We asked Dr Bizimana to reveal the secrets of getting hands-on with your penis.
Anyway, the penis is a better tool for the job, he says. “With the penis you can stimulate several erogenous zones almost at the same time, moving from the vaginal opening up to the beginning of the clitoris. By doing this you stimulate at least three erogenous zones.”
The secret of the tapping or slapping action is that it gives deep clitoral stimulation. The little bump we think of as the clitoris is really just just the very tip – a bit like the head of the penis. The whole organ carries on deep inside the body.
“Kunyaza stimulates the part we see, and the inner part, the part we don’t see – if you do it forcefully.”
Kunyaza can be a boon to women who have trouble having an orgasm, says Dr Bizimana. Here the technique beats intercourse hands down, he says. After all, only around three women in ten ever manage to reach orgasm from intercourse alone.
His study on a group of 55 women aged between 20 and 56 backs up the theory. Using kunyaza, the number of women in the group who never had orgasms nearly halved, and the number of women who had multiple orgasms nearly doubled.
It doesn’t take years of practice to master the method, the doctor says. “It’s easy, you only have to decide to do it. The problem is that the women want to try it, but the men don’t want to learn!”
Which raises the question, what’s in it for the man exactly? Apart from the satisfaction of pleasing your partner, of course. How do men have an orgasm with kunyaza?
“It varies,” the doctor says. “But anyhow, the men can have orgasm just from the vulval stimulation, without vaginal penetration.”
And there are other benefits. “This technique is stimulating because the man experiences a lot of warmth from the fluid – it’s very good! And the sound can also arouse him. Because when you do it, you have a noise like a dog drinking water.”
This brings us to the reputation for sopping wet sex from which kunyaza gets its name. “The main characteristic is that women produce and eject a lot of liquid," says the doctor. "Literally translated, kunyaza means to urinate. But it’s not urine, it’s vaginal fluid.”
Female ejaculation is usually said to be produced by stimulating the G-spot, a sensitive spot inside the vagina on the front wall. Don’t you need penetration for a squirting orgasm?
“It’s not important,” says Dr Bizimana with a gleam in his eye. “I know myself.” The secret of the squirting could be partly to do with stimulating glands in the folds of the labia, Bartholin’s glands and Skene’s glands, he says.
“The next step is that we want to do a chemical analysis of the fluid, to prove it’s not urine. Because some women produce 600 millilitres! One German woman measured it. It’s not a myth, it exists.”
Dr Nsekuye Bizimana is the founder of the African Sexual Institute in Berlin, Germany.
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