Are you ready for sex?

How long before sex in a relationship?

By Ganesh N Sunday, January 31, 2016 - 20:37
What’s the right time to get intimate with your partner? Love Matters asked a few young people how long they would wait for sex in their relationships.

Being sure

-Aditi (26), advertising professional.

Well it depends on your partner. I mean, it usually takes at least two months to check whether the guy you are dating is a creep or a chauvinist pig. According to me, until you are not sure about your partner entirely, you should not get intimate. Currently, I am in a live-in relationship and it took three months for us to hit the bed together.

Comfort factor is the key

-Wageesh (21), college student.

There is no specific time frame in any relationships. It doesn’t work that way. If you are comfortable with each other, you can get intimate even in the first or second month of knowing each other.


It is all about the comfort factor actually. My girlfriend and I hardly waited for a week. I think if you are comfortable with each other and know what both of you want then you don’t need to wait.

Bad experiences count

-Shamili (27), event manager.

I have had a bad experience in the past. I dated a guy who was very liberal and open-minded. We got intimate within a week being together. After that, he stopped answering my calls.

He also told one of my friends that he didn’t want to be with a girl who slept with a guy so early. A number of my friends have also had similar experiences. Men think that if we sleep with them so soon, we would do it with every other guy we met. In my current relationship, I have made him wait for eight months.

Ditch him or keep him?

-Alisha (33), works in a publishing house.

I am currently not seeing anyone but my advice would be to have sex as soon as possible. You can actually determine how good a guy is if you have sex with him. You can ditch him if he is a selfish prick in bed or keep him if he is attentive to your needs.

Believe me, sex is not just about sexual release, it teaches us a lot about the other person if you care to observe. It saves time if you ask me. Of course it is not a proof. You do get the wrong end of the stick many times. I mean I know of many girls who have waited for a year or more in a relationship and their relationship didn’t work out after that.

Getting sex out of the way…

-Kunal (27), self-employed.

My first girlfriend and I were so committed that we waited for three years. We had a bitter break up and it didn’t work out. I was devastated and had a string of one night stands. One of them clicked. I have been married for two years now with her and looking back I can say that getting sex out of the way in the beginning worked for me.

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