Dare to say what you want, even if you find it embarrassing or difficult. Take the initiative and just do it. It will build up the trust between you and bring you closer.
Pick your moment
Make sure you don’t leave it too late to talk. It’s better before you start making love than when you’ve already started.
Know what you want
Know your limits, and think about what you actually want yourself.
Be clear but not blunt
Be clear and think ahead. Imagine if your partner suggests you watch a film together. Think ahead and say you only want to watch the film and not go up to your room. Don’t put it too bluntly though, because you could hurt their feelings.
Tell them your limits and what you want
Tell your partner if you really like what’s happening. Get cross if you really don’t like it.
Be aware of messages you're sending
Your body language is important – what message are you giving your partner? You can use a hand to push someone away, but you can also use it to show someone what you want. Decide consciously whether to respond to signals from your partner.