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First time sex

When people talk about the ‘first time’, they usually mean the first time you have full intercourse. And that’s what people mean by ‘losing your virginity’.

But for you a first time might also mean your first kiss, or the first time you masturbate someone or someone masturbates you. Or the first time with your new partner. 

Whatever first time it is, it’s something you’ll never forget. It’s exciting and special. That’s why it’s important to make sure it’s a really nice experience.

How can you make sure your first time is a good experience? We've put together:

Ten tips for first time sex!

Start when you feel ready

There is only one person who can decide if you’re ready to have sex for the first time: you. Listen to your own feelings and don’t let yourself be talked into anything.

 

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Do it with someone you trust

Do it with someone you feel relaxed with. Take time for each other, say sweet or exciting things to each other. You’ll increase the chance that the first time will feel good to both of you.

Curious about the places that feel nice? Discover your own and your partner’s sensitive places!

Choose a nice place

Do it in a place you feel comfortable and where you won’t be disturbed. Make a nice atmosphere, perhaps with music and candles.

Build up slowly

You don’t have to do everything straight away. Build up the excitement slowly, so you both get aroused. When a girl get’s sexually aroused, her vagina becomes moist. This is important, because otherwise intercourse would hurt.

For three-quarters of all young people the voyage of sexual discovery goes in this order: first kiss, caressing under clothes, masturbating each other, making love naked, and finally intercourse.

Listen to your feelings

Once you’ve started, you might realise that you actually don’t want to do it. Don’t ignore this feeling. You can always stop, whatever the other person says. Do things at your own pace. Be clear. If you say ‘no’ but at the same time keep kissing and caressing, your partner won’t be able to tell what you really want.

Pay attention to your partner

You don’t have sex just for yourself. You have sex together. So pay attention to your partner. Is he or she enjoying it? Ask. Is he or she nervous? Try to reassure your partner by saying loving things. Does your partner feel insecure about you seeing him or her naked? Give compliments. Can you tell your partner doesn’t want to go any further? Respect his or her wishes. You can really enjoy making love without having intercourse.

Talk to each other

The first time you probably won’t know quite what you should do. Pay attention to the way your partner responds. Does your partner moan? Does he or she guide your hand to a particular place? These are signs that you’re heading in the right direction! But often the signals aren’t so clear. So talk to each other about what you’d like to try or not. Many people find talking about it really arousing too.

If you are still confused about making love to a woman, watch our animated video here...

Use a condom

Always use a condom. That way you not only prevent unwanted pregnancy but also protect against sexually transmitted diseases. The pill only stops the girl from getting pregnant.

Accidents with condoms are nearly always the result of using them wrongly. So read the instructions carefully and use one to practice. Boys can practice on themselves, girls can practice by putting a condom on a banana, for example.

Don’t pretend to have an orgasm

There’s no rule to say you have to have an orgasm. Don’t pretend to have an orgasm. It’s not fair to your partner. Anyway, making love without having an orgasm can also be wonderful.

It’s OK to laugh

The first time you’ll probably both be a bit nervous. You want everything to be perfect and the first time to be amazing. So you might both be a bit tense and serious. Try to keep the mood light. Humour and sex are a perfectly good mix!

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But for you a first time might also mean your first kiss, or the first time you masturbate someone or someone masturbates you. Or the first time with your new partner. 

Whatever first time it is, it’s something you’ll never forget. It’s exciting and special. That’s why it’s important to make sure it’s a really nice experience.

How can you make sure your first time is a good experience? We've put together:

Ten tips for first time sex!

Start when you feel ready

There is only one person who can decide if you’re ready to have sex for the first time: you. Listen to your own feelings and don’t let yourself be talked into anything.

 

Visit our forum

 

Do it with someone you trust

Do it with someone you feel relaxed with. Take time for each other, say sweet or exciting things to each other. You’ll increase the chance that the first time will feel good to both of you.

Curious about the places that feel nice? Discover your own and your partner’s sensitive places!

Choose a nice place

Do it in a place you feel comfortable and where you won’t be disturbed. Make a nice atmosphere, perhaps with music and candles.

Build up slowly

You don’t have to do everything straight away. Build up the excitement slowly, so you both get aroused. When a girl get’s sexually aroused, her vagina becomes moist. This is important, because otherwise intercourse would hurt.

For three-quarters of all young people the voyage of sexual discovery goes in this order: first kiss, caressing under clothes, masturbating each other, making love naked, and finally intercourse.

Listen to your feelings

Once you’ve started, you might realise that you actually don’t want to do it. Don’t ignore this feeling. You can always stop, whatever the other person says. Do things at your own pace. Be clear. If you say ‘no’ but at the same time keep kissing and caressing, your partner won’t be able to tell what you really want.

Pay attention to your partner

You don’t have sex just for yourself. You have sex together. So pay attention to your partner. Is he or she enjoying it? Ask. Is he or she nervous? Try to reassure your partner by saying loving things. Does your partner feel insecure about you seeing him or her naked? Give compliments. Can you tell your partner doesn’t want to go any further? Respect his or her wishes. You can really enjoy making love without having intercourse.

Talk to each other

The first time you probably won’t know quite what you should do. Pay attention to the way your partner responds. Does your partner moan? Does he or she guide your hand to a particular place? These are signs that you’re heading in the right direction! But often the signals aren’t so clear. So talk to each other about what you’d like to try or not. Many people find talking about it really arousing too.

If you are still confused about making love to a woman, watch our animated video here...

Comments

We can't help you in this. But if you like you can try Masturbation which is a safe way to satisfy yourself. It would do no harm nor any illness. But there are many other activities such as sports, games Or hobbies. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Shivani sharma
Thu, 06/22/2017 - 12:48

Mam kya first time sex krne se koi pregnant ho sakti h or agr just sex bd ladki ke periods ajy too koi dikat to nhi hogii na mam

Ji haan, ek baar unsafe sex se bhi pregnancy hone ke chances hain. Ummm! Yadi unsafe sex ke baad bhee unhe periods ho rahe hain toh ismein pregnancy ke chances na ke barabr hain. Yeha padho zara: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Phir bhi yadi aap aur safe hona chahte hain to ek Home pregnancy test lekar aur stith nischit ke ja sakti hain. Kripya aaj ke baad condom ka nirdharit upyog keejiye, apne liye aur apni partner ke liye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Sorry, Manna. There's no possible way to increase the size of a penis. You can read more here: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes https://lovematters.in/en/news/penis-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/en/news/worried-your-penis-too-small https://lovematters.in/en/news/what-women-penis If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
lucky yadav
Sat, 07/08/2017 - 00:11

Hello aunty ji... Please hame yeah yeah bataye ki harmones jaldi kyu nikal kr aa jate h jb bhi sambhog karta hu to ..

Hello, Lucky bete. Kya aap virya ki baat kar rahe hain? Bete yadi shareer mein uttejna adhik ho, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheegra hi patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisi stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay, yaani bete ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaen karna , jinse dono ko anand mile, apne partner ki uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehle jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
md.rasheeduddin
Sun, 03/29/2015 - 10:49

my marriaage on june nice wife warangal districts . idont no sex .in the night dont sleep .i want sex details .

Pehli baar sex kartaye samaye kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaye is bare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijieye : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts saath hi sex activity mein alag-alag tariko ka istemal kartay huay isse kese aur majjaydaar banana hai is baaray mein yaha padhein: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love

some time use in sex but he is cheat know but i wil marry other boy then he is dout for me im already use in sex how is gezz to boy

The only way one can make out or guess is if the hymen has broken, which can be for any reason actually. No one can know anyhow about your virginity unless you yourself didn’t admit or tell them about it ok? So don’t worry. But make sure you are having safe sex. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity

my wife is scary about having sex for first time. i don't have an idea how to convince her. i tried a lot but no use. Can i know any other tips to have sex for 1st time.

Bête Pehli baar sex kartaye samaye kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaye is bare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijieye : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Saath hi sex activity mein alag-alag tariko ka istemal kartay huay isse kese aur mazzedaar banana hai is baaray mein yaha padhein: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Chandan beta jaldi hone se koi baat nahin, don’t worry. Toh sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer mein uttejna adhik ho, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheegra hi patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisi stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay, yaani bete ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaen karna , jinse dono ko anand mile, apne partner ki uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehle jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. Ye bhi padhnaa ap: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/en/news/i-am-suffering-from-premature-ejaculation https://lovematters.in/en/news/premature-ejaculation-couples-problem

Aaryan bete, Hastmaithun ek safe/surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jinmein aap samya bitaa sakte hain. jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? Yeh bhi padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating https://lovematters.in/en/news/i-could-masturbate-anytime-anywhere Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Dear Kevin, read about this here: https://lovematters.in/en/news/what-women-penis https://lovematters.in/en/news/worried-your-penis-too-small If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Vatan singh
Wed, 11/09/2016 - 11:25

Hii me jab bhi sex krta hu sirf 2 min. M hi ho jata h. Again sex krne ke liye bahut time m ready hota h like as 25-30 min. But in second time 3-4 min. M hi ho jata h plzzz koi solution btao

Vatan beta, relax! Jaldi viryapaat hone se koi baat nahin, don’t worry. Toh sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer mein uttejna adhik ho, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheegra hi patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisi stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay, yaani bete ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaen karna , jinse dono ko anand mile, apne partner ki uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehle jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Auntyji
Sat, 06/03/2017 - 00:52

In reply to by Endadul sk

Hi, beta. How are you? How may we help you? If you would like to join in on a further discussion on any topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Sumit bete, yadi shareer mein uttejna adhik ho, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheegra hi patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisi stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay, yaani bete ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaen karna , jinse dono ko anand mile, apne partner ki uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehle jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Aap jhilli tutne ke baare main chinta mat keejiye. Yoni bahut chhoti hoti hai aur lacheele bhi. So jald baazi mat keejiye, phele finger se try keejiye, koi lubrication use keejye… Lekin aapko bahut hee relaxed rehana hai. Poora ling ek hee baar andar jaaye yeh bilkul zaroori nahin, aur na hee iski rai dee jaati hai. Iske barre mein yeh padhiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Yadi sex dono pyaar ke saathiyoun ke beech ho, surakshit yaani bina koi zore zabardasti ke ho, so bahut hee achchha. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Devashish
Sat, 08/05/2017 - 18:06

Mam maine aaj pehli bar apni gf ke sath sex kiya or usko bahut dard bhi hua pr blood nahi aaya aisa kyo or vo pichle 8 sal se mere sath relationship me h or vo Virgin bhi h or baki jo aapke articles h maine vo bhi padhe h ke virginity kese tut sakti h games se ya kisi bjah se strech hone se or baki sab triko se pr bachpan se abhi tak uske sath aisa kuch nahi hua h to aisa kese ho sakta h ke blood na aaye.

Devashish bete, dekhiye bleeding hymen ke kaaran hoti hain. Jaisa ki aap pehle se hi jaante hain ki hymen, bahut hi asaani se toot sakta hai… tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vagerah. Kai mahilaon main toh janam se hi hymen nahi hota. Isliye first time sex karne par bleeding ho, aisa zaroori nahi. Iss baare main zyaada chinta mat keejiye. Waise bhi isse koi fark nahin padta, yadi pyaar karte hain toh vishwaas bhi kijiye.Apne mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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