Masturbating a man
Jozsef Szasz-Fabian

Masturbating him: do's and don'ts

Masturbating your partner can be a great way to spice up your sex life. You could use it as foreplay, but you can also make him have a complete orgasm with a hand-job. Wondering how you can pleasure him with your handywork? Here are some do’s and don’ts.

Do…

  • Build up slowlyTake your time to set the right mood. Avoid grabbing his crotch right away. Instead start gradually by kissing, massaging and touching him with clothes on. Once the mood is sensual and passionate, unzip his pants and pay attention to everything down there.
  • Get your grip rightGrab his penis not too gently, neither too firmly with your hand. Start moving your hand up and down in a rhythmic motion. Be aware that grabbing the head of his penis can be too sensitive, especially at first. If he’s circumcised the head of his penis is likely to be less sensitive.
  • Get the pace rightPay attention to the speed at which your hand is moving. You can start slowly and then gather speed as he nears climax. On the other hand, if he’s really turned on, you can slow right down as orgasm approaches and teasingly hold the tension as you build to a big explosion.This depends on the guy and the moment. If he’s having trouble climaxing (maybe you’ve already had steamy sex, for example!) it will be frustrating if you keep it too slow and gentle. But if he’s ready to burst, going too fast will feel like you’re rushing it and wasting the moment. Watch him closely, follow his movements – or just ask!Once he starts ejaculating, hold your hand steady or slow right down. The head of the man’s penis is very sensitive when he cums, and too much action around it while he’s having an orgasm could make it painful for him. And oh...don’t forget to maintain sexy eye contact all along.
  • Make it wetWetter is always better, so you may want to use a lube. Just squeeze some of it on his penis before you start off. You could also just spit some saliva (which is a natural lubricant) on your palm before you rub his penis.As he gets more turned on, a little pre-cum will start coming out of the end of his penis. This will make the head of his penis nice and slippery.

Don’t…

  • Be afraid of exploringYour partner will be delighted if you take the initiative to explore his body. Don’t hold yourself back from doing something that you’re afraid he won’t like. Go ahead and experiment.Read his body language to check if he really likes it or not. If he moans with delight, you’ll know it worked! And... if you’re really unsure, you can also just ask him what he’d like you to do to him.
  • Ignore the rest of his accessories Remember a man can also get excited when you sensually touch his testicles. While you’re holding his penis with one hand, try cupping his testicles with the other or stroking them gently with your fingers. You could also use your tongue to stimulate his testicles.The perineum, a piece of tissue that connects the man’s testicles to his anus, is also an erogenous spot. You can gently press the perineum while giving your partner a hand-job, especially just before he’s about to cum.If your partner likes it, you could also grab his butt and stroke his anus or even slip a finger inside. Use some saliva or lubricant to make your finger wet first though, and go gently.
  • Use just one action A hand-job doesn’t have to involve one boring action. You can use a few techniques to spice it up and make it more pleasurable for him. Apart from holding his penis entirely in your hand, you can use other kinds of grips. You can make a circle with your thumb and index finger and rub his penis from the bottom to the head. You may also use both hands at once and move them in one direction or in opposite directions.The most important tip of all is to have fun while giving your partner a hand-job. If he sees that you’re enjoying it as much as he is, it’s surely likely to add to his pleasure!
  • Look boredIf you look like you’re shaking a ketchup bottle and thinking about what to have for dinner, it’s a huge turn-off. Just because most guys can get off more easily than girls, it doesn’t mean they’re just ejaculation machines. Show him you’re loving it too, and you’ll double his pleasure!

 

 

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