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Making love FAQs

Want to know more about making love or having sex? Here are answers to some frequently asked questions on the issue.

I always have safe sex but now I’ve got a sexually transmitted disease! How is it possible?

By safe sex people usually mean using a condom when you have intercourse and making sure you don’t get semen or menstrual blood in your mouth. You are then protected against HIV, the virus which causes AIDS, and you will also prevent infections such as Chlamydia and gonorrhoea.

However, viruses and bacteria that cause sexually transmitted diseases can also be passed on in other ways. For example by masturbating each other or by the genitals just touching without having intercourse. Even if you always use a condom, there’s still a small risk of catching a sexually transmitted disease.

Read more on the risks of different kinds of sexual activity in Safe or unsafe?

What is a 'dental dam' and where can I get them?

A dental dam, or vaginal dam, is just a square piece of latex which you can lay over the vagina when you perform oral sex on a woman. They are called dental dams because they were first designed to be used during dental treatment, rather than for sex!

You can order real dental dams on the internet. However, it's easier just to make one using a condom, by cutting it open lengthways to make a rectangle. An even cheaper option is to use plastic wrap (cling wrap or cling film). Make sure it’s the type that doesn’t have little holes in.

Particularly when a woman has her period, you can use a dental dam to stop blood from getting in your mouth. You can also use it for oral sex involving the anus.

I had unsafe sex, but I urinated and washed my penis right away. Am I safe?

No, urinating and washing your genitals doesn’t reduce the risk you’ve run by having unprotected sex. If your partner has a sexually transmitted disease, you might have caught it. You should go to a doctor or clinic and have a check-up. And next time, use a condom.

My boyfriend wants to use the ‘withdrawal method’ of contraception. Is this safe sex?

No, it isn’t safe. Although the semen doesn’t get in your vagina, the pre-ejaculate does. You risk catching or passing on a sexually transmitted disease, or getting pregnant.

  • Sexually transmitted diseases

The pre-ejaculate (the clear liquid that comes out of the penis before the boy comes) can carry HIV (the virus which causes AIDS) or another sexually transmitted disease such as Chlamydia, gonorrhoea, genital herpes, genital warts, syphilis or trichomoniasis. If you’re on the pill, it will stop you getting pregnant but it won’t protect you from getting sexually transmitted diseases.

  • Pregnancy

Withdrawal (also known as coitus interruptus) is not a very effective method of contraception. There may be sperm cells in the pre-ejaculate. More importantly, it’s easy for the man to get the timing wrong and pull out too late.

Does intercourse hurt the first time?

It doesn’t have to. If the woman is relaxed and aroused, it doesn’t hurt. If you’re very tense the vagina can stay dry or tense up. This makes it more likely that the hymen will tear and intercourse will be painful. You’re often nervous the first time, so it can easily happen. But if you both take your time, it doesn’t hurt.

What is a virgin?

A virgin is a woman or man who has never had intercourse. So the first time you do it, people say you ‘lose your virginity’. Make sure your partner knows it’s your first time, so you can take your time, and build up slowly and gently.

You can read more in the section on the hymen and virginity.

Why do I come so quickly?

Sex is very exciting, certainly the first time! Many men reach orgasm more quickly than they would like to. Don’t worry about it. When you’re more experienced and you’re more relaxed, you learn to hold back your orgasm. If you feel embarrassed, try to make light of it. Say something like, ‘Well, you really do turn me on!’ If you can laugh about it together, it won’t be such a problem.

Why don’t I have an orgasm?

Women don’t usually have orgasms during intercourse. The clitoris isn’t stimulated by the penis just going in and out of the vagina. If you want to have an orgasm, touch your clitoris yourself, or have your partner touch it. Of course, during intercourse isn’t the only time for you to have an orgasm. Your partner can also stimulate your clitoris so you have an orgasm before or after intercourse.

Can a girl get pregnant the first time?

Yes! The first time a woman has intercourse with a man she can get pregnant. Even if she’s never had a period. So always use a condom.

How do you make the first time a good experience?

See Ten tips for the first time. It’s also good if you know your own body. Have you ever masturbated? If you have, you’ll know how you like to be touched and what you find arousing. Tell your partner, and explore together what else turns you on.

 

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Beta , aap sahi kiss nazar se keh rahee hain? Ki kya yeh koi beemari karta hai, so nahin. Lekin kya yeh aapko sahi lagta hai, sawaal yeh hai, yadi nahin toh mana kar deejiye aur unhe samjha deejiye ki aapko yeh theek nahin lag raha. Saath hee saath yeh bhi ho sakta hai ki yadi mooh mei choot bhi jaye toh aap turant use baahr thook dein, andear lene ki koi zaroorat nahin. Mukh maithun ka eke hen pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. All the best beta. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
Thakan ko kamzori ka naam mat do bete! Aur Sex se koi nuksaan nahi jab tak ki wo safe sex hai, yaani poori samjhdaari dono logo ki sehmati aur safety ke sath kiya gaya sex ho. Aur waise bhee ek baar sex ke baad dubara tyyar hone mein jo smaye lagta hai woh bilkul samanya hai. Rahi baat durd ki toh yeh Ho sakta hai unhe koi darr ho ya doubt, yeh bhi ki who pregnancy se darti hon ya society se? Jo bhi ho shayed who abhi tayyar nahin, pehele yeh sab baatein clear karo aur phir sex ki planning. Sirf ek person ready hai aur doosre nahin, so phir toh koi maza nahin na? Aap samjh rahe hain na mera matlab? isliye make sure ki apki partner in sab cheezon ke liye tayyar hui hain. zara yeh padhiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed
Beta jaldi hone se koi baat nahin, dont worry. So sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik hee hogee. aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani bête ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge mein help karta hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
Bete Virat ling ka size bada karnay ka koi bhi tarika mojjud nahi hai. Ling ke size ki sahi jaankari yaha se hasil karo aap : http://lovematters.in/en/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes Aur Please size par mat jao, apna andaaz achcha karo- unke saath timing bitho theek hai.All the best.
Yeh toh bahut hee common baat hai. Sex ki bhavna yadi adhik ho to yeh hona bahut hee common hai. Haan yeh toh zaroor hai ki yadi app HAR mahila ya ladki se koi bhi baat karety waqt uttejit ho jaaatey hain so shayad aapka nazariya mahiloun ke prti bahut ek arfaa hai… isme toh sudhaar laana hee chahiye. Har mahila sex ki vastu bilkul nahi!Apne aas paas ki mahilaon ko respect dijiye jese aap apne ghar ki mahilaon ko dete hain.
Bete ismein samsya wali koi baat nahi baki yeh toh bohot hee common baat hai. Lekin yadi aap is baat se pareshan hain ki isse pregnancy mein koi dikkat hogi toh suniye pregnancy ke liye toh ek shukranu bhee bohot kaafi hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Yes yoni bahut choti hoti hai aur lacheele bhi. So Jald baazi mat keejiye, phele finger se try keejiye, koi lubrication use keejye… Lekin apki partner ko bahut hee relaxed rehana hai aur apko bhi is dauran bahut hee support karna hai. Poora ling ek hee baar andar jaaye yeh bilkul zaroori nahin, aur na hee iski rai dee jaati hai. iske barre mein yeh padhiye http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Yadi sex dono pyaar ke saathiyoun ke beech ho, surakshit yaani bina koi zore zabardasti ke ho, so bahut hee achcha.
बेटे विशाल सुनो! आप कुछ मत कीजिए और सही सम्माए आने का इंतज़ार कीजिए जब वो खुद सहमति दिखाए सेक्स के लिए.क्यूंकी किसी भी रिश्ते मे ज़बरदस्ती acceptable नही है . इन बातों से ध्यान हटिए और अपने रिश्ते को और मजबूत बनाइए. http://lovematters.in/en/news/how-can-i-convince-her-have-sex
हम्म्म्म! देखो बेटे बिना कंडोम के सेक्स करना बिलकुल भी safe idea नहीं है! और जिस तरह आप बता रहे हैं उस तरह तो बिलकुल भी नहीं ! इससे कई यौनसंचारित रोग होने का खतरा हो सकता है. ज़रा आप यह पढो: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/en/resource/stds
Bete isse Anal sex ya guda methun kehte hain.Yadi dono partners ki poori sehmati hai issey karney may to kar saktay hai lekin wo part bohot dry hota hai jiksey liey koi chiknai Jaise KY jelly ka istemal kiya ja sakta hai ya chikanai yukt condom bhi use kar saktay hai, yadi condom ka istemal kiya jaey to koi side effect nahi hai. LEKIN, yeh jaan leejiye ki Har koi hark ism ke sex ke liye tayyar nahin ho jaate – isme unki marzee honi chhaiye. Yadi unhe yeh pasand nahin toh iska matlab hai ,NAHIN. Samjh Gaye? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex
Relax bete yoni bahut choti hoti hai aur lacheele bhi. So Jald baazi mat keejiye, phele finger se try keejiye, koi lubrication use keejye… Lekin apko bahut hee relaxed rehana hai aur apko bhi is dauran bahut hee support karna hai. Poora ling ek hee baar andar jaaye yeh bilkul zaroori nahin, aur na hee iski rai dee jaati hai. iske barre mein yeh padhiye http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Yadi sex dono pyaar ke saathiyoun ke beech ho, surakshit yaani bina koi zore zabardasti ke ho, so bahut hee achcha. please bilkul relaxed raho. Koi jaldi nahin hai bilkul… just relax and take it slow. Apne partner ko bhi yeh salaah deejiye, Slow down. Yeh link padh leejiye : http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love
Jee nahi anal sex se pregnancy ke chances na ke barabr hain phir bhee condom use karein, for sure. isse safety bhi rahegee, safai bhi aur sex mein aasaani bhi. All the best http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex.
Dekho bête yeh keh pana Ki kaun kab aur kiss din garb dharan kar leyga ya falana din mein koi garbh dharn kar leta hai zara mushkil hai kyunki yeh Har kisi ke liye alag hai. is baaray mein aur jyada detail mein yah padhiye saath hi jaldi pregnancy ke tips bhi yaha padh lijiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/tips http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/pregnancy
बेटे नेहा सेक्स से कोई नुकसान नहीं जब तक की वह safe है यानी की पूरी समझदारी और दोनों लोगो की सहमति से किया गया सेक्स हो.http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex यदि इस मुद्दे पर आप और गहरी चर्चा में जुड़ना चाहते हैं, तोह हमारे डिस्कशन बोर्ड, " जस्ट पूछो" में ज़रूर शामिल हों. https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Oral sex karnay mein koi samsya nahi maslan saaf-safai ka poora dhyan rakha gaya ho aur ismay dono partners ki barab marzi shamil! aur behtar hoga yadi condom ka isteml kiya jaey. Ab baat aati hai ki kya isse pregnancy ho sakti hai? toh nahi isse pregnancy nahi hoti lekin Kyunki Mukh maithun ka sabse ehem pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. All the best beta. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
Relax bete! Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Bilkul nahi bete! sex ke duran youni se chikna paani niklana bahut hi samany hai. Just relax. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Dekhiye Yadi dono partners ki poori sehmati hai issey karney may to kar saktay hai lekin wo part bohot dry hota hai jiksey liey koi chiknai Jaise KY jelly ka istemal kiya ja sakta hai ya chikanai yukt condom bhi use kar saktay hai, yadi condom ka istemal kiya jaey to koi side effect nahi hai. LEKIN, yeh jaan leejiye ki Har koi hark ism ke sex ke liye tayyar nahin ho jaate – isme unki marzee honi chhaiye. Yadi unhe yeh pasand nahin toh iska matlab hai ,NAHIN. Samjh Gaye? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex
Ummmm! Toh aap kuch mat kijiey aur sahi sammaey aaney ka intzaar kijiey jab wo khud sehmati dikhaey sex ke liey.Kyunki kisi bhi rishtey mey jabardasti acceptable nahi hai . in baton se dhyan hatiey aur apney rishtey ko aur majbut banaiey. http://lovematters.in/en/news/how-can-i-convince-her-have-sex
Period ke DAURAAN? Tab toh pregnant hone ka chance na ke barabr hai beta.Phir bhi kisi bhi risk ya sankramn se bachne ke liye condom ka isteaml anivarya hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-period https://lovematters.in/hi/news/sex-during-my-period-do-i-need-contraception
Hmmm! Okay dekhiye khade hokar sex karna is quite common yeh toh ek sex karne ke tarikon mein se ek hai. Aur oral sex karnay mein koi samsya nahi maslan saaf-safai ka poora dhyan rakha gaya ho aur ismay dono partners ki barab marzi shamil ho toh! aur behtar hoga yadi condom ka isteml kiya jaey aur yaha padh lijiey : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
Bete Skumar bilkul nahi koi kamzori nahi, thakaan ko kamzori na samjho bête!! it’s quite common, Bus swasth raho aur yaad rakho ki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti . yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies… ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Jee nahi! Kyunki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Bilkul nahi! Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Ummm! Yeh padh lijiye isse apko madd mil jayegi: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/testicles-and-more Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating Ling ke size ki sahi jaankari yahan se hasil karo aap http://lovematters.in/en/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes
Rajesh jee! Yadi jis viykati ke saath aap unsafe sex kar rahe hain use HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai. Duniya bhar mein sabse adhik HIV casess, sex ke zariye hue hain.Lekin HIV aur bhi kai asurakshit karano se hota hai.So! Zara detail mein yeh niche diya hua link padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Isse oral sex kehte hain. Jisse karnay mein koi samsya nahi maslan saaf-safai ka poora dhyan rakha gaya ho aur ismay dono partners ki barab marzi shamil ho toh! aur behtar hoga yadi condom ka isteml kiya jaey aur yaha padh lijiey : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
Suniye zara sex se koi nuksaan nahi jab tak ki wo safe sex hai, yaani poori samjhdaari dono logo ki sehmati aur safety ke sath kiya gaya sex ho. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Saath hee yeh bhee padh lijiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love
Hmmm! beta jaldi hone se koi baat nahin, dont worry. So sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik hee hogee. aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani bête ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge mein help karta hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
Suniye yadi yeh unsafe sex hai toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chanes ho skate hain. Yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Ummm! Is umar mein aisa hona samnya hai lekin apko khud sochna chahiey ki yadi aap sara samay in bataon may nikal dengay to zindgi kay baki kaam kese karegney, dosto se miliey, apni Hobbies par dhyan dijiey, exercise kijiey. Aur swasth sochiey. Saath hee yadi app HAR mahila ya ladki se koi bhi baat karety waqt uttejit ho jaaatey hain so shayad aapka nazariya mahiloun ke prti bahut ek arfaa hai… isme toh sudhaar laana hee chahiye. Har mahila sex ki vastu bilkul nahi!Apne aas paas ki mahilaon ko respect dijiye jese aap apne ghar ki mahilaon ko dete hain.
Ummm! is duran condom ka istemal anivarya hai taaki kisi bhi sankarman se bachha ja sake. Yeh bhi padh lijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-period https://lovematters.in/hi/news/sex-during-my-period-do-i-need-contraception Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Dekhiye bete bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhee nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Saath hee Sex se koi nuksaan nahi jab tak ki wo safe sex hai, yaani poori samjhdaari dono logo ki sehmati aur safety ke sath kiya gaya sex ho. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Aur Pehli baar sex kartaye samaye kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaye is bare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijieye : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Saath hi sex activity mein alag-alag tariko ka istemal kartay huay isse kese aur majjaydaar banana hai is baaray mein yaha padhein: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love Lekin haan yaad rakhiye Yadi woh phri bhee unki taraf se NAA hai toh.Please thoda aur samye lijiye.
Beta! Yadi jis viykati ke saath aap unsafe sex kar rahe hain use HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai. Duniya bhar mein sabse adhik HIV casess, sex ke zariye hue hain.Lekin HIV aur bhi kai asurakshit karano se hota hai.So! Zara detail mein yeh niche diya hua link padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv
Hmmm! suniye yadi jis viykati ke saath aap unsafe sex kar rahe hain use HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai. Duniya bhar mein sabse adhik HIV casess, sex ke zariye hue hain.Lekin HIV aur bhi kai asurakshit karano se hota hai.So! Zara detail mein yeh niche diya hua link padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv
Hmmm! Maaf kijiye bete par hamein nahi pata ki woh kya ho sakta hai. Lekin jo bhee iske liye aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi . Iske illava ,Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mililye. All the best http://www.fpaindia.org/
Iska matlab yahi hai bete yadi shareer meni uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh aisa hona samanya hai. So its quite okay. Just relaxed http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed
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