Auntyji says… Prachi puttar, there is no such thing as being too sexual! Women are very sexual and kudos to you for understanding and enjoying these feelings.
Sexy and you know it?
Betaji, I understand that talking about it can be challenging. Expression of sexual feelings - that too by women - is something we don’t see often, do we?
I am so glad that you acknowledge your sexual feelings and are not trying to hide or run away from them. This would surely get you your Aunty’s super special jhappi.
Sex is an important part of our lives and we need to have conversations about them with our friends. Just as we do about gazillion other things.
What’s stopping you?
Are worried about your friends judging you? Have there been any instances in the past that trigger this worry? If yes, perhaps you should consider changing your friends. Aise dost hi kis kaam ke! Just kidding puttarji. You don’t need to dump all your friends. But you do need to consider why you want to talk about sex and with whom.
Sex is a personal matter - not exactly a jan hit mei jaari soochna! You need to share your ideas or feelings with people who you trust and those who would make it a pleasant experience for you. Also, this applies to your friends
Sex is an intimate matter for them too and they might not want to talk about it with you. That's OK and you should respect it.
However, if you fear your friends’ reactions before testing the water, now that’s a problem. Perhaps just like you, they too feel conscious of being judged. Par kisi ko toh paani mein paaon dena padega na. So why not you? Try toh kar puttar!
Auntyji par kaise?
A chat about sex with the right friend doesn’t need a special day and time. You and your besties talk about everything else, don’t you? College, jobs, parents, politics… the list is unending! I am sure you have also talked about your last crush or how cute that last date was. Just take that conversation further to share your experience of an amazing kiss or that love bite that you enjoyed.
If you don’t want to share your experience up front, start with a passionate kiss you saw in a recent film or a very famous sex scene in a popular book. This will help people ease into the topic.
If your friends give you strange reactions, stop or try sometime later. People might also give a response that sounds judgemental just because they feel that's what is expected of them, especially in a group.
So if you want to bring up sex, better to start alone with just one trusted friend. Also remember to adjust to your friends' comfort levels and don't be too hard on friends who seem judgemental without giving them a second chance - they might be just behaving the way they think they ought to and lack the confidence to be more open.
Just do it!
Before I bid you tata, Prachi puttar, let’s make one thing clear. Your sexual thoughts are absolutely your own. You are under no obligation to share them with anyone if you don't feel comfortable or don’t want to. But if you do, take baby steps and go for it.
Meri taraf se more power to you for just accepting and wishing to express your thoughts. Enjoy your body, enjoy your relationships and enjoy conversations about them.
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Auntyji says… Prachi puttar, there is no such thing as being too sexual! Women are very sexual and kudos to you for understanding and enjoying these feelings.
Sexy and you know it?
Betaji, I understand that talking about it can be challenging. Expression of sexual feelings - that too by women - is something we don’t see often, do we?
I am so glad that you acknowledge your sexual feelings and are not trying to hide or run away from them. This would surely get you your Aunty’s super special jhappi.
Sex is an important part of our lives and we need to have conversations about them with our friends. Just as we do about gazillion other things.
What’s stopping you?
Are worried about your friends judging you? Have there been any instances in the past that trigger this worry? If yes, perhaps you should consider changing your friends. Aise dost hi kis kaam ke! Just kidding puttarji. You don’t need to dump all your friends. But you do need to consider why you want to talk about sex and with whom.
Sex is a personal matter - not exactly a jan hit mei jaari soochna! You need to share your ideas or feelings with people who you trust and those who would make it a pleasant experience for you. Also, this applies to your friends
Sex is an intimate matter for them too and they might not want to talk about it with you. That's OK and you should respect it.
However, if you fear your friends’ reactions before testing the water, now that’s a problem. Perhaps just like you, they too feel conscious of being judged. Par kisi ko toh paani mein paaon dena padega na. So why not you? Try toh kar puttar!
Auntyji par kaise?
A chat about sex with the right friend doesn’t need a special day and time. You and your besties talk about everything else, don’t you? College, jobs, parents, politics… the list is unending! I am sure you have also talked about your last crush or how cute that last date was. Just take that conversation further to share your experience of an amazing kiss or that love bite that you enjoyed.
If you don’t want to share your experience up front, start with a passionate kiss you saw in a recent film or a very famous sex scene in a popular book. This will help people ease into the topic.
If your friends give you strange reactions, stop or try sometime later. People might also give a response that sounds judgemental just because they feel that's what is expected of them, especially in a group.
So if you want to bring up sex, better to start alone with just one trusted friend. Also remember to adjust to your friends' comfort levels and don't be too hard on friends who seem judgemental without giving them a second chance - they might be just behaving the way they think they ought to and lack the confidence to be more open.
Just do it!
Before I bid you tata, Prachi puttar, let’s make one thing clear. Your sexual thoughts are absolutely your own. You are under no obligation to share them with anyone if you don't feel comfortable or don’t want to. But if you do, take baby steps and go for it.
Meri taraf se more power to you for just accepting and wishing to express your thoughts. Enjoy your body, enjoy your relationships and enjoy conversations about them.
To protect the privacy of the author, the person in the picture is a model.
Do you feel embarrassed to talk about sex? Share your story in comments or on Facebook. If you have a question, please visit our discussion forum.