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Secret to more female orgasms

By Sarah Wednesday, January 30, 2019 - 14:28
Good sex = orgasms? If that’s not the case for you, read on for what science has to say about female orgasms. Hint: A lesson or two from lesbian women will be quite handy!

Spilling the beans

Women who have sex with women orgasm more than those who get it on with guys, research has repeatedly shown. That’s all and well if you’re a lesbian. But if you’re a girl who has sex with men, you might be thinking this is a tad unfair. And you’re probably wondering what you can do about it.

As you might imagine, researchers are also plenty curious about what’s going on. One team from the U.S. had a hunch: guys and girls are brought up to focus on penis-in-vagina intercourse and the male orgasm.

This male-centric focus during sex certainly doesn’t help matters when it comes to women having regular orgasms. And of course, it doesn’t factor in lesbian sex.

To test out their theory the researchers tracked down about 2300 women. The participants told the researchers whether they were into guys or gals and how often they had sex and reached orgasm.

Doing the right way

Women who have sex with women do indeed orgasm more, the research confirmed. And that’s considering that lesbian women were actually having less sex than straight women in the study. The former were getting it on an average of ten times per month, while the latter was having sex 16 times.

So what is it that lesbian women are doing that straight girls aren’t? Naturally, they’re not focusing on a penis when they have sex, which leads to a lot more variety. They’re also more focused on their own orgasms, the researchers learned.

Shift the focus

The take-home message from this study is pretty clear. If you’re a woman who has sex with men, there are two things that seem to make a big difference when it comes to orgasms.

For starters, it’s not all about penis-in-vagina intercourse. Variety is definitely one of the keys to a more orgasmic sex life. Another is focusing on your own pleasure – and let your guy know what works and what doesn’t.

Reference: Are Women’s Orgasms Hindered by Phallocenetric Imperatives? Arch Se Behav, Published 2018.

*To protect the identity, names have been changed and the person/s in the picture is/are models.

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