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Is it okay for girls to masturbate?

By Auntyji Tuesday, December 27, 2016 - 17:56
Auntyji, I have heard from many people that girls who masturbate are dirty. But I like to masturbate, it makes me feel good. What should I do? Jeju (20), Allahabad.

Auntyji says…Puttar Jeju, kuch toh log kahengelogon ka kaam hai kehnaa… Don’t worry about these baatein… lest the whole night goes past,” said our beloved Rajesh Khanna. Get my drift, Jeju?

What a conundrum!

Bete, the world has hardly been able to get its head around men satisfying themselves sexually. Do you think it is going to give space to women, hardly at all? You see the best way to make something taboo is to put a social, moral and religious castigation around it. That will then guide your every thought into making you feel bad about yourself, one way or the other.

The truth is that masturbation, though widely and hugely debated, is a non-threatening and private activity. It causes no harm to anyone including the person doing it. So why the Ho – Haw? Because beta, we are women. We are not supposed to know about our bodies – face down.  If you explore yourself or know what you want sexually, you are branded with several names.

If you know too much, you are a wh$%£, if you don’t know much, you are a bore. Hunn dasso, what is a girl supposed to do? What a conundrum, ji!

Uncertain territory

You and many other girls like you may consider masturbating or feel like doing something sexual. However, you still may not be so convinced because of the innumerable bad and filthy messages. Do you think that the whole world is going to look at you with eyebrows raised and say, “Yeh rahee miss masturbator…”? It is not going to help you put your foot on your sexeccelator, is it now?

Now here is my question. What’s the prescription? Should you wait, hope and pray you get a sexy and hot lover or husband? Will he understand your every need when you haven’t understood it yourself? Batao, yeh bhi hua na woh hee, conundrum?

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Listen to your body talk

What do we prefer to be? Women who are clueless about their own bodies? Women who don’t express their feelings and desires or have sex without right knowledge or active participation? In many cases, they quietly accept whatever is dealt to them by another friendly or perhaps unfriendly body.

Do you want to be a woman who knows what works for her? A woman who can be active and alert participant in the act of sex with someone? Or equally active without someone? This is not just about your sexual happiness, it is about knowing yourself as a woman.

The real ‘bad habits’

Yaar ek gal dasso, why are this world’s moral police waging a war against masturbation? People have many really gandhi aadatein. I have never seen a question on people digging their nose, burping in public or even expelling other sorts of volatile substances. Hahahaha!

I mean us per koi muheem nahin chala raha, so why this Mat Masturbation Mob? How about we change it to Mast Masturbation Mob? Quit the guilt trip Jeju, this one is not worth it at all!

Read more on female orgasms and female ejaculation here!

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First published 5 January 2016

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Comments
dujram nishad,…
Wed, 10/19/2016 - 15:55

Jab main apane padosan ko dekhata hun to cho**ne ka khyal man men ata hai use kaise cho**u batao na antiji plecse

Kya unhone aapko kaha hain jisse aapko lage ki woh aap main interested hain? Hum aapko unhe seduce karne ke liye koi salaah nahi de sakte. Aapki is soch ke kaaran kahin aap kisi badi musibat mein na padd jaye isliye zara aap swayam chintan kar lijiye, aur soch lijiye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Ma'am namaste_/\_ i had a lover me has a good relationship between us... nd v both sometimes use to quarrel btwn us.. nd again gt normal... nd v both even commited to do it after marriage. Nd v both r from different states... after compliting our course v got our jobs in different places... for about 16hrs journey btwn us.. nowdayd my girl frnd is nt evn tlking to me.. she hesitating to tlk to me alot... im gtting anger nd lso scolding her.. nd she to nt evn giving ny messges r calls to me... im very mch afraid of my relation btwen us both.. nd our love has gt 4 years.. nw she saying pls nt to disturb her.. tis is peak tim to learn more abt a profession.. (v both r doctors) she saying 1 year tim to settle... ofcrse tats nt a problem to me.. bt my problm is she is nt evn presenting our matter at her home... nd me alrdy done. Nd im non smoker non ethonolic.. no ny bad qualities... she is a freeky girl. Tel me some suggestions to improve my love life.. nd the way to approach until my love success to marrying her. Im a true lover sincear love.. i cnt leave her.. she looks lyk my mother.. bt she cnt evn understand my love... pls help me Evn how cn i contact wit u personelly ma'am. Pls i beg u

Namaste, Saagar beta. Auntyji can understand your predicament, but beta you have to understand that marriage is always a mutual decision and both people should be equally willing for it. We understand the fear. Read this: https://lovematters.in/en/love-and-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts https://lovematters.in/en/love-and-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven Make sure both of you can mutually decide ways to continue feeling connected and keep your love alive and relationship healthy. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Ye apni apni pasand ki baat hain, Ankit beta. Fingering foreplay ka part hain yaani yoni main ling pravesh se pehle uttejna badhane ke liye ki jaani activities main se hain, but ye zaroori nahi ki sabko pasand aayein. Isliye ise karne se pehle apne partner ki sehmati avashya lein. https://lovematters.in/en/making-love/ways-to-make-love/foreplay-turning-up-the-heat https://lovematters.in/en/making-love/phaorapalae-kayaa-karaen-aura-kayaa-nahain Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Hmm bete Pradeep. AAge badho, naye kadam uthao, naye aur purane dost dhoondho, films, music, koi hobbies. Jaise ki unhone keeya hai. Apni zindigi jeene mein utar aao. All the best. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Bete, this is a myth. Masturbation has no such effect.Masturbation is a safe way to satisfy yourself. It would do no harm nor any illness. But there are many other activities where you can spend or utilize your time such as sports, games Or hobbies. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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