Fights in a relationship
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Fights in a relationship

Almost every couple has fights at some point. While rows are normal in a relationship, they should be paid attention to. Often they are symptoms of brewing discontent within a relationship. If resolved at the right time they can foster togetherness. If brushed under the carpet, they might end up being stressful and harm your relationship.

We all have our own motives while fighting. Sometimes we want to have our say in the way the relationship works, sometimes we want to prove that we’re right, sometimes we want to show that they are wrong. Whatever the motives are – it’s good to know what your reasons are for picking a fight.

You could apply some rules to your arguments. Fights often get ugly when both of you raise your voices, swear at each other or get physical. To avoid these situations, always treat the other person the way you would like to be treated yourself. Find out more in our Fighting: Do’s and Don’ts.

If you and your partner are fighting over the same issue again and again, there might be a long standing, unresolved dispute. There are different ways of approaching such a stalemate. You can step back and look at the fights from a distance – go beyond the petty issues and find out what actually is causing discontent. What kind of disagreements are negotiable and which ones aren’t. If you feel outside help would benefit your relationship, maybe you could go to a counsellor specialised in relationship conflicts.

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Hmmm! Par Soni beta aisa doubt kyun aata rehta hai aapko? kya aisa kuch hua hai kabhi? Dekho beta kisi bhi rishte mein ek cheez toh behad zaruri hai woh hai vishwash TRUST yadi yeh hi nahi toh koi rishta nahi chal payega beta! ab yadi mann mein koi doubt hai toh bohot pyar se is bare mein apnay partner se baat karo.Aur in baton se dhyan hatiey aur apney rishtey ko aur majbut banaiey.
Hmmm! Lekin kya aapke dost ne kabhi unse iss bare mein khul kar baat ki kee aisa ho kyun rahihn hai? kya woh koi aisi activity kar rahe hain jo ki unhe pasand nahi aa rahi hai? Sabse zaroori hoga ki woh unse pyar aur vishawas ke saath iski vajeh poochein, bina jhagda, bina aalochna. Tab hee aap anumaan laga saktey hain, hain na? Yeh bhi yaad rakhiye, ki sex mein HAAN karna ya NAA, yeh bhi unka haq hai, unka nirnay… so yadi who Na kartee hain, so ek baat to tay hi ki koi bhi zor ya zabardasti bilkul allow nahin ha, samjhe beta jee?! Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
mam mere relatnship me mjhe hmesha doubt rhta h ki mere bf ka affair kisi aur k saath h but directly puch niii skti kaise pta karu plz give sm ideas
Mam,I m just 2 Yr Old Married , and Have a baby of 1 Yr Old. Mam meri Wife ki Meri iss Baat Pe Ladayi Hoti Hai Ki Vo Galti Krti Hai, par Uss Galti Ko Kbhi Accept Ni Krti...Bas Behas Behas Krti Rehti Hai..aur Mjhe Iss Baat se Hadd se Jyada Irritation Hoti Hai... Vo Apni Family ko Priority Deti Hai...Mjhe Bhi Jyada...Jb Main Hadd se Jyada Pyar Krta Hun...toh Why Her Family is more Priority than Me atlast Life toh Mere Sath Gujarni Hai... And Meri Family Ke Baarein Mein Toh sbse Last Mein Sochti Hai...Isliye Vo apne Sasural Means Mere Ghr mein Bhi Buri Toh Bann He chuki Hai... Ab Main 10 Din se Usey Baat Ni Kr rha...aur Uska Attitude itna Hai Ki vo Bhi agge Forward Ni aa rhi... But I Miss Her Badly and Want to Resolve this issue.. What can I Do...
You miss her - kya aapko unka saath abhi bhi pasand hai? Aap dono ke beech abhi bhi kuch achcha hai? Lekin Beta - yeh taur tareeke to itne aasan nahin hain - aage ki life bitane ke liye - kuch na kuch to unki taraf se bhi aana chahiye na? So woh to aa nahin raha!! So yeh baat behtar kasie hogi? Aap unse baat nahin kar rahe aur veh bhi nahin - theek. SO - is baar thoda dekhiye - ki kya hota hai - and then - yadi phir bhi veh aage nahin aati - then aap aage badhiye - aur maamla resolve keejiye - ki kya veh is tarah ki life jeena chahtee hai kya? Ki unhe aapki yad nahin aa rahee - veh aapko miss nahin kar rahee? Keh nahin saktey bete aise time pe - veh aapko kis tareh se pesh aati hain... Phir likhiye beta ki aap kya chahtey hain - unki taraf se koi badlaav na bhi to to? Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mukesh kushwaha
Sun, 03/03/2019 - 02:42
Mam meri girl frnd pata nhi kyu 1 mahine se kisi baat pa chid ke bethi hui ha na dang se baat karti ha bilkuk mujha ignore kar rhi ha
Mukesh bete is baat ko toh aap dono hee sudhaar saktey hain.. baat cheet kar ke, charcha kar ke. All the best. https://lovematters.in/en/news/shes-avoiding-me-now-what Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ma'am i am in a relationship from past 2 years 5 months, hmari fyt kabhi kabhi bilkuk ni hoti kabhi kbhi week mein daily hoti hai. Or reason jyada bade nhi hote. Kabhi mujhe choti choti bato mein gussa ajata hai to kbhi wo gusse mein kuch wrong wrds ka use mr deta hai jisse jayda fyt hoti hai. He says ki usko relationship mein bilkul bhi fyt ni chahiye i say ki it cant be possible cz v are humans. 2- now he dont express his love. I give him surprise n all js to see him smiling and sometimes i also want the same but not with materials or gift jus like he appear somewhere without letting me know. But he is like i ll do when i want. If i ask him do u luv me he says u shud know...i also want him to speak. When we fyt at night earlier i use to cry a lot and he sleeps now i also sleeps and next day i almost take initiative to tok.. Y not him. Please suggest
There is no relationship - jisme fights na hon. so he must realize BUT this is also an indication that he is not very happy in this relationship and seems nor are you. You are fighting and crying and sleeping - how is that any good? So maybe either you both take a break for a few months - or - change your ways - Both of you! Beta - a rishta is supposed to be happy - not so sad and full of jhagda. https://lovematters.in/en/love-and-relationships/relationship-problems/what-do-lovers-really-want-when-they-fight Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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