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How can I persuade my boyfriend to have a threesome?

By Auntyji Saturday, April 29, 2017 - 12:45
Auntyji, I really want to try a threesome but my partner is totally against it. How can I convince him? It’s becoming a big issue between us. Kehkashan (23), Gurgaon.

Auntyji saysOye hoye, a threesome can be quite a cumbersome process unless you both are totally awesome. Let’s talk more!

Girls just want to have fun!

You know Kehkashan, what’s really cool? It is the fact that you are proposing an idea to spice up your sex life. It shows that you are not scared of sex and pleasure. You are all about owning it, loving it and I am totally applauding it.

So beta Kehkashan, obviously you both have discussed it – and he has disregarded the idea. Does he say why? Achha puttar, you want it but do you also know why? Of course, it’s a good fantasy to try but you know that it comes with its own set of baggage, right?

The T word

First, let’s talk about the T word. Not threesome but trust. Would it affect your trust if your partner likes someone more than you?  One of the truths about threesomes is that it sounds great but can be difficult to execute. It can have any sort of an impact on your relationship.

Then, who’s the third person? Does your bf have a choice? Are you up to it with another woman or man? Or another man or woman with your man? Does that add a new layer to your sexual identity?

There is one thing I have to say. When someone says no, there’s little we can do about it other than respecting their choices.

Nay means nay, maybe not

The other matter is that it might tend to lead to a fight. Especially if one of the partners is not fully motivated. Some folks think that their partners are not satisfied with them, some feel they are jeopardizing the most crucial part of their relationship but then some feel that it is like just another sex toy – to spice things up a bit.

Kehkashan beta, the verdict on threesomes is still out – it’s a personal and mutual choice. If the partner says no then it’s pretty much where the buck stops. For the time being at least.

How about you start a new fantasy? If your partner is still not open to the idea, you can pretend to have a threesome. You can try roleplaying, involve the make believe third person and maybe even try imagining a third person in your bedroom and see how that goes. Maybe he starts liking it or maybe not.

Threesome 101

A threesome may take a lot of work. You have to be totally clear with each other. You must discuss what’s okay and what’s out of bounds with your partner earlier. You need your relationship to be super secure – not use this to secure your relationship.

Never choose an outsider and trust them to secure your relationship.

Finally, whatever you decide beta, make sure that you and your partner are in sync. Chalo jee, get on that sexy dress and off you go. Let’s see how the night ends.

Beta Kehkashan, I am leaving you with a test. What if your best friend came to you asking you the same question. What would your verdict be?

To protect the privacy of the author, the person in the picture is a model.

Would you agree to a threesome? Share your comments below or join us on Facebook. If you have any question, please visit our discussion forum.

Auntyji saysOye hoye, a threesome can be quite a cumbersome process unless you both are totally awesome. Let’s talk more!

Girls just want to have fun!

You know Kehkashan, what’s really cool? It is the fact that you are proposing an idea to spice up your sex life. It shows that you are not scared of sex and pleasure. You are all about owning it, loving it and I am totally applauding it.

So beta Kehkashan, obviously you both have discussed it – and he has disregarded the idea. Does he say why? Achha puttar, you want it but do you also know why? Of course, it’s a good fantasy to try but you know that it comes with its own set of baggage, right?

The T word

First, let’s talk about the T word. Not threesome but trust. Would it affect your trust if your partner likes someone more than you?  One of the truths about threesomes is that it sounds great but can be difficult to execute. It can have any sort of an impact on your relationship.

Then, who’s the third person? Does your bf have a choice? Are you up to it with another woman or man? Or another man or woman with your man? Does that add a new layer to your sexual identity?

There is one thing I have to say. When someone says no, there’s little we can do about it other than respecting their choices.

Nay means nay, maybe not

The other matter is that it might tend to lead to a fight. Especially if one of the partners is not fully motivated. Some folks think that their partners are not satisfied with them, some feel they are jeopardizing the most crucial part of their relationship but then some feel that it is like just another sex toy – to spice things up a bit.

Kehkashan beta, the verdict on threesomes is still out – it’s a personal and mutual choice. If the partner says no then it’s pretty much where the buck stops. For the time being at least.

How about you start a new fantasy? If your partner is still not open to the idea, you can pretend to have a threesome. You can try roleplaying, involve the make believe third person and maybe even try imagining a third person in your bedroom and see how that goes. Maybe he starts liking it or maybe not.

Threesome 101

A threesome may take a lot of work. You have to be totally clear with each other. You must discuss what’s okay and what’s out of bounds with your partner earlier. You need your relationship to be super secure – not use this to secure your relationship.

Never choose an outsider and trust them to secure your relationship.

Finally, whatever you decide beta, make sure that you and your partner are in sync. Chalo jee, get on that sexy dress and off you go. Let’s see how the night ends.

Beta Kehkashan, I am leaving you with a test. What if your best friend came to you asking you the same question. What would your verdict be?

To protect the privacy of the author, the person in the picture is a model.

Would you agree to a threesome? Share your comments below or join us on Facebook. If you have any question, please visit our discussion forum.

Comments

Try this technique and see if it helps you. Emphasize on your partner's body, and focus on your partner. Involve yourself in foreplay. If you are highly aroused, there is an increase in chances of premature ejaculation. So, you could also masturbate before sex, giving enough time for your body to get an erection again. Condom also helps in prevents premature ejaculation. Read the link given. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Avhiii Bhowmick
Wed, 05/03/2017 - 23:01

Mam my relationship have completed 2yrs but before my gf used to be agree for sex but now days what happen I don't know if I'm forcing her than she will get angry upon me saying that I have problem n u don't understand already 11 months she does not allow me

What might be the reason behind this? Does she not like what you are doing in bed? It's important that you talk to her about this with love and respect without criticism and judgement. Only then you can think of a solution. Also remember that it's her right to say YES or NO. If she doesn't consent, it means you are not supposed to force her. https://lovematters.in/en/news/my-wife-not-interested-sex https://lovematters.in/en/resource/making-love https://lovematters.in/en/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Auntyji
Sat, 07/08/2017 - 14:47

In reply to by v.j

Hi, beta. How are you? How may we help you? If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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