You are not alone! Many women feel like their lives resemble Richa’s from Mrs., and their husbands or partners seem similar to Divakar. But the real issue is- why do such stories remain limited to films? Every few months, a movie or an incident reminds us that women’s lives need to change but then, everyone goes back to their old habits.
Movies like Mrs. reflect real life, but if we only get emotional after watching them and don’t change anything in reality, what’s the point? Equality in relationships doesn’t come on its own- you have to bring it! Until women stand up for their rights, change will only be visible on screens, not in real life.
Some Habits Must Change!
The problem isn’t just that husbands like Divakar exist. The problem is that they are raised in a way that they don’t even realize their responsibilities.
- They expect a glass of water as soon as they come home.
- It never crosses their mind to pick up their own plate after eating.
- Their clothes should magically appear on the bed, neatly arranged.
- If they cook once a week, they act as if they’ve done a huge favor!
Now, if husbands or partners could change overnight, why would so many films be made about this issue? But small changes can be initiated, such as:
- Ask him to pick up his plate after meals.
- Don’t compromise on your hobbies. If you love dancing, just do it!
- Tell him to iron and organize his own clothes.
- Take a day off every week and ask him to cook.
- Spend time together in the kitchen. It will strengthen your bond and make responsibilities more equal.
- Talk openly about your sex life because you’re not a machine, you have desires too!
Change Doesn’t Happen in a Day!
The biggest mistake we make is losing our identity in the race to be a "good wife" or a "good partner." If we establish our place from the beginning, the other person will learn to change too. Just like my daughter did...
That’s a story for another time, but remember this—
"Your time won’t just come; you have to bring it yourself!"
Now, it’s your decision, Soumya! Do you want to cry after watching a movie, or do you want to change your story?
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