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I saw my parents having sex!

By Auntyji Tuesday, December 29, 2015 - 13:08
Auntyji, I came home a bit early today and saw my parents having sex! What’s wrong with them? I can’t see them straight in the eyes anymore! Salman (20), Mumbai…

This article is a part of our "Editors pick Best of 2015" series. It was first published on 23rd June, 2015.

Auntyji says… Hahahaha! Sorry betaji, but I can’t stop laughing. Not just at you, but at all you young people, who have this shock-of-my-life realisation! “My mom and dad? Sex? Oh God, no!” In fact, oh yes, yes and yes!

Sexual beings

The issue is we never see our parents as sexual beings. They can be caregivers, homemakers, yellers, disciplinewaalas, breakfastmakers… but never lovers! It’s almost as if the mind tells us that they only had sex once in their lives, “To have me and the next time to have my sister!”

Hell no, bro! These guys have been at it, for many years, and you guys are still just two… Got it? Mom and dad are lovers! Yikessss! Cat’s out of the bag, finally! After how many years, in your case? Oh, just 20? Hahaha! Took you some time to figure that out, haan?

They are sexy, savvy and cool. They are what you want to be – sexually active and vibrant. The fact that they are your parents doesn’t change anything, dude! So now grow up and look up… into your parents eyes.

Old lovebirds

You see, it’s very hard for young parents when they are actually in their sexual prime. Now that they are older, they are more relaxed, know about their bodies and what works. And then they have you – huge, grownup people lurking about, coming in the way of their glorious sex life.

How does that sound? Not so kind, right? Beta, just because they are older and mature and they play a role in our life – which is far from sexual – we forget that they are just some regular human beings too, with desires and rights!

So dear Salman, while she will always be a mother to you and he, abbaa huzoor, for themselves, they are very much lovebirds.

Read: Sex gets better as you grow older 

Love or hatred?

So now that you know, get over it. Your folks are really into each other… Hahaha, no pun there. I mean, they really like each other! Frankly, that’s great! Think of it this way, sex is an expression of intimacy, of pleasure and your own parents share that.

Would you rather like there being bitterness and hatred between them? Would you prefer if they were nasty to each other in the bedroom, would you not be able to see that too? Would that be more comforting? I sincerely hope not.

Young parents really fret about this and often, as kids grow up, they sacrifice their sex lives so that the kids don’t “see anything.” It’s not as if you guys are blank to the world of sex and its vast possibilities, so why should parents make that sacrifice?

Old hands at the game

Sometimes you youngsters confuse me. For yourself, you want the excitement, the chase, the desire, intimacy etc. But once someone crosses 30, you think sex is done? That it’s not for the “elderly”? Excuse me?!

So are you all ready to quit sex once you become a parent? Let’s say you become one at 28… By 30 your kid will be standing up and be able to see things… So is it pack-up time for sex? No na? Then why the judgment on parents?

The key here, my dear, is that just as you expect them to respect your privacy, they deserve the same. You saw something that was private, that’s it. Just think of it as being beyond your boundary.

If you see hurt, violence or abuse – be it verbal, physical, sexual – we expect you to stand up against it. Similarly if there is love, sweetness and intimacy, we expect that you will not freak out and be happy for them too. Hopefully when you get to sex, they too will feel the same… Or they may equally freak out! “Salmaaan, just a babybeeee, too young for sexxxx.”

To protect the author's privacy, the person in the photo is a model.

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Deepak hastmaithun se sharir par koi bura asar nahi hota hai. Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yeh bhee padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Relax bete! Bus swasth rahiye aur yaad rakhiye ki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yeh bhee padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating https://lovematters.in/hi/our-bodies/is-masturbation-unhealthy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
There’s no one way that one can prescribe dude!! All I can say is just don’t fuss about it, keep yourself busy and calm and well do other things as well, such as going out, some sports etc… so chill dude. I hope you know, there is no big deal about masturbation, it’s not a sin or a crime, so take it easy. https://lovematters.in/en/news/masturbation-harmful https://lovematters.in/en/news/masturbation-bad-habit https://lovematters.in/en/resource/men-masturbating Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Only you can decide what's right and wrong, no one else can do it for you. Do keep in mind that engaging in sex with your teacher may seem fun and casual but can turn into a very difficult situation, such as social embarrassment, unwanted pregnancy, blackmail. https://lovematters.in/en/news/should-i-try-sex-older-woman If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. Isliye jab tak mahila khud nahi batyegi ki woh pehli baar hi sex kar rahi hain woh is baat ka pata nahi laga sakte! Apne mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Auntyji me virgin nai hu or meri shadi kuch samay me ho jayegi kya koi tarika h ye baat chupane ka apne pati s first nyt pz rply
बेटे दर्द होने का एक सबसे महत्वपूर्ण कारण यह हो सकता है की आपकी पार्ट्नर सेक्स के लिए ठीक तरह से तय्यार ही नही हुई हों. बेटे यह बात बहुत अच्छे से समझ लो आप की सेक्स करने के लिए दोनो ही पार्ट्नर्स को तनावमुक्त होना बहुत ही ज़रूरी है! और दोनो का तय्यार होना mentally, physically, emotionally भी बहुत ज़रूरी है. जल्द बाज़ी मत कीजिए, पहले फिंगर से ट्राइ कीजिए, कोई ल्यूब्रिकेशन इस्तेमाल कीजिये. साथ ही यह भी पढ़िए:http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love https://lovematters.in/en/news/pain-during-sex-suffering-silence https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed यदि सेक्स सुरक्षित यानी बिना कोई ज़ोरे ज़बरदस्ती के हो, सो बहुत ही अच्छा. यदि इस मुद्दे पर आप और गहरी चर्चा में जुड़ना चाहते हैं, तोह हमारे डिस्कशन बोर्ड, " जस्ट पूछो" में ज़रूर शामिल हों. https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ufffff! Bilkul nahi koi kamzori nahi, thakaan ko kamzori na samjho bête!! it’s quite common, Bus swasth raho aur yaad rakho ki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti . yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies… ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Aree Unko apke ling ke size se kya lena-dena? Ling ka size toh har kisi ke liye alag-alag ho sakta hai yeh toh common see baat hai, zara yeh padho: Ling ke size ki sahi jaankari yahan se hasil karo aap http://lovematters.in/en/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hmmm! The only way one can make out or guess is if the hymen has broken, which can be for any reason actually. No one can know anyhow about her virginity unless she herself didn’t admit or tell them about it ok? So don’t worry. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Chote ling ka koi medical point to nhi h na. Jaise army me medical hota h tb ling ko chek krte h us tiime chhote ling ko reject to nhi krte. Plz tell
babu sharma
Wed, 12/30/2015 - 17:45
मेरी शादी को 15 दिन हो गए हे मैं और मेरी वाइफ रोज सेक्स करते हे लेकिन उसको सेक्स में intrest नही आ रहा और दर्द होता हे । क्या सील टूटने के बाद भी दर्द होता रहता हे । उसको दूसरे तरीके से ओर्गास्म तक पहुंचाना पड़ता हे ।
Help me please
Tue, 12/29/2015 - 13:49
Aunty G.... I ve a Girlfriend.. with whom i wanna do sex and she also.. but she will be marring after 2 or 3 year with someone e
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