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My bf loves dirty talking – should I go along with it?
Auntyji says… Boyfriend wants to get naughty Nadia and you are going, “Not me… Not me!” Hain, beta?
All boxes ticked
So beta, first toh I am very happy that he is a good man. I mean he does a lot for you. I am also happy that while you are not comfortable with this, you too want to make him happy. That’s a very positive approach to everything between you two – ok let’s just say it – I mean, !
Ab aayi baat ‘wrong’ ki. Nadia, you know what I always say – sex and everything around it has to be between consenting adults, it has to be consensual and safe. To be double sure, it must be totally negotiated.
That basically means you both know what you signed up for. Once you both tick off those boxes – and we know how hard that is – well then puttar, nothing ought to be dirty or wrong, should it? It’s a very intimate matter and it’s between you two – all boxes ticked!
Let me hear your body talk
Now why does he like dirty talking? Because he likes you, kuddiye! Sex talk or ‘dirty’ talk can make people feel aroused and passionate. If coming from you, or your partner, it’s a no-holds-barred sort of interaction. Let’s say like porn has entered the bedroom or kitchen or wherever it is that you are having sex at the moment.
It shows that you are as much a participant in the giving and receiving of satisfaction. It also shows a great degree of self confidence and yet is such a private thing between the two of you. It heightens the experience.
Actually, here it has a lot to do with him being verrrryyy turned on. Because you are a super sexy lady! It’s bare and it’s naked and it’s out of his own mouth. He said it, you heard it and it will ring in your ears when you are giving that business presentation the next afternoon.
Agreements and negotiations
Hearing your partner mouth words, which are otherwise oh-my-God-so-TABOO, can be a shocker. It could leave you with a WHAT?!-where-did-that-come-from feeling. For some women, it can be read as demeaning,“Why did he say that to me? Does he think I am that type of a girl?” (By the way, what is that type?)
It can come as real bummer, which is why it has to be negotiated. Just like any other sex act. What may seem super sexy to him may make you feel a bit ‘eewwww’ the next morning. You see, just because someone agrees to kiss does not mean they are agreeing to the entire buffet of real and imagined sex acts. Oh no, make no mistake – negotiate.
Sex-pearen diaries
Puttar, sabse vaddi gal, only if you like it. Only if it does all-the-above for you too. If it freaks you out, makes you uncomfy or if you get tongue tied at the very idea, well that’s not going to make for very good sex anyway, is it? Don’t like it, stop him. Easy peasy. The more you invest in the act of sex, the more you get in return betajee, yaad rakhna yeh. What works wonders to spruce up the romp is also the surprise element, and this can be exactly that.
You may not be the Shakespeare of sex talk, but what you can begin with is to keep the ‘bad’, ‘dirty’, ‘wrong’ out of the lexicon of consensual love making. Pyaar ko pyaar hee rehne do, koi ilzaam na do betaaaa! Get ready Nadia, and get into the act, who knows, the very next thing you say, may just send him spinning into the sexmos!
To protect the author’s privacy, the person in the picture is a model.
Have you ever tried dirty talking with your partner? Share your experiences or concerns on our discussion board or Facebook.
Auntyji says… Boyfriend wants to get naughty Nadia and you are going, “Not me… Not me!” Hain, beta?
All boxes ticked
So beta, first toh I am very happy that he is a good man. I mean he does a lot for you. I am also happy that while you are not comfortable with this, you too want to make him happy. That’s a very positive approach to everything between you two – ok let’s just say it – I mean, !
Ab aayi baat ‘wrong’ ki. Nadia, you know what I always say – sex and everything around it has to be between consenting adults, it has to be consensual and safe. To be double sure, it must be totally negotiated.
That basically means you both know what you signed up for. Once you both tick off those boxes – and we know how hard that is – well then puttar, nothing ought to be dirty or wrong, should it? It’s a very intimate matter and it’s between you two – all boxes ticked!
Let me hear your body talk
Now why does he like dirty talking? Because he likes you, kuddiye! Sex talk or ‘dirty’ talk can make people feel aroused and passionate. If coming from you, or your partner, it’s a no-holds-barred sort of interaction. Let’s say like porn has entered the bedroom or kitchen or wherever it is that you are having sex at the moment.
It shows that you are as much a participant in the giving and receiving of satisfaction. It also shows a great degree of self confidence and yet is such a private thing between the two of you. It heightens the experience.
Actually, here it has a lot to do with him being verrrryyy turned on. Because you are a super sexy lady! It’s bare and it’s naked and it’s out of his own mouth. He said it, you heard it and it will ring in your ears when you are giving that business presentation the next afternoon.
Agreements and negotiations
Hearing your partner mouth words, which are otherwise oh-my-God-so-TABOO, can be a shocker. It could leave you with a WHAT?!-where-did-that-come-from feeling. For some women, it can be read as demeaning,“Why did he say that to me? Does he think I am that type of a girl?” (By the way, what is that type?)
It can come as real bummer, which is why it has to be negotiated. Just like any other sex act. What may seem super sexy to him may make you feel a bit ‘eewwww’ the next morning. You see, just because someone agrees to kiss does not mean they are agreeing to the entire buffet of real and imagined sex acts. Oh no, make no mistake – negotiate.
Sex-pearen diaries
Puttar, sabse vaddi gal, only if you like it. Only if it does all-the-above for you too. If it freaks you out, makes you uncomfy or if you get tongue tied at the very idea, well that’s not going to make for very good sex anyway, is it? Don’t like it, stop him. Easy peasy. The more you invest in the act of sex, the more you get in return betajee, yaad rakhna yeh. What works wonders to spruce up the romp is also the surprise element, and this can be exactly that.
You may not be the Shakespeare of sex talk, but what you can begin with is to keep the ‘bad’, ‘dirty’, ‘wrong’ out of the lexicon of consensual love making. Pyaar ko pyaar hee rehne do, koi ilzaam na do betaaaa! Get ready Nadia, and get into the act, who knows, the very next thing you say, may just send him spinning into the sexmos!
To protect the author’s privacy, the person in the picture is a model.
Have you ever tried dirty talking with your partner? Share your experiences or concerns on our discussion board or Facebook.