Why People Cheat in Relationships
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Cheating

Cheating means breaking rules you have agreed on in a committed relationship. Usually cheating refers to sexual infidelity or adultery. If you are making out or having sex with someone outside of your committed relationship, it means you’re cheating on your partner.

Cheating doesn’t always have to be sexual. Sometimes cheating is on an emotional level. When someone shares intimate thoughts with a person who’s not his or her partner, it’s called emotional cheating.

 

Cheating of any form can cause a lot of sorrow in relationships and can even lead to a break-up or divorce. Find out more about cheating in our Cheating: top five facts.

Why do people cheat?

There are many reasons why people cheat on their partners. You might cheat if you don’t love your partner any more, if sex isn’t satisfying, if your partner has cheated on you in the past, if you feel neglected or under-appreciated, or if you feel the urge to settle previous scores.

Lying to your partner about your affairs can be a stop-gap arrangement but it’s very likely that sooner or later your partner will discover the truth. If you feel guilty about having cheated and want to continue having a strong relationship with your partner, confession might be an option. You could also keep quiet about what happened and stay committed to your relationship. The lack of honesty could put a strain on your relationship though.

On the other hand if you have cheated and want to end it with your partner, again there are two options – to confess about your behaviour and say goodbye or to hide your infidelity and say you want to break up for other reasons.

Is your partner cheating on you?

If you know your partner well and have had a close, long term relationship, you can often tell when something’s not right. You might notice that they’ve begun spending a lot more time at work, they have less time for you and your family, start taking calls in private and seem less committed to doing things with you. They have begun lying, paying attention to their looks, appear confused and detached. When you ask them if there’s something wrong, they shrug off your question.

 

Finding out that your partner’s been cheating on you can be a traumatic experience. It could breach all trust between the two of you and could even lead to a break-up, separation or divorce. You might spend days, weeks and months wondering what you did to be at the receiving end of this behaviour. Give yourself the benefit of doubt and take some time to calm down and think with your head over your shoulders.

Whether you want to continue the relationship depends on a number of factors. Is your partner willing to go on? If they are, what will it take for them to regain your trust? Will your trust in them ever be restored? What are the ways to rebuild your relationship? You may decide what the right path for you is after you’ve given these questions enough thought.

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Hmmm. Beta, actually chahe sach ho ya jhooth, jab kisi ka saath chootta hai toh bahut hee takleef hoti hai, nisandeh. Ab kadva sach yeh hai ki veh aage nikal chuke hain, ab tumhe sochna hai ki yahan hee ruki rahogee yeh sochte hua ki yeh kya hua, kyun hua, ya apnne aap ko sambhaal kea age badne ki koshish mein jut jaaogee. Main manatee hoon, kehna aasan hai, karna mushkil. Phir bhi chahe office mein, ya ghar ke kaam mein ya koi exercise mein apna time do aura age badho. Tume toh sachcha pyaar keeya na? Toh bas, isme toh bahut garima hai, so ab aage badho aur apne aap se kaho, Well Done!!
We are in relationship and we are decided for marriage but I am broked her trust . and she is always thinking that I will break her trust. She is not trust upon me . Then how to solve this problem from which differences are finished and how can believe to her that I will not break her trust again.
Has this happened in the past - then for her to now really trust you - may be very difficult. Tell her your feelings, apologies and give her some time - lets see what happens. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask”https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hmmm! bete is bare mein aap khud hi apni help kariye zara yadi aap kisi ki taraf akarshit hai aur unse pyar ka izhaar karna chahatay hain toh puray salike-tarike se untak apni baat rakhiye. Lekin yaad rahe ki khud ko mentally unki NAA ya HAAN ke liye tayyar rakhiye.All the best.
uski shaadi hori h per hm dono ek dusre se pyar krte h uski majboori usse shaadi krna hum dono shaadi k bd bhi relation rkhna chahte mai bht pyar krti h kya ye sahi h kya
Pinky bete ab kya sthiti hai? Unki shadi ho rahi hai! Kya aapko lagta hai ki is rishte ka koi bhavishya hai? Wo aapke saath saath bhee aur apne husband ke saath bhee. Kya aapko ye thik lagata hai? Please har tarah se vichaar kijiye aur ek sahi nirnay lijiye. Theek hai bête! Ise bhee pdhiye: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/love-and-relationships Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
I am confused......am ina relationship...and i think that he is cheating.....cause am continuously watching his activity......he always ask me whether if u want to be with me or not.....cause m sharabi hu..m juwari hu....awaaara hu...nd not that......he always ask me for sex aur m usse mna kr deti hu...aur wo mje khi ghumane b ni leke jata....aur ek br mne usse paise diye the ....to jb mne usse wps mange to bolta h sex krne degi to dunga....ni to ni h mere pass paise.....aur jbki m usko hr cheez puri kr deti hu....jb bi wo kehta h.....but am confused that.....wo akhir mjse kese keh skta h ese....ki sex krne degi mje 2 ghnte ke liye....to tbi duga tere paise wps.....i think mne glti krdi....aap btao kya kru m.....kya krna chahiye mje ese m.....and am 20 year old
Ek minit Ananya Puttar, aapne sex se mana kar deeya aur usne paise dene se mana kar diya – lo!! Ye kya baat hui? Aur jo bhee wo kar rahe hain – yeh kaun sa pyaar hai beta? Kya aapko lagta hai ki is rishte ka koi bhavishya hai? Kya aapko ye thik lagata hai? Please har tarah se vichaar kijiye aur ek sahi nirnay lijiye. Theek hai bête! Ise bhee pdhiye: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/love-and-relationships Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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