Is it ok to have a sexual fling before marriage?

Auntyji says, ‘Oh ho achcha ... Beta B, let’s first be sure about your reasons to take this plunge. Let’s discuss a few. ‘

Why now?

So beta the first question I think you need to ask yourself is, why do you want to do this? You know this guy you like for a while – yes? Then why the desire to have sex with him, now, before you get married. You could have done it before too, why do you want it so much more now,? Abhi kyun? Is this a need to come close to a man you have some feeling for or is it an assertion – I can take risks too! Consider both.

Is it because you feel, ek last fling toh banta hai? And you think that before you marry, you must get to sample some fun too? And what better way than to do it with some reckless and torrid sex with a guy you like, another man –something new and exciting!

Puttar B, you may want to consider it a bit more thoroughly. Sex can be really fun and give you that sense of freedom – no doubt. But as long as it does not bring any extra baggage or burden, later. Museebat yeh hai – you have to kind of decide now. Once it’s done – you won’t get a chance to undo it, see?

Bawdy talk

I have no holds on having sex before marriage – shareer is yours, control ought to be yours too. Just be sure why you are going about it, so that you have no regrets later. For instance, your new husband turns out to be the most wonderful person and the sassiest lover – you are blown away by his love and charm and now begin to regret that, ‘Oh ho, why did I do that before I married this great guy!’

What if it turns out he asks you, ‘darling, you are my one and only love – I hope you are as pure for me as I am for you’ or some such filmi dialogue; which by the way we hear over and over –are you ready with a ‘lifelong’ answer?  

Will you choose, ‘No! Never! It’s been you and only you’, or will you go with the, ‘truth shall prevail!’ Your husband could react either way – are you ready for that? What if this another guy turns out to be rubbish lover B... ek dum useless... then? Aye haye –thoda sampling kar lena, before you order the entire four-course – intercourse!

(No) Dangerous Liaisons

No, it’s not dangerous at all – hey, what danger can there be but for these later on regrets and maybe guilt pangs? It's your personal choice – even if it's your last ‘salute to singledom’ – your choice entirely! Go ahead – just be safe, ensure you trust the person you want to have sex with and use a condom. Fulfill each desire – every fantasy – but with no regrets at all – is that fine?

Do what you think will give you your sense of liberation – sense of well, power. But uske baad – no looking back – no rona dhona, no regrets. Ok? Ab you sit and think and make a decision. It will be the best one for you, I am sure.  Don’t forget the condoms, for this one and the other!

*To protect the identity, names have been changed and the person/s in the picture is/are models.

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