- Threesomes are strictly for promiscuous or bisexual people
The only attraction of a threesome is not just the merry cocktail of sexes that it offers. For many straight people, it could be merely the kick of doing it with two people of the opposite sex at the same time. The same-sex action in a threesome could be deliberately limited from the very beginning. In fact, a study claimed that sex with multiple opposite-sex partners at the same time was among the top three fantasies of a sizeable number of straight (not bi) men and women. - Threesomes must involve both genders
That’s hardly a necessity. An all-man or all-woman threesome is not just a fantasy but a reality among many homosexuals. Don’t fall for mainstream porn which gives an impression that the standard one male and two females setup is the only possible combination in a threesome. - Threesome is a modern or western phenomenon
While it is true that we have made great progress in exploring the psychology and biology of sex in the past 100 years, sex (even the taboo aspects of it) has always occupied a prominent place in almost all human cultures since times immemorial.
Today, talking about sex is definitely not a ‘recent phenomenon’. Threesomes are no exception! For instance, as far back as in 400 B.C, there was a talk of three-way sex in the Kamasutra. Threesomes and group orgies were no rarities in Ancient Greek culture either. - Threesomes are only for sex addicts
Come on! Threesomes cannot be counted in the same league as a fetish for bondage or a sexual obsession with wearing clothes of your partner. It is true that they’re rare and slightly more complicated than the usual two-way sexual encounter. But that only explains why they’re so under-discussed and a topic of taboo for some people.
Troilism (a term for three-way sexual activity) has been classified as a paraphilia (unusual sexual fetish) in the past, but there have been other studies which have opined that fantasising about threesomes can hardly count as a sexual deviation! - Threesomes always happen in the spur of the moment
Common sense would suggest that threesomes are better when planned rather than impromptu. They’re complicated not only in terms of finding the third partner but also in terms of the sheer practical aspects like positions and where to draw the line.
A two-way sexual chemistry is hard enough to strike right away. One could imagine how much tougher it could get with a threesome! - All threesomes are strictly casual
A lot of us have learned (the hard way, perhaps) that when it comes to sex, nothing is 100 per cent casual. Emotional miscalculations can always upset the casual quotient beyond one’s imagination and before one knows, the threesome could be developing into a love triangle. No, it’s not something that happens only in the movies or something that happens always with threesomes.
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About the author: Harish Pedaprolu is a writer and academic based out of Mumbai, India. He has been writing and editing content for the last 6 years. He has also been researching and teaching philosophy at the university level for the past 5 years. He can be reached out on LinkedIn, Facebook and Instagram.
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