69 is a classic sex position. The ancient text Kama Sutra has mentioned it. Museums around the world have artifacts portraying it. But what exactly is it?
Imagine that “6” is the shape of a human body on top of another human body shaped like“9”. That pretty much sums up how the 69 position works. It’s basically when two sex partners are positioned in such a way that each one’s mouth faces the genitals of their partner. In this position, the partners perform oral sex on each other simultaneously. The partners can be of the same sex or of opposite sexes.
The main thrill of this position lies in the fact that it simultaneously involves two very important pleasure points in your body – your mouth and your genitals. And it does the same for your partner as well - at the very same time! This obviously gives a much higher physical and psychological rush than simple oral sex.
Is it kinky? Yes. Is it fun? Yes. Is it complicated? Well, not really. Here are some dos and don’ts to keep in mind if you are thinking of 69-ing:
The standard 69 involves one person lying on their back while their partners lie on top of them in the opposite direction. This allows them to perform oral sex on each other in one go. One stone, two birds!
The fun thing about 69 is that there’s no hard and fast rule about who needs to be lying on the top and who needs to be at the bottom. As if 69 wasn’t already fun enough, swapping positions can add some extra thrill and fun to the whole act. Swapping and experimenting with positions can be avoided, though, if one of the partners is much heavier than the other. In that case, the heavier partner can take the bottom position.
While the mouth and genitals play the main role in 69, there’s a lot more you can use in 69. You could choose to involve your hands and fingers too. Or throw in some sex toys as well. Use your imagination, and the sky's the limit with this one!
When it comes to 69ing , it’s quite possible that you might be reaching orgasm at a stage when you are simultaneously performing oral sex on your partner who’s yet to orgasm. In such a state, it’s quite possible that the pleasure of your orgasm might completely take your mind off what your mouth is doing. Be careful that your mouth doesn’t go too rough on your partner around such times!
Because 69 involves one partner lying on the top of the other, it’s important to not strain your neck while doing this. For this, you’ve to spend some time getting your comfort zone right before you lose yourself in the passion.
The partner at the bottom can use pillows to their advantage in case of discomfort. Ideally, placing a pillow below the head can help the partner at the bottom enjoy the act without too much pain in the back of the neck or the head. A pillow can also be placed below the hips to avoid lower back strain for the bottom partner.
In case you and your partner have a slight height difference, the 69 can still be performed in the standard position without any difficulty. In case the height difference is major, you could try the more flexible sideways alternative. In Sideway 69, the partners lie next to each other with their heads facing the opposite directions.
69 requires some bit of experience and coordination to be fully enjoyed. So, in the first few attempts, it might be a bit awkward. But don’t be embarrassed about this at all. Don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner if you’re uncomfortable about the pressure or position they’re using. After all, isn’t sex all about finding the right chemistry?
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