Talk and listen
Be sensitive to your partner and think about what they want. Learn from each other. You can also say, ‘let’s try something new’. Or you can ask, ‘what would you like?’
Put things carefully
Think carefully about the way you say things to your partner – don’t hurt their feelings.
Choose the right place
If you want to talk about sex, choose a quiet place where nobody else is around.
Know what you want
Think about what you really want and don’t want. Don’t just have sex because of what other people might think of you, or because you think it makes you look cool. Only do it because you really want to.
Be aware of exactly what messages your partner is sending
You can tell if your partner wants sex or not – from the sounds they make, from the way they guide your hands, from the look in their eyes, from the way they touch you.
Sometimes it's not so clear
‘Maybe’ usually means ‘no’.