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Anal sex

Many people enjoy anal sex. Others are ashamed of it or think it’s dirty. Anal sex is often a taboo.

What feels good?

It can feel good to have your anus stroked. It can also feel good to have a finger inside your anus. If you put your finger in your partner’s anus during sex, first moisten your finger with spit or lubricant. When you first touch it, the anus will squeeze tight – it’s a muscle reflex. Rest your finger on it and wait a little before you go any further.

Possibilities

Touch your anus when you masturbate.
Stroke or caress your partner’s anus during lovemaking.
Put something in the anus – a finger, a penis, a vibrator
Lick the anus – this is sometimes called ‘rimming’
Press or caress the skin between the balls and the anus (the perineum).

Touching the prostate

In men, a little way inside the anus you can feel the prostate. This is one of the most sensitive parts of a boy’s body. It’s about five centimetres inside the anus on the stomach side. Some men find it arousing to have their prostate touched. You can do it by putting your finger in the anus and moving it in and out.

The anus is close to the sex organs, has a lot of nerve endings and contracts when you have an orgasm. This is why anal sex feels good.

Pain

Anal sex shouldn’t hurt. But if you’ve no experience with it, it can be painful. Use lubricant and relax during lovemaking, and the pain will go. If it’s painful when the penis enters the anus, pull it out carefully, because it can hurt even more if you do it quickly.

Many people like to include the anus in lovemaking. If you don’t, say so. You don’t have to like everything!

Tips for problem-free anal sex

- Take your time. Start carefully and gently, give each other time to relax.

- Always use a water-based lubricant.

- Always use a condom. The inside of the anus can easily get infected. You can easily get little cuts or cracks in the skin, putting you at risk of infection with HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases. If your condom tears, you should go to a clinic or see a medical professional and get tested for sexually transmitted diseases. You don’t have to have anal sex. If you don’t want to, or it doesn’t work out, just do something else that you enjoy. Worried about hygiene?

- Make sure you’ve passed stool before you start. And you can also have a shower together first.

- Use a new condom if you have vaginal sex after anal sex. And if you’ve done it without a condom, at least wash your penis. The same goes for dildos and vibrators.

- If you put an object in the anus, make sure it’s the right shape. The tip should be rounded and the outside end should be wider than the rest, otherwise it can get sucked inside the rectum and get stuck.

You can’t get pregnant through anal sex. But you can get pregnant if sperm runs forward into the vagina.

Step-by-step

The first time you have anal sex it can be scary and sometimes painful. This usually passes when you have more experience, use lubricant, and relax during sex.

Step by step

1. First touch and caress the anus, to get used to the feeling. If it feels good to your partner, you can put your finger inside the anus a little way and move it slowly back and forth.
2. Would you like to go further? You can put a small dildo or buttplug (a special dildo designed for the anus) inside, to get used to something that’s a bit bigger than a finger, but still smaller than a penis.
3. Both still happy about it and you’d like to go further still? You can gently put the end of the penis in – use a condom and plenty of lubricant! Do it slowly and carefully so you can both get used to it. If it’s painful, take the penis out slowly. If you do it quickly, it can hurt all the more.
4. Does this still feel good for both of you? Then the boy can slowly push his penis deeper in the anus and increase the speed.

Gay or straight

Is anal sex only for homosexuals? Not at all, heterosexuals also have anal sex. It’s one of the ways of having sex for both homosexuals and heterosexuals.

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Rahul Jadav
Thu, 05/11/2017 - 15:12
Mam Main Apni Guda Main Ungiya Karta Hu Koi Nukshan To Nahi Hoga. Aur Kuch Aesi Chize Bhi Dalta Hu.....Pls Ans Do Mujhe
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Rider Ashish
Sat, 01/09/2016 - 20:01
Hello Mam,Meri umar 18 saal hai aur mere gf ki 16 saal ham sex ke liye raazi hai par uski umar 16 saal hai sex karna safe rahega ya nahikya mein uske sath sex kar sakta hu???
Hmmm! So Ashish suniye 18 saal se kam umar ki mahila ke saath kiya gaya sex chahein woh uski marzi se hee kyun na kiya gaya ho RAPE ki category mein aata hai. Isliye Ab sahi aur galat ka nirnye aap swayam lijiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/im-21-love-teenager
Nothing like that, dear. It's just a myth. If this works for you, Go ahead but remember to use condom! There is no possibility to get pregnant through anal sex, don’t worry! But for cleanliness sake it is recommended that you use a condom. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aaap khud ye nirney nahi ley saktay ki aapka penis small hai big, aur sorry bête isay bada ya lamba karne ka koi tarika nahi hai Ling ki sahi jaankari ke liey yaha padh lo: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes
Yadi dono partners ki poori sehmati hai issey karney may to kar saktay hai lekin , condom use karein, for sure. isse safety bhi rahegee, safai bhi aur sex mein aasaani bhi. All the best http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex
Dekhiye kisi bhi sex activity ke liye dono partners ki sehmati hona bohot zaruri hai.Isliye aap Kuch mat kijiey aur sahi sammaey aaney ka intzaar kijiey jab wo khud sehmati dikhaey sex ke liey.Kyunki kisi bhi rishtey mey jabardasti acceptable nahi hai . in baton se dhyan hatiey aur apney rishtey ko aur majbut banaiey.
Suniye Yadi dono partners ki poori sehmati hai issey karney may to hi yeh kar saktay hai lekin bete yadi unki sehmati issay karne mein nahi hai toh please koi force mat kijiye, kyunki kisi bhi rishtay mein zabradasti ke liye koi sthann nahi hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex
Suniye! Yadi dono partners ki poori sehmati hai issey karney may to kar saktay hai lekin , condom use karein, for sure. isse safety bhi rahegee, safai bhi aur sex mein aasaani bhi. All the best http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex
Ek baar ejeculation ke ling ko dubara utejit hone mein jo time lagta hai woh bohot hi common hai so don't worry. Aur bête Yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik hee hogee. aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge mein help karta hai.http://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
Suniye! Is tarah hum kisi bhi medicine ka naam apko nahi bata sakte! Aur naa hi is tarah koi bhi medicine lena swasth hai.Aur ek baar ejaculation ke dubara ling ke tyyar hone mein jo samye lagta hai woh bohot common hain.so don't worry!
Yadi dono partners ki poori sehmati hai issey karney may to kar saktay hai lekin , condom use karein, for sure. isse safety bhi rahegee, safai bhi aur sex mein aasaani bhi. All the best http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex
Dekho bete! kisi bhi sexual activity mein ek cheez bohot hi important hai woh hai dono logo ki sehmati. Yadi woh abhi is baat ke liye sehmat nahi hain toh aap bhi force mat kijiye. Aur bhi activities hai jo aap try kar sakte hain :is baaray mein yaha padhein: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love
Yadi dono partners ki poori sehmati hai issey karney may to kar saktay hai lekin , condom use karein, for sure. isse safety bhi rahegee, safai bhi aur sex mein aasaani bhi. All the best http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex
Bete anal sex mein koi samsya nahi yadi dono partners ki poori sehmati hai issey karney may to kar saktay hai lekin wo part bohot dry hota hai jiksey liey koi chiknai Jaise KY jelly ka istemal kiya ja sakta hai ya chikanai yukt condom bhi use kar saktay hai, yadi condom ka istemal kiya jaey to koi side effect nahi hai. LEKIN, yeh jaan leejiye ki Har koi hark ism ke sex ke liye tayyar nahin ho jaate – isme unki marzee honi chhaiye. Yadi unhe yeh pasand nahin toh iska matlab hai ,NAHIN. Samjh Gaye? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex
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