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He kisses with his eyes open – is that normal?

By Auntyji Tuesday, October 9, 2012 - 14:34
My boyfriend kisses with his eyes wide open – should I be worried Auntyji? They say you should never trust anyone who does that. Mehak, Ahmadabad
Auntyji says… If only eyes could determine the level of trust in a relationship, this world would be a very simple place! Kem cho Mehak ben? Like they say in Punjab, ‘listen to Gurdas Maan and keep calm’. Yes, I’m serious. I know it must have been hard for you to ask this one. Well, don’t worry because Auntyji never judges anyone.

Old wives' taleIt’s only human to over-analyse things and then get worked up about them. But I am glad you brought this one up. Because I am sure you are not the only one fretting over this. It is especially easy to get worried if your partner is doing anything even slightly out of the ordinary.Forget about this old wives’ tale about kissing with eyes open and don’t let it affect your relationship. Usually people tend to fall for these things and then constantly look for reasons to prove them right. And most of the times it is nothing but a figment of their own imagination.No right wayI know most people kiss with their eyes closed. Or so the movies have taught us. Maybe your boyfriend has his own original style of kissing. Or maybe he just likes looking at you while he kisses you. And that’s what works for him. In fact you know for sure that he’s not thinking of someone else while making out with you. So in a way, I’ll rate him a tad more reliable then a closed-eye kisser, if all other things were the same.Mehak puttar if you love him and if he loves you back, then there’s no need to worry. Like they say, technically there is no right way of making love. You could be licking each other’s face while eating pop-corn. But as far as there is love and passion in what you do you are fine.Fully involvedHowever, you should be worried if your boyfriend is not giving you complete attention. The act of kissing for me is more personal than even that of sex. It is very important for both people to be fully involved in it. So whether he is doing something else alongside or not, he should give it his 100%. If you ever felt otherwise, then you should be worried.More than trust I will say that it amounts to disrespect to your partner. If one person is fully involved then there is no reason why the other person should not be able to reciprocate. And if that is the case, then you need to sit him down and talk about it.Try it yourselfThis one is hardly an issue and I am sure you will be able to handle it rather well. Always remember, there is never anything so big that cannot be resolved. If you have the right intention, problems will come and go. Stay calm and keeping on kissing. In fact, try keeping your eyes open too. Who knows, you might enjoy it too!

Oh, but obviously you have tried it already. Otherwise you wouldn’t know about your boyfriend, would you?

Eyes open, eyes closed - what do you think makes for the best kiss? Leave a comment here or join the discussion on Facebook.

Auntyji says… If only eyes could determine the level of trust in a relationship, this world would be a very simple place! Kem cho Mehak ben? Like they say in Punjab, ‘listen to Gurdas Maan and keep calm’. Yes, I’m serious. I know it must have been hard for you to ask this one. Well, don’t worry because Auntyji never judges anyone.

Old wives' taleIt’s only human to over-analyse things and then get worked up about them. But I am glad you brought this one up. Because I am sure you are not the only one fretting over this. It is especially easy to get worried if your partner is doing anything even slightly out of the ordinary.Forget about this old wives’ tale about kissing with eyes open and don’t let it affect your relationship. Usually people tend to fall for these things and then constantly look for reasons to prove them right. And most of the times it is nothing but a figment of their own imagination.No right wayI know most people kiss with their eyes closed. Or so the movies have taught us. Maybe your boyfriend has his own original style of kissing. Or maybe he just likes looking at you while he kisses you. And that’s what works for him. In fact you know for sure that he’s not thinking of someone else while making out with you. So in a way, I’ll rate him a tad more reliable then a closed-eye kisser, if all other things were the same.Mehak puttar if you love him and if he loves you back, then there’s no need to worry. Like they say, technically there is no right way of making love. You could be licking each other’s face while eating pop-corn. But as far as there is love and passion in what you do you are fine.Fully involvedHowever, you should be worried if your boyfriend is not giving you complete attention. The act of kissing for me is more personal than even that of sex. It is very important for both people to be fully involved in it. So whether he is doing something else alongside or not, he should give it his 100%. If you ever felt otherwise, then you should be worried.More than trust I will say that it amounts to disrespect to your partner. If one person is fully involved then there is no reason why the other person should not be able to reciprocate. And if that is the case, then you need to sit him down and talk about it.Try it yourselfThis one is hardly an issue and I am sure you will be able to handle it rather well. Always remember, there is never anything so big that cannot be resolved. If you have the right intention, problems will come and go. Stay calm and keeping on kissing. In fact, try keeping your eyes open too. Who knows, you might enjoy it too!

Oh, but obviously you have tried it already. Otherwise you wouldn’t know about your boyfriend, would you?

Eyes open, eyes closed - what do you think makes for the best kiss? Leave a comment here or join the discussion on Facebook.

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Bsurprised
Fri, 01/13/2017 - 10:20
My boyfriend kisses with his eyes open. Not all the time but allot. I asked him and he told me "i don't know why! I never have before with anyone else. I just love to look at you, see your face, your just the most beautiful thing ever!!" i didn't question it anymore. I catch him looking at me when I'm cooking, watching TV folding laundry. I'll ask him what he's thinking when i see him looking and he always says "just how beautiful you are" my advise don't over think! Just go with it!
еach time i used to read smaller articles or reviews thаt also clear their motive, and that is аlso happening wіth this piece of writing which I am reading here.
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