Auntyji says... Wah ji Wah, khush kar ditta mainu. This is the question I’ve been waiting for. Not my entire life, but ever since my middle daughter, Sweetie, asked me the same thing last year. She was also perplexed about bringing machines into the bedroom. But if you ask me, in very short, bring in as heavy machinery as possible.
So let's tackle your issues on by one.
You already have friends who are using vibrators, so you know that they are safe and more importantly incredible fun. For those who came in late, a vibrator is a penis-shaped device usually made of plastic or rubber or both. Yes, it’s kind of like the good old dildo but with a very important improvement. It has a little motor built in that does all the hard work for you.
And it works really hard too. You may think of me as a little sexist for saying this but the vibrator is right up there with the pressure cooker and the microwave as gadgets that truly revolutionised women's lives.
Taboo but common
It's not a basic household necessity yet because of its taboo value, but trust me betaji, it's more common than you might imagine. And more liberating than burning bras. Actually, it's the gift that every bride should be given. Dahej chaddo, this is what every girl truly needs.
Because the right vibrator can solve a lot of marital problems. I wouldn't say it is a replacement for a man or even our own hands. But depending on your mood or need, it could be much more effective than either.
Many women find that a vibrator can make them climax very easily. But of course, doesn’t replace the closeness and passion of making love. And although it can be nice to use it all on your own, many people are a wonderful way to spice up their lovemaking together.
More sex, better sex
As far as addiction is considered, well, a vibrator is as addictive as good sex. So yes, it is something one can truly get used to. And I know for sure that more traditional means can keep up with the vibrator in the number and intensity of your orgasms. So no need to worry that you just might go off men.
Your hubby doesn't need to be insecure. And I mean it. There are also times when I'm sure you already know of when you just need another warm body beside you. It won’t be a bad idea to come clean about your little – or large – device to your husband.
In fact, researchers have found that women who use vibrators want sex more often. What’s more, the sex is better too, with more orgasms – with or without the vibrator. So a vibrator won’t be just a gift for yourself, but also for your husband!
Explore your wilder side
Namrata puttar, just let him know that he's not being replaced, just the quality of your sex life is being upgraded. In fact, you're doing him a favour by lowering his workload. And we live in the real world. Aajkal most men like their women to explore their wilder side. A few just might have a go themselves. No?
Some ‘macho’ men might see them as competition, but they must stop worrying and learn to love the machine. It might not be natural, but it’s very normal.
We all know that sex is good. Vibrators only make it better. And I have on good authority that Rooh Afza before and after using it really makes it great. Go on, try it and then I’ll let you know an appropriate thank you gift. Make mine a large one.
To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed.
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