Do…
- Be spontaneous
Quickies hinge on spontaneity. Do you find yourself in a situation where you want to have sex with your partner, but haven’t got too much time? Or want to try a shorter session? Be quick to decide whether or not you want to see it through. The more time you lose in making the decision, the less time you have for some action!
- Make sure they are in
While you might find the moment perfect for sex, it might not be the same for your partner. Find out if your partner is in the same mood. You can try some sensual strokes, kisses and whispers to check their response. If they don’t seem positive, they are probably not in. Don’t be disappointed. There will always be another time!
- Indulge in short foreplay
Once you know your partner is in, make sure that you spend some time in quick foreplay. Foreplay – quick or long, sets the right mood for sex! It might end up being no fun at all if you and your partner aren’t ready for sex.
- Be creative
Surprise your partner by trying new positions or ways to make love. You can try quickies at different locations too. Try going oral! Or send a sexy message before you meet them. You can jump in the shower with them when they don’t expect it, or in the kitchen while making dinner. You can also try keeping your clothes on and turn up the heat. Unexpected quickies can be really exciting and spice up your sex life!
Don’t…
- Plan too much
Don’t spend an afternoon planning a quickie! Listen to your instincts and be spontaneous. Just go with the flow…
- Cause hurt or pain
Women need a bit more time than men to get aroused and wet. Vaginal intercourse, when not entirely aroused, can be painful for women. Make sure that she’s ready and wet before you enter. Feel free to use lubes to ease and/or fasten the process.
- Forget safety
It’s likely that in the heat of the moment, you forget to slip on that condom. Or you might find it unsexy to interrupt what you’re doing to think about safety and contraception. Always remember, better safe than sorry. Condoms and other contraceptives prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancy.
- Forget to clean up
Depending on where you are, you might want to clean up after a quickie – in case you have an appointment or guests visiting
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Gayatri Parameswaran is a multi-award-winning writer, director and producer of immersive media works. She was born and raised in India and is currently based in Berlin, where she co-founded NowHere Media - a storytelling studio that views contemporary issues through a critical lens. She also edited the Love Matters website in its initial years. Check out more about her here.
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