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First time sex: top five facts

First time sex – you will never forget it! It can be scary, but also exciting and special. So it's important to have a nice experience. How can you do this? Find out in the fourth edition of our Top Five Facts. 
  • Pay attention to your partner, too!
    Is he or she enjoying it? Ask. Is he or she nervous? Try to reassure your partner by saying loving things. Does your partner feel insecure about you seeing him or her naked? Give compliments. Can you tell your partner doesn’t want to go any further? Respect his or her wishes.

    Listen to your own feelings and your partner’s: if you feel like you’re not ready for sex yet, don't ignore the feeling! You are the only one who knows when you are ready. Don't let someone talk you into it, and only have sex with someone you trust. That's the key to having a good time!
  • Build up slowly
    You don’t have to do everything straight away. Build up the excitement slowly, so you both get aroused. When a girl gets sexually aroused, her vagina becomes wet. This is important, because otherwise intercourse would hurt.

    For three-quarters of all young people their sexual explorations go in this order: first kiss, caressing under clothes, masturbating each other and finally intercourse.
  • Talk to each other
    The first time you probably won’t know quite what you should do. Pay attention to the way your partner responds. Does your partner moan? Does he or she guide your hand to a particular place? These are signs that you’re heading in the right direction! But often the signals aren’t so clear. So talk to each other about what you’d like to try or not. Many people find talking about it really arousing too.

    And don't forget to laugh! Humour and sex are a perfectly good mix!

    If you want to know more about making love to a woman, watch our animated video here...
  • It's not like in the movies
    Don't expect it to go smoothly from the very beginning. It’s possible that the girl will experience some pain when she tries to have a guy enter her for the first time.

    You might also have trouble putting on a condom – it’s a good idea to try it out beforehand! Or the guy might come really quickly as soon as his penis slips inside – or even before. Or the opposite – he might find his erection drooping because of the nerves.

    This is all completely normal. Take your time and talk about it. And try again. Don't take it too hard if it doesn't work out perfectly the first time – just keep on trying!
  • Pain
    For women, first time sex can be painful. That's because the hymen, a stretchy piece of skin that partially covers the opening of the vagina, tears or stretches to let the penis in. Or because the girl is nervous, so her vagina tenses up and that makes penetration painful.

    Sometimes the expectation of pain is what makes a girl tense up so sex hurts. If she’s really relaxed, aroused and wet, though, there needn’t be any pain at all – or at least it can be minimal. Take deep breaths and relax. Don't rush or force anything. 

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model.

If you've already had sex, how was your first time? And if you haven't yet, how do you feel about the prospect of losing your virginity? Leave a comment here or join the discussion on Facebook (we don't need to include your real name by the way).

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Akhil bete, ek achhe sex ke liye zaruri hai ki sex mein woh activities ki jayein jisse dono hee partners ko ananad mile. Isliye apni partner ki body ko samjh lijiye- usko time dijiye. partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Yeh links bhee padh lijiye: https://lovematters.in/en/making-love/orgasms/his-orgasmsYadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete kisi bhi sexual activity mein ek cheez bohot hi important hai woh hai dono logo ki sehmati. Yadi woh abhi is baat ke liye sehmat nahi hain toh aap bhi force mat kijiye. Aur jab tak mahila khud nahi batyegi ki woh pehli baar hi sex kar rahi hain koi bhi is baat ka pata nahi laga sakta. Ye padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/do-indian-men-not-understand-consent https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/female-virginity-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Harpreet bete hum ismein aapki koi sahayata nahi kar sakte hai. Lekin aap hastmethun try kar saktay hain kyunki hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. Aur ye bhi jaan lijiye ki ladkiyan keval sex purti karne ka zariya nahi hoti, unka samman kijiye, jaise aap apane ghar ki mahilaon ka karte hain, OK!! https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhi nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Bete garbhnirodhan ke kai upaye hain jinhe aap apni suvidha ke mutabiq le sakte hain woh aap yaha padh sakte hai: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/birth-control Lekin yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chahte hai to kisi aur tarikay ke mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tareeka hai. Isse unchahe garbh ke saath saath yon sakramad ke khatre se bhi bacha ja sakta hai. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Beta, yeh shayed itna sahi samay nahin - aap dono abhi bahut hee kum umr ke hain - aur shayed sex karne jaisa bada nirnay lene ke liye abhi aap tayyar bhee nahin aur abhi to yeh bhi nahin pata ki iske baad apki gf isse kaise leytee hain - yadi veh bahut hee chintit aur dar jaati hain toh? Ek rishte mein sex he sab kuch nahin - apn dosti aur nizdiki pe kaam keejiye - nazdik rehne ke alag alag tareke dhoondiye! Theek hai beta? Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Nitesh bete, pehli baar sex karte samaye kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kaise theek tarah se kiya jaye, is bare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijieye : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/en/news/first-time-sex-dos-and-donts Saath hi sex activity mein alag-alag tariko ka istemaal karte huay isse kese aur mazedaar banana hai is baare mein yaha padhein: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
M a 18 yrs old boy nd mai sex krna chahta hu bt mujhe drr lgta hai ki may be mujhe v pain hoga to koi bta skta hai ki 1st time sex k baad penis me kya change aayega bcoz mera penis 5 inches ka hai bt ekdum skinny hai
Hmmm! So bete is dauraan pain ho bhi sakta hai aur nahi bhi. Bete iski wajah penis ki skin ho sakti hain. Yadi woh theek tarah se peechhe nahi hui hogi toh yeh durd ka karan ban sakti hai. Isliye is skin ko nahate samay halke se pichhay kar ke saaf karna hota hai jissey ki waha saafai bani raheye. Iske alawa sex mein dryness bhi durd ki wajh ban sakti hai jis baare mein poori jaankari aap yeh link padh kar hasil kar sakte hain. https://lovematters.in/en/news/will-my-foreskin-hurt-when-i-first-have-sex For happy sex: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/secret-happy-sex-right-lubricant Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
mai 16 yrs ka hu nd 16 yrs k apne gf se sex krna chahta hu aur wo v chahti hai. to kya hm sex kr skte hai aur agar ha to usko satisfy krne k liye mere penis ka dimension kya hona chahiye
Please size par mat jao apna andaaz achchha karo unke saath time bithao. Ling ke size ki sahi jaankari yahan se hasil kijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes https://lovematters.in/hi/news/penis-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/news/worried-your-penis-too-small https://lovematters.in/hi/news/what-women-penis Lekin ye bhee jaan lijiye ki 18 saal se kam umar ki mahila ke saath kiya gaya sex chahein woh uski marzi se hee kyun na kiya gaya ho RAPE ki category mein aata hai. Is baare mein bhee vichaar kijiye. Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Zara Khan
Sat, 07/21/2018 - 15:42
I would like to have sex soon.... And then I am going to share my experience... But I am little bit afraid as everyone says it hurts..
That is a very sad situation beta, but don’t worry. The thing is perhaps you need to ask him about what you likes and enjoys in sex… what is you missing and what you wants in sex. The other thing is your partner may want to check how comfortable you are.. how relaxed and are you have any fears around having sex. Also ensure you have no fear of infection or discomfort in and around your vagina, which could also be the problem. I hope this helps. https://lovematters.in/en/news/pain-during-sex-suffering-silence If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete sahi ya galat ka faisala hum khud lete hain apne liye, aur koi nahi le sakta. Ek baat toh zarur hai ki sex ya kisi bhi sexual activity mein ek cheez bohot hi important hai woh hai dono logo ki sehmati agar sahmati hai toh koi problem nahi, lekin koi zor zabardasti nahi honi chahiye. Waise bhi shadi se pahle bahut log sex toh karte hi hain, hai na?? Ise padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/sex-before-marriage-why-its-okay https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/do-indian-men-not-understand-consent Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna   chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Sir jb m first time sex m liye k liye gye to mera tite he ni hua sir phir uske baad m chle gye wha se to sir m kya kru aab meri gf muhje wapis se bulari h sex m liye
Mohit bete kahin aap apni gf ke saamne kisi tension, pressure mein toh nahi aa jate hai na? Yeh samjh lijiye ki sex karney ke liye bilkul tanav mukt hona zaruri hai bête. Jis baare mein aur yaha padh lijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/4-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/i-have-erection-problems-what-are-your-tips-auntyji Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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