‘When pain becomes pleasure’
Kink is a practice that derives sheer joy by the element of forbidding attached to it. For me, kink brings its novelty from the fact that pain is used to derive pleasure. How fulfilling that turns out to be depends on the degree of sexual attraction to the partner, whosoever that may be.
Soft kink suffices to fulfil that desire: spanking, hickeys, squeezes etc. For me, kink is intricately connected to the psychological aspects of fulfilment. The pain is converted to pleasure. Once the latter is attained, kink as an activity loses its charm for me.
- Souvik Datta (26), Professor of English literature
‘It’s hard to find a compatible match’
Even though I am not a practitioner, I am quite open to the idea. I think kink is thrilling and changes the idea of sex into adventure and performance. I think I can practise kink only when I find a partner with similar desires.
Most of the men I have been with have enjoyed borderline kink sex (use of food material or other objects). It is very important to understand that practising kink requires both the partner to be deeply comfortable with it. Such people are hard to find.
- Fareeda Alam (23), Environmental science student
‘Preying and devouring’
My desire for kink varies actually. Most times, I love to be the ‘wolf’ and prey upon my lovers. ‘Eating’ and ‘being eaten’ is what I enjoy the most. That way, I like being a popsicle to my partner.
Hurting is surely a part of the game, with mutual consent of course. I also like to do it in different dark corners of the house, especially closed and confined spaces. I also like the idea of the body squeezing into such spaces while struggling between breathing and kissing.
- Sahil Arora (24), Electronics and telecommunications engineer
‘Not into dirty games’
I am not sure yet about what exactly I like. It all depends on my comfort level with my partner. However, I am mostly open to all experiences.
I detest anything that is conventional and love out of the ordinary experiences. Having said that, I would not be okay with participating activities like peeing on each other. I know some people who do love it.
- Raina Talukder (25), Writer
‘I love to be tied’
I have been in three long-term relationships so far. I have also been successful to initiate them into the ‘kink’ of tying. I have loved ties since childhood. I buy them now especially for this purpose.
I love getting tied. There is something sexy about being helpless at the hands. My partners, all of them, were hesitant in the beginning. When I explained them why I like it, they seemed to understand.
Sometimes, it is not just about love. It is also about how we see power and in which way we would want ourselves to be powerful. However, I was completely unhappy when Fifty Shades of Grey was released, clearly because of the concept of consent missing therein.
- Percy Kothavla (28), Chef
All names have been changed in the text.