first time sex
Shutterstock/Blend Images

First time sex: top five facts

First time sex – you will never forget it! It can be scary, but also exciting and special. So it's important to have a nice experience. How can you do this? Find out in the fourth edition of our Top Five Facts. 
  • Pay attention to your partner, too!
    Is he or she enjoying it? Ask. Is he or she nervous? Try to reassure your partner by saying loving things. Does your partner feel insecure about you seeing him or her naked? Give compliments. Can you tell your partner doesn’t want to go any further? Respect his or her wishes.

    Listen to your own feelings and your partner’s: if you feel like you’re not ready for sex yet, don't ignore the feeling! You are the only one who knows when you are ready. Don't let someone talk you into it, and only have sex with someone you trust. That's the key to having a good time!
  • Build up slowly
    You don’t have to do everything straight away. Build up the excitement slowly, so you both get aroused. When a girl gets sexually aroused, her vagina becomes wet. This is important, because otherwise intercourse would hurt.

    For three-quarters of all young people their sexual explorations go in this order: first kiss, caressing under clothes, masturbating each other and finally intercourse.
  • Talk to each other
    The first time you probably won’t know quite what you should do. Pay attention to the way your partner responds. Does your partner moan? Does he or she guide your hand to a particular place? These are signs that you’re heading in the right direction! But often the signals aren’t so clear. So talk to each other about what you’d like to try or not. Many people find talking about it really arousing too.

    And don't forget to laugh! Humour and sex are a perfectly good mix!

    If you want to know more about making love to a woman, watch our animated video here...
  • It's not like in the movies
    Don't expect it to go smoothly from the very beginning. It’s possible that the girl will experience some pain when she tries to have a guy enter her for the first time.

    You might also have trouble putting on a condom – it’s a good idea to try it out beforehand! Or the guy might come really quickly as soon as his penis slips inside – or even before. Or the opposite – he might find his erection drooping because of the nerves.

    This is all completely normal. Take your time and talk about it. And try again. Don't take it too hard if it doesn't work out perfectly the first time – just keep on trying!
  • Pain
    For women, first time sex can be painful. That's because the hymen, a stretchy piece of skin that partially covers the opening of the vagina, tears or stretches to let the penis in. Or because the girl is nervous, so her vagina tenses up and that makes penetration painful.

    Sometimes the expectation of pain is what makes a girl tense up so sex hurts. If she’s really relaxed, aroused and wet, though, there needn’t be any pain at all – or at least it can be minimal. Take deep breaths and relax. Don't rush or force anything. 

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model.

If you've already had sex, how was your first time? And if you haven't yet, how do you feel about the prospect of losing your virginity? Leave a comment here or join the discussion on Facebook (we don't need to include your real name by the way).

Did you find this useful?

Comments
That is a very sad situation beta, but don’t worry. The thing is perhaps you need to ask him about what you likes and enjoys in sex… what is you missing and what you wants in sex. The other thing is your partner may want to check how comfortable you are.. how relaxed and are you have any fears around having sex. Also ensure you have no fear of infection or discomfort in and around your vagina, which could also be the problem. I hope this helps. https://lovematters.in/en/news/pain-during-sex-suffering-silence If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Add new comment

Comment

  • Allowed HTML tags: <a href hreflang>