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Threesome: Do’s and don’ts

The idea of having a third person in the bedroom can be tempting, but tricky at the same time. To play it cool, trust Love Matters’ list of do’s and don’ts.

Do…

  • Be sure
    Well before you jump in bed with two other people, ask yourself if you’re ready for it. What are your reasons for wanting a threesome? Are you in a relationship and looking to add some spice to your sex life? If yes, have you considered if bringing in a third person into your bedroom might lead to jealousy and turn matters worse? On the other hand, if you’re single, have you thought about how this would affect the relationship between the three of you in the future? Do weigh all your pros and cons.
  • Take a safe pick
    Once you’re sure about your motivations, think about whom you would want to do it with? If you’re in a relationship, pick someone who isn’t threatening to your relationship and understand the reason behind your adventure. Do not ever try this out with your spouse’s best friend or your close friends. You may find it painful to see your partner pay more attention to someone you both know well. If you’re single and looking for some fun, it’s important to find someone with the same intentions.
  • Set some guidelines
    Don’t forget to set some ground rules. Speak with your partners and consider all the choices and possibilities. Threesomes can get demanding and even dirty! If you like, suggest safe words or signs to indicate a time out or stop.
  • Keep communication alive
    Yes, keep up the sexy talk. Talking to each other during the act might increase pleasure!  It’s also okay to take a step away for a moment and say some sexy things while you observe the rest making out. Then join in slowly and let the other person say a word or two. It is important that you communicate with each other, not just with words, but also gestures and movements.
  • Be considerate
    Always remember to consciously make an effort to give everyone a chance. The beauty of a threesome lies in its slowness. Hasty sex could only ruin all the fun for all three of you. During the act, remember to take turns and let everyone get a chance at the ride!
  • Feel comfortable with saying no
    Don’t hesitate to say no to something that you’re uncomfortable with. It might seem daunting to go against the flow, but it’s essential that you don’t feel pressured into something you aren’t ready for. Remember, sex, even when it’s with more than one person at a time, is pleasurable only with consent.

Don’t…

  • Get get over attached
    Getting emotionally close to one of the participants can be disastrous for a threesome. It will not only create complications, but may also offend the other and make them feel left out. Try to divide your attention equally. You certainly don’t want the night to end in drama or even worse, tears.
  • Try to solve relationship woes with a threesome
    If your relationship is currently going through a bumpy ride and your partner slips in the idea of including a third partner to spice it up, don’t give in! Inside your head it may seem unimaginably sexy to see your partner with another person but in reality, it can make things worse for you. Even the most liberal of partners cannot help being jealous.
  • Get drunk before the act
    Getting a little tipsy can definitely help set the mood and shed inhibitions, but don’t get drunk. A lot can happen in a state of stupor. When there are boundaries, rules and safe words to take care of, you cannot expect yourself to be drunk and play it smooth at the same time.
  • Always aim for climax
    You will enjoy a threesome better if you play it longer. Threesomes aren’t supposed to be goal-oriented. Don’t make orgasms the end destination. And remember that you’re a performer. Try to ditch climax for a while and soak yourself in lots of foreplay

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Bete maaf kojiyega, ismein hum aapki koi bhi madad nahi kar sakte. Lekin threesome karne se pahle iske bare mein- achchha/bura- jaan lijiye. Phir koi nirnay lijiye, theek hai bête! Bas yeh ek baat yad rakhiye, ki threesome itna asan nahin, so achhi tareh soch leejiye - yeh kadam uthane se pehle - aur ise padhiye: https://lovematters.in/en/making-love/ways-to-make-love/threesome-top-6-myths Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Akhil beta yadi aap threesome ki baat kar rahe hain toh pahle aap threesome ke bare mein- achchha/bura- jaan lijiye. Phir koi nirnay lijiye, theek hai bête! Bas yeh ek baat yad rakhiye, ki threesome itna asan nahi, kuchh cheezen fantansy mein achchhi/sexy lagtin hain, so achhi tareh soch leejiye - yeh kadam uthane se pehle - aur of course, sabse badi baat, yadi aapki wife iske liye ready nahi toh kisi bhi sexual activity mein jor jabardasti nahi honi chahiye, yadi unki marzi nahi hai, toh unka samman kijiye, yeh jaiz demand nahi. Ise padhiye: https://lovematters.in/en/making-love/ways-to-make-love/threesome-top-6-myths Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Sorry Somya bete hum ismein aapki madad nahi kar sakte hain, lekin sabse pahle ye jaan lijiye ki threesome ya kisi bhee sexual activity mein dono ki sahmati hona zaruri hota hai- aapko threesome ki kalpana kar ke aanand ki anubhuti hoti hogi- lekin kuchh cheezen fantansy mein achchhi/sexy lagtin hain - isliye pahle threesome ke bare mein- achchha/bura- jaan lijiye. Phir koi nirnay lijiye, theek hai bête! Bas yeh ek baat yad rakhiye, ki threesome itna asan nahin, so achhi tareh soch leejiye - yeh kadam uthane se pehle - aur ise padhiye: https://lovematters.in/en/making-love/ways-to-make-love/threesome-top-6-myths Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete ladki ho ya ladka janwar ke saath sex karna bilkul sahi nahi hai – who bezubaan hai – aur manav jaati ke sath sex ke liye “uplabdh” nahi. Yeh harkat jo bhi kar rahe ho, ise roke dena chahiye –phoren. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Beta yadi aap dono ki marzi hai toh kar sakte hain lekin isse pahle aap threesome ke bare mein- achchha/bura- jaan lijiye. Phir koi nirnay lijiye, theek hai bête! Bas yeh ek baat yad rakhiye, ki threesome itna asan nahi, so achhi tareh soch leejiye - yeh kadam uthane se pehle. Ise padhiye aur apni wife ko bhi padha dijiye: https://lovematters.in/en/making-love/ways-to-make-love/threesome-top-6-myths Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bête pahli baar sex karte samay kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaye is bare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/first-time-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Main apni wife ke sath jab sex karta hai to ham donon dusre ko imaging karke sex karte hain bahut maja aata hai meri wife ko aur vah kahati hai sex ke dauran mujhe Lamba l chahie mil jaaye to sex kar lungi mujhe bhi bahut maja aata hai kya main apni wife ko dusre se sex karne ke liye Raji kar sakta hun
Amit bete kuchh cheezen fantansy mein achchhi/sexy lagtin hain- lekin kya aapki patni bhee ise pasand karengi, kya veh sehmat hongee? Yeh bhi sochiye ki yeh baat kahan ja sakti hai- wo naraz ho saktin hain ya aap par shaq kar sakti hain- ya phir maan bhee sakti hain. Aap chahen toh unhe tatole kar dekh sakte hain lekin isse pahle aap threesome ke bare mein- achchha/bura- jaan lijiye. Phir koi nirnay lijiye, theek hai bête! Bas yeh ek baat yad rakhiye, ki threesome itna asan nahi, so achhi tareh soch leejiye - yeh kadam uthane se pehle - aur of course, sabse badi baat, aapki wife ki readyness, razamandi. https://lovematters.in/en/making-love/ways-to-make-love/threesome-top-6-myths Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete yeh jaan lijiye ki kisi bhi sexual activity mein dono ki marzi honi chahiye, yadi aapki marzi nahi ho toh mana kar dijiye. Lekin koi bhi nirnay lene se pahle aap threesome ke bare mein- achchha/bura- jaan lijiye. Phir koi nirnay lijiye, theek hai bête! Bas yeh ek baat yad rakhiye, ki threesome itna asan nahi, so achhi tareh soch leejiye - yeh kadam uthane se pehle. Ise padhiye, nirnay lene mein shayad madad ho jaye: https://lovematters.in/en/making-love/ways-to-make-love/threesome-top-6-myths Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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