attractive! So here’s our Top Tips for talking to new people...

How to say ‘No’

Sometimes someone might ask you out on a date, but unfortunately you just don’t like them in that way. How can you say ‘no’ without hurting their feelings? Here are some tips.

Sex and the internet

Millions of people like to chat on the internet, and meet new people. You can read more in this section about how to deal with online flirting and dating.

Online flirting tips

You usually flirt online with people of your own age, whom you already know, perhaps through school, work, holiday or mutual friends. But what do you do if you get to know someone on the internet?

How to date

If the person you are interested in responds positively to your cues, it might be a good idea to ask them out on a date. You don't have to be a man to ask someone out, women can do it too, so don't be shy.

What is love?

Love is a strong and pleasant emotion you feel towards someone. Loving someone isn’t the same as being in love with them.

Saying no

Don’t do anything you don’t want to. Dare to say ‘no’ or ‘stop’ so the other person knows you don’t want it. It’s pretty common that during lovemaking you find out there’s something you don’t like. If it happens, stop and talk about it.

Expressing emotions

No matter who you are, it can be hard talking about your feelings. However learning to open up with your partner can be both rewarding and therapeutic. Here are a few practical tips for discovering and sharing your emotions:

How to talk to your partner

Every relationship has its ups-and-downs, especially when you spend a lot of time with each other. Certain things will make you angry or upset which, in turn, can lead to an argument. It’s just a normal part of any relationship.

Types of relationships

We have different expectations from our relationships. There's no one formula that suits everyone. What makes some of us happy could make others unhappy. So we manage relationships in our own ways and based on that, there are different kinds of relationships.

Being in a relationship

A relationship can mean different things to different people. Some want to spend a lot of time doing things together with their partners, some want to share their living space, others want to be married to their loved ones, while some others find it comfortable to maintain a relationship over long distance.

Jealousy and Other Problems

Love stories don’t always have a happy ending. It’s safe to say that every relationship has its own set of problems. They can be caused by a lot of different issues. Let’s have a closer look at what could cause trouble in your relationship.

Fights in a relationship

Almost every couple has fights at some point. While rows are normal in a relationship, they should be paid attention to. Often they are symptoms of brewing discontent within a relationship. If resolved at the right time they can foster togetherness. If brushed under the carpet, they might end up being stressful and harm your relationship.

Cheating

Cheating means breaking rules you have agreed on in a committed relationship. Usually cheating refers to sexual infidelity or adultery. If you are making out or having sex with someone outside of your committed relationship, it means you’re cheating on your partner.

Knowing when to break up

Do you feel like you’ve given it all you’ve got to your relationship? Does your relationship make you tired? Or have you just grown apart? Do you see no light at the end of the tunnel? Well, then it’s probably time to consider ending your relationship.

Being friends with your ex

After you’ve ended your relationship, one big looming question is whether you can remain friends with your ex. There’s no clear answer to that question. It depends on you, your ex and how the relationship ended. What worked for your best friend might not work for you so don’t look at people around you for references. Trust your instincts.

Recovering from a break-up

Healing from the wounds of a broken relationship is difficult. If you’ve been in a long term relationship or been living with your partner, it could mean a change in your lifestyle. You may feel differently depending on whether you’ve been ‘dumped’ or you did the dumping. People who have been through both say that being dumped is much worse – not surprisingly. It’s a blow to your self-esteem. In either case though, it’s not easy.

How to break up

If you’re the one wanting to break up with your partner, it can be tough having to deliver the message. Don’t we all wish we’d never have to speak those harsh words? But when your relationship has sunk to unhealthy depths, there might be no option left but to call it quits. Here are some tips to help you:

What is Sexual Harassment

Sexual harassment can be all sorts of things. A man who rubs up against you on the bus. A woman who shows a sexual photo of you to everyone. A partner who doesn’t listen when you say you don’t want to have sex.

Abusive relationships

Abuse can be of various kinds – physical, emotional, financial or sexual. In an abusive relationship, there is a lack of respect, trust and consideration. Abusive relationships can be hard to recognise. Sometimes people stay in abusive relationships for years without realising they are trapped in one.