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Making love FAQs

Want to know more about making love or having sex? Here are answers to some frequently asked questions on the issue.

I always have safe sex but now I’ve got a sexually transmitted disease! How is it possible?

By safe sex people usually mean using a condom when you have intercourse and making sure you don’t get semen or menstrual blood in your mouth. You are then protected against HIV, the virus which causes AIDS, and you will also prevent infections such as Chlamydia and gonorrhoea.

However, viruses and bacteria that cause sexually transmitted diseases can also be passed on in other ways. For example by masturbating each other or by the genitals just touching without having intercourse. Even if you always use a condom, there’s still a small risk of catching a sexually transmitted disease.

Read more on the risks of different kinds of sexual activity in Safe or unsafe?

What is a 'dental dam' and where can I get them?

A dental dam, or vaginal dam, is just a square piece of latex which you can lay over the vagina when you perform oral sex on a woman. They are called dental dams because they were first designed to be used during dental treatment, rather than for sex!

You can order real dental dams on the internet. However, it's easier just to make one using a condom, by cutting it open lengthways to make a rectangle. An even cheaper option is to use plastic wrap (cling wrap or cling film). Make sure it’s the type that doesn’t have little holes in.

Particularly when a woman has her period, you can use a dental dam to stop blood from getting in your mouth. You can also use it for oral sex involving the anus.

I had unsafe sex, but I urinated and washed my penis right away. Am I safe?

No, urinating and washing your genitals doesn’t reduce the risk you’ve run by having unprotected sex. If your partner has a sexually transmitted disease, you might have caught it. You should go to a doctor or clinic and have a check-up. And next time, use a condom.

My boyfriend wants to use the ‘withdrawal method’ of contraception. Is this safe sex?

No, it isn’t safe. Although the semen doesn’t get in your vagina, the pre-ejaculate does. You risk catching or passing on a sexually transmitted disease, or getting pregnant.

  • Sexually transmitted diseases

The pre-ejaculate (the clear liquid that comes out of the penis before the boy comes) can carry HIV (the virus which causes AIDS) or another sexually transmitted disease such as Chlamydia, gonorrhoea, genital herpes, genital warts, syphilis or trichomoniasis. If you’re on the pill, it will stop you getting pregnant but it won’t protect you from getting sexually transmitted diseases.

  • Pregnancy

Withdrawal (also known as coitus interruptus) is not a very effective method of contraception. There may be sperm cells in the pre-ejaculate. More importantly, it’s easy for the man to get the timing wrong and pull out too late.

Does intercourse hurt the first time?

It doesn’t have to. If the woman is relaxed and aroused, it doesn’t hurt. If you’re very tense the vagina can stay dry or tense up. This makes it more likely that the hymen will tear and intercourse will be painful. You’re often nervous the first time, so it can easily happen. But if you both take your time, it doesn’t hurt.

What is a virgin?

A virgin is a woman or man who has never had intercourse. So the first time you do it, people say you ‘lose your virginity’. Make sure your partner knows it’s your first time, so you can take your time, and build up slowly and gently.

You can read more in the section on the hymen and virginity.

Why do I come so quickly?

Sex is very exciting, certainly the first time! Many men reach orgasm more quickly than they would like to. Don’t worry about it. When you’re more experienced and you’re more relaxed, you learn to hold back your orgasm. If you feel embarrassed, try to make light of it. Say something like, ‘Well, you really do turn me on!’ If you can laugh about it together, it won’t be such a problem.

Why don’t I have an orgasm?

Women don’t usually have orgasms during intercourse. The clitoris isn’t stimulated by the penis just going in and out of the vagina. If you want to have an orgasm, touch your clitoris yourself, or have your partner touch it. Of course, during intercourse isn’t the only time for you to have an orgasm. Your partner can also stimulate your clitoris so you have an orgasm before or after intercourse.

Can a girl get pregnant the first time?

Yes! The first time a woman has intercourse with a man she can get pregnant. Even if she’s never had a period. So always use a condom.

How do you make the first time a good experience?

See Ten tips for the first time. It’s also good if you know your own body. Have you ever masturbated? If you have, you’ll know how you like to be touched and what you find arousing. Tell your partner, and explore together what else turns you on.

 

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Hmmm! Maaf kijiye bete par hamein nahi pata ki woh kya ho sakta hai. Lekin jo bhee iske liye aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi . Iske illava ,Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mililye. All the best http://www.fpaindia.org/
Iska matlab yahi hai bete yadi shareer meni uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh aisa hona samanya hai. So its quite okay. Just relaxed http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed
Durd hone ka ek sabse mehtvpuran karan yeh ho skata hai ki apki partner sex ke liye theek tarah se tyyar hi nahi hui hon. Ya ho sakta hai unhe koi darr ho ya doubt, yeh bhi ki who pregnancy se darti hon ya society se? Bete yeh baat bohot achhe se samjh lo aap ki sex karnye ke lieye dono hi partners ko tanavmukat hona bohot hi zaruri hai! Aur dono ka tyyar hona mentally, physically, emotionally bhi bohot zarurui hai. isliye make sure ki apki partner in sab cheezon ke liye tayyar hui hain. zara yeh padhiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed
Dekhiye Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. Apnay mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity
Relax bete! Ling ka size badhane ka koi bhi tarika mojjud nahi hai. Ling ke size ki sahi jaankari yahan se hasil karo aap http://lovematters.in/en/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes Aur please size par mat jao apna andaaz acha karo unke saath time bithao.
Hmmm! Bete aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi . Iske illava ,Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mililye. All the best http://www.fpaindia.org/ Aur Jaldi pregnancy ke tips yaha pahdiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/tips
Kya aapka matlab hasthmethun se hai toh suniye yeh ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Bete lekin iska karan hasthmethun nahi hai. Aur sex karnye ke liye dono hi partners ko tanavmukat hona zaruri hai! Aur dono ka tyyar hona mentally, physically, emotionally bhi bohot zarurui hai, aap samjh rahe hain na mera matlab? kahin aap kisi tention, pressure mein toh nahi hain na? yeh samjh lijiey ki sex karne ke liey bilkul tanav mukt hona zaruri hai bête : Jis baaray mein aur yaha padh lo : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/4-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction
Ismein koi samsya nahi lekin bhi ho sakta hai ki yadi mooh mei choot bhi jaye toh aap turant use baahr thook dein, andear lene ki koi zaroorat nahin. Mukh maithun ka eke hen pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. wasie bhi married woman ke saath sex ek doosra jokhim bhi laata hai, aur woh saamajik ya gharelu samasyaein bhi paida kar sakat ahai, umeed hai ki aapne in sab baaton ke visay mein theek so socha hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
Ismein koi samsya nahi lekin bhi ho sakta hai ki yadi mooh mei choot bhi jaye toh aap turant use baahr thook dein, andear lene ki koi zaroorat nahin. Mukh maithun ka eke hen pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. wasie bhi married woman ke saath sex ek doosra jokhim bhi laata hai, aur woh saamajik ya gharelu samasyaein bhi paida kar sakat ahai, umeed hai ki aapne in sab baaton ke visay mein theek so socha hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
Ohhh! Bete suno bête aap please bilkul relaxed raho. Koi jaldi nahin hai bilkul… just relax and take it slow. Apne partner ko bhi yeh salaah deejiye, Slow down. Yeh link padh leejiye : http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/en/news/pain-during-sex-suffering-silence
Suniye hymen toh kbhi bhee tut sakta hai kyunki Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. Apnay mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity
Just relax! Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Auntyji
Sat, 12/19/2015 - 14:15

In reply to by rahul sahu

Bilkul nahi bête koi kamzori nahi, thakaan ko kamzori na samjho bête!! it’s quite common, Bus swasth raho aur yaad rakho ki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti . yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies… ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Dekho Sahi - Galat ka nirnay, sirf hum khud hee le saktey hain.,Aur koi nahin kar sakta humare liye. Hum aapko kewal yeh salaha denge ki kee kisi bhee sankramn se bachne ke liye condom ka istemal anivarya hai. yeh padh lijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/sex-prostitute-ok
Chutkara paane ka ek hee tareeka hai- apne aap yeh karna rok lo... iski koi dawa nahin. Wasie toh hastmaithun apne aap mein koi problem nahin karta yadi chodna hee hai toh iske baare mein sochna band karo... Lekin jaise kaha, aadat choot jaye toh theek , na ruke , toh bhi koi baat nahin. Yeh ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Hmm! aisa kyun ho raha hai? kya aap koi aisi activity kar rahe hain jo ki unhe pasand nahi aa rahi hai? Sabse zaroori hoga ki aap unse pyar aur vishawas ke saath iski vajeh poochein, bina jhagda, bina aalochna. Tab hee aap anumaan laga saktey hain, hain na? Yeh bhi yaad rakhiye, ki sex mein HAAN karna ya NAA, yeh bhi unka haq hai, unka nirnay… so yadi who Na kartee hain, so ek baat to tay hi ki koi bhi zor ya zabardasti bilkul allow nahin ha, samjhe beta jee?! https://lovematters.in/en/news/my-wife-not-interested-sex zara yeh bhi padhiye : http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed
Aisa hona bohot hi common hai par hum aapki ismein koi sahayata nahi kar saktay! Lekin aap hastmethun try kar saktay hain kyunki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Bete kahin aap kisi tension, pressure mein toh nahi hain na? yeh samjh lijiey ki sex karnay ke liey bilkul tanav mukt hona zaruri hai bête : Jis baaray mein aur yaha padh lo : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/4-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction https://lovematters.in/hi/news/erection-trouble-where-turn
Kahtam toh nahi bete lekin thodi kam ho jana common hai wajah hai is duran huay sharir, mansik badlav. Lekin haan yeh rule zaruri nahi ki sab par laagu ho. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/sex-after-pregnancy-top-five-facts
Hmmm! Yeh yeh unka virya ho skata hai. Lekin yadi aap is baat se dar rahi hain ki isse pregnancy mein dikkat ayegi toh suniye pregnancy ke liye ek shukranu bhee bohot kaafi hai. Jaldi pregnancy ke tips yaha pahdiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/tips
aap sahi kiss nazar se puch rahee hain? Ki kya yeh koi beemari karta hai, so nahin. Lekin kya yeh aapko sahi lagta hai, sawaal yeh hai, yadi nahin toh mana kar deejiye aur unhe samjha deejiye ki aapko yeh theek nahin lag raha. Saath hee saath yeh bhi ho sakta hai ki yadi mooh mei choot bhi jaye toh aap turant use baahr thook dein, andear lene ki koi zaroorat nahin. Mukh maithun ka eke hen pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. All the best beta. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
Kya aap mahilaoun mein safed paani ki samsya ki baat kar rahe hain? So bête yoni safed pani jana bohot common hai par yadi yeh safed paani kisi aur rang mein hai ya badbudar hai ya isye guptango mein khujli hai toh bina samaye gawaye doctor se mill ljiye.
Bete yoni se har baar sex karne par blood jana bilkul bhee sawasth nahi hai please kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mililye. All the best http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts
Sex ki bhavna yadi adhik ho to yeh hona bahut hee samanya hai. Saath hee Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Kis liye kya pregnancy ke liye ya chiknai ke liye? Acha yeh padh lijiye shayd isse apko madd mile: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/her-orgasms https://lovematters.in/en/news/secret-happy-sex-right-lubricant
Auntyji
Tue, 12/29/2015 - 15:44

In reply to by Rrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Yadd rakhiye chahye ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai, kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye. Aur yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Ummm! Kya aapka matlab yoni ke loss ho jane se hai? Toh suniye - Yoni mein bahut elastic ya lachak hoti hai , leking lagatar sex karne se, us mein bhi ek swabahivik looseness y adheelapan aa jaata hai. AIsa nhin hi ki yadi hum sex kuch arsey tak na karein to yoni apne aap tight ho jaati hai. Mahila ke shareer pe aur jaankari ke liye yahan padhe… http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/her-body
Bete Anu pehli baar sex ke duran halka durd hona samanya hai, saath hee - Durd hone ka ek sabse mehtvpuran karan yeh ho skata hai ki apki partner sex ke liye theek tarah se tyyar hi nahi hui hon. Bete yeh baat bohot achhe se samjh lo aap ki sex karnye ke lieye dono hi partners ko tanavmukat hona bohot hi zaruri hai! Aur dono ka tyyar hona mentally, physically, emotionally bhi bohot zarurui hai.http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hmmmm! So abhi aap Kuch mat kijiey aur sahi sammaey aaney ka intzaar kijiey jab wo khud sehmati dikhaey sex ke liey.Kyunki kisi bhi rishtey mey jabardasti acceptable nahi hai . in baton se dhyan hatiey aur apney rishtey ko aur majbut banaiey. http://lovematters.in/en/news/how-can-i-convince-her-have-sex Aur aap dono apnay mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Jee nahi ismein pregnancy ke chances nahi hai, lekin saath hee saath yeh bhi ho sakta hai ki yadi mooh mei choot bhi jaye toh aap turant use baahr thook dein, andear lene ki koi zaroorat nahin. Mukh maithun ka eke hen pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. All the best beta. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
Sabse pehle toh suniye durd hone ka ek sabse mehtvpuran karan yeh ho skata hai ki apki partner sex ke liye theek tarah se tyyar hi nahi hui hon. Bete yeh baat bohot achhe se samjh lo aap ki sex karnye ke lieye dono hi partners ko tanavmukat hona bohot hi zaruri hai! Aur dono ka tyyar hona mentally, physically, emotionally bhi bohot zarurui hai. Yeh bhi yaad rakhiye, ki sex mein HAAN karna ya NAA, yeh bhi unka haq hai, unka nirnay… so yadi who Na kartee hain, so ek baat to tay hi ki koi bhi zor ya zabardasti bilkul allow nahin ha, samjhe beta jee?! https://lovematters.in/en/news/my-wife-not-interested-sex zara yeh bhi padhiye : http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed
Hmmmm! So bete sex se koi nuksaan nahi jab tak ki wo safe sex hai, yaani poori samjhdaari dono logo ki sehmati aur safety ke sath kiya gaya sex ho. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Lekin haan Safe sex ke liey condom ka istemal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bête, yaha padho zara: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex yeh emergency goli hai jo ki unsafe sex ke 72 ghanton ke andar hee lee ja skati hai. Lekin yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Auntyji
Tue, 01/05/2016 - 14:40

In reply to by yogi87

Kya ilaaj chal raha hai? Kitna samya hua hai bete iske liye try karte huay? Acha suno iske liye Ek vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se consult kijiye. Aur Jaldi pregnancy ke tips yaha pahdiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/tips Aur bête yoni se safed pani jana bohot common hai par yadi yeh safed paani kisi aur rang mein hai ya badbudar hai ya isye guptango mein khujli hai toh bina samaye gawaye doctor se mill ljiye.
Hmm! Kitne samye se aap log iske liye try kar rahe hain? So Kya aap is bare mein abhi tak Kisi doctor se millein hai? Ek vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se consult kijiye. Aur Jaldi pregnancy ke tips yaha pahdiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/tips
Hmmm! Virya na niklane ka karan yeh ho sakta hai ki kahin aap kisi tension, pressure mein toh nahi hain na? yeh samjh lijiey ki sex karnay ke liey bilkul tanav mukt hona zaruri hai bête : Jis baaray mein aur yaha padh lo : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/4-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction Aur jaha tak hasthmethun ki baat hai yeh ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Hmmm! So iske liye aap yeh links dhyan se padh ijiye shayd isse apko koi madd mill jaye: http://lovematters.in/hi/news/4-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction https://lovematters.in/hi/news/erection-trouble-where-turn
Nahi bete! Iski salha bilkul nahi di jaati hai, Aur naa hee yeh safe hai. Bete khud socho zara yadi yeh possible hota toh condom banta hee kyun ? Hain na? So zara yeh padho: https://lovematters.in/en/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths
Par dual condom kyun? Condom sirf ek hee kaffi hai aur naa hee do condoms use karne ki salha di jaati hai. Zara niche diye huay yeh links padhiye: https://lovematters.in/en/news/search-perfect-condom https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/her-orgasms
Bete vikal Jee haan isse bhee pregnancy ke chances ho sakte hain islie please condom ka istemal awshya karein. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Bete Irfan Yadi aap bina kisi protection key ya bina surakhsha ke sex ki soch rahe hai toh shayad aap un dino ki baat kar rahe hain jin mein bachcha rukna mushkil hai. Yeh ho toh sakta hai lekin yeh poori terh se surakshit nahin mana jaata hai. Lekin yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chahte hain toh kisi aur tarike ke mukable condom ka istemal hee easy aur safe tarika hai. Yeh bhee padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
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