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First time sex: top five facts

First time sex – you will never forget it! It can be scary, but also exciting and special. So it's important to have a nice experience. How can you do this? Find out in the fourth edition of our Top Five Facts. 
  • Pay attention to your partner, too!
    Is he or she enjoying it? Ask. Is he or she nervous? Try to reassure your partner by saying loving things. Does your partner feel insecure about you seeing him or her naked? Give compliments. Can you tell your partner doesn’t want to go any further? Respect his or her wishes.

    Listen to your own feelings and your partner’s: if you feel like you’re not ready for sex yet, don't ignore the feeling! You are the only one who knows when you are ready. Don't let someone talk you into it, and only have sex with someone you trust. That's the key to having a good time!
  • Build up slowly
    You don’t have to do everything straight away. Build up the excitement slowly, so you both get aroused. When a girl gets sexually aroused, her vagina becomes wet. This is important, because otherwise intercourse would hurt.

    For three-quarters of all young people their sexual explorations go in this order: first kiss, caressing under clothes, masturbating each other and finally intercourse.
  • Talk to each other
    The first time you probably won’t know quite what you should do. Pay attention to the way your partner responds. Does your partner moan? Does he or she guide your hand to a particular place? These are signs that you’re heading in the right direction! But often the signals aren’t so clear. So talk to each other about what you’d like to try or not. Many people find talking about it really arousing too.

    And don't forget to laugh! Humour and sex are a perfectly good mix!

    If you want to know more about making love to a woman, watch our animated video here...
  • It's not like in the movies
    Don't expect it to go smoothly from the very beginning. It’s possible that the girl will experience some pain when she tries to have a guy enter her for the first time.

    You might also have trouble putting on a condom – it’s a good idea to try it out beforehand! Or the guy might come really quickly as soon as his penis slips inside – or even before. Or the opposite – he might find his erection drooping because of the nerves.

    This is all completely normal. Take your time and talk about it. And try again. Don't take it too hard if it doesn't work out perfectly the first time – just keep on trying!
  • Pain
    For women, first time sex can be painful. That's because the hymen, a stretchy piece of skin that partially covers the opening of the vagina, tears or stretches to let the penis in. Or because the girl is nervous, so her vagina tenses up and that makes penetration painful.

    Sometimes the expectation of pain is what makes a girl tense up so sex hurts. If she’s really relaxed, aroused and wet, though, there needn’t be any pain at all – or at least it can be minimal. Take deep breaths and relax. Don't rush or force anything. 

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model.

If you've already had sex, how was your first time? And if you haven't yet, how do you feel about the prospect of losing your virginity? Leave a comment here or join the discussion on Facebook (we don't need to include your real name by the way).

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Hi, beta. Hum aapki kya sahayata kar sakte hain? Yadi aap kisi bhee mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bilkul nahi bête koi kamzori nahi, thakaan ko kamzori na samjho bête!! it’s quite common, Bus swasth raho aur yaad rakho ki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain,jinmein aap samye guzaar sakte hain jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies… ok? https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
If a Girl claims that she is virgin and like to use "Girl On Top " position while having sex and no blood only feeling pain..does it mean she is sexually active before ??
We can’t tell you this, neither you could know this anyhow or no one can know about this, and hymen can break because of any reason, unless your partner herself didn’t admit or tell you about it OK? Clear your doubts read more here: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/faqs- hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bête pehli baar sex kartaye samaye kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaye is bare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijieye : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Saath hi sex activity mein alag-alag tariko ka istemal kartay huay isse kese aur majjaydaar banana hai is baaray mein yaha padhein: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love
Neha babu
Sat, 02/13/2016 - 20:28
I am scared of penetration and unable to have sex. Please help. I am married for over an year now. I am so scared of penetration that I don't let my husband try penetrative sex. Please help.
That is a very sad situation beta, but don’t worry. The thing is perhaps you need to talk about what you like and enjoys in sex… what is he missing and what you want in sex. The other thing is he should check how comfortable you are how relaxed are you. Get to know each other's body better, talk to each other and tel him what you are looking for. I hope this helps. https://lovematters.in/en/news/pain-during-sex-suffering-silence https://lovematters.in/en/news/secret-happy-sex-right-lubricant If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam iam totally worried about having sex with my husband because when ever he comes next to me I'm sexually aroused but I cannot let him to go deep except for huggng and kissing.. I know it will pain a lot for me since its gonna be my first experience.. Becos of the pain iam not wiiling to go deep. What shall I do when shall go further. Thankgod luckily my husband never forces me on having it.. Its only my wish
That is a very sad situation Neha beta, but don’t worry. The thing is perhaps you need to talk about what you like and enjoys in sex… what is he missing and what you want in sex. The other thing is he should check how comfortable you are how relaxed are you. Get to know each other's body better, talk to each other and tel him what you are looking for. I hope this helps. https://lovematters.in/en/news/pain-during-sex-suffering-silence https://lovematters.in/en/news/secret-happy-sex-right-lubricant If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
I wanna know is it advisable to wear condom during first sex or break the seal first and then use the condom and i wanna know is it painful for a girl with condom in first sex
No, instead it can help in first time sex with the help of lubrication of condom. Please do read these links: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/making-love https://lovematters.in/en/news/pain-during-sex-suffering-silence https://lovematters.in/hi/news/secret-happy-sex-right-lubricant If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete What is your question exactly? Please do write in detail, and do read these links: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/pregnancy If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
vishal B.
Tue, 06/21/2016 - 22:50
Antyji after sex I have good irrection in my penis but when I am ready to insert it I feel nervous and loose my irrection and all of going worst. Is it normal ?because I haven't sex before.
Bete it can happen if you are in any kind of tension, pressure. Please do read these links: https://lovematters.in/en/news/4-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction https://lovematters.in/en/news/erection-trouble-where-turn If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Dear Ashir, we can’t tell you this, neither you could know this anyhow or no one can know about this, and hymen can break because of any reason, unless the girl herself didn’t admit or tell you about it ok? Clear your doubts read more here: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
We can’t tell you this, neither you could know this anyhow or no one can know about this, and hymen can break because of any reason, unless the girl herself didn’t admit or tell you about it ok? Clear your doubts read more here: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
I inserted my pennies into my gf vagina after I started to do sex15 to 20 sec the sprm will coming ,so many time. I tried. The same is repeating please tell me solution for this problem
Try this technique and see if it helps you. Emphasize on your partner's body, and focus on your partner. Involve yourself in foreplay. If you are highly aroused, there is an increase in chances of premature ejaculation. So, you could also masturbate before sex, giving enough time for your body to get an erection again. Condom also helps in prevents premature ejaculation. Read the link given. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts. All. the best If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
1st time i wanted to sex with my gf but we didn't finish bcoz my penis didn't enter inside her and she get pain and also i don't know how to put inside that till 2 hours...i love her so much and after a long time i was so tired so we left What should we do???? Plz say
Ummm! please go thorough below links: http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Auntyji I had sex with my gf as we were both virgin I can't forget the experience it was awesome she didn't bleed but my penis was not getting inserting in pussy for 1st time but after few trying I succeeded it was awesome experience. Later I got married to another girl due to gf family problems. But with my wife I didn't experience any pain or penis inserting problem my penis gone in my wife's pussy very easily in first night and first attempt. She told that she never had sex before will you please guide me was she virgin? Or is it possible to get penis inserted first time without pain or tightness
Bete, please take out doubts from your mind. We can’t tell you this, neither you could know this anyhow or no one can know about this, and hymen can break because of any reason, unless your girlfriend herself didn’t admit or tell you about it ok? And bete, it will be sensible if you focus on strengthening your relationship. And bete, what if she asks you for a proof of your virginity. Will you be able to provide that. Clear your doubts read more here: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs- hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
auntyji mera kal first time tha maine 6 bar try kiya andar dalne ka pr thoda jate hi fisal jata tha aur thoda andar jata to use bhi bahut pain ho raha tha oura andar hi nhi gaya iska kya upay hai
Ummm! please go thorough below links: http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
auntyji mera kal first time tha maine 6 bar try kiya andar dalne ka pr thoda jate hi fisal jata tha aur thoda andar jata to use bhi bahut pain ho raha tha oura andar hi nhi gaya iska kya upay hai
Hmm puttar sabse pehle relax. Bête Pehli baar sex kartaye samaye kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaye is bare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijieye : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Bete durd ki wajah penis ki skin Yadi woh theek tarah se peeche nahi hui hogi toh yeh durd ka karan ban sakti hai. Isliye is skin ko nahataye samaye halkaye se pichay kar ke saaf karna hota hai jissey ki waha saafai bani raheye. Iske alawa sex mein dryness bhi durd ki wajh ban sakti hai.Jis bare mein poori jaankari aapyeh link padh kar hasil kar sakte hain. For happy sex https://lovematters.in/hi/news/secret-happy-sex-right-lubricant Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hi aunty, I got married 5months back and till now I cant insert into my wife's vigina.. I dont know to do it actually to say. I tried inserting into her hole..but my penis is slipping and she too says its paining a lot.. now what shud I do? if its 2nd month or 3rd then fine..its already 5th month and our relations started asking about our baby.. but still we haven't started inserting at all..
Ummm! please go thorough below links: http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hey mam ......can condom be useful while first time sex with my gf as for first time bleeding take place so can i used condom, is it ok
Whether it's first time or not, it's always a good idea to use condoms while having sex. Although do remember that hymen can be torn or stretched in lots of ways without having any kind of sex, or any Sports like cycling, horse riding. Sp whether she’ll bleed because of hymen it is not certain thing. Clear your doubts read more here: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mein pichle 4 saal se Muth mar rha hun And ab mera penis Jaldi khada nahi hota aur hota ha tho jaldi beth jata ha Kya karu Isko lambe time tak khada rakhne ke lie
Happy beta, iske liye hastmaithun ko zimmedaar mat maaniye kyunki hastmaithun ek safe/surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Kahin aap kisi tension, pressure mein toh nahi hain na? Yeh samjh lijiye ki sex karne ke liye bilkul tanav mukt hona zaruri hai bête. Iss baare mein aur yaha padh lo : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/4-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction https://lovematters.in/hi/news/erection-trouble-where-turn Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhi nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Bete garbhnirodhan ke kai upaye hain jinhe aap apni suvidha ke mutabiq le sakte hain woh aap yaha padh sakte hai: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/birth-control Lekin yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chahte hai to kisi aur tarikay ke mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tareeka hai. Isse unchahe garbh ke saath saath yon sakramad ke khatre se bhi bacha ja sakta hai. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Beta, yeh shayed itna sahi samay nahin - aap dono abhi bahut hee kum umr ke hain - aur shayed sex karne jaisa bada nirnay lene ke liye abhi aap tayyar bhee nahin aur abhi to yeh bhi nahin pata ki iske baad apki gf isse kaise leytee hain - yadi veh bahut hee chintit aur dar jaati hain toh? Ek rishte mein sex he sab kuch nahin - apn dosti aur nizdiki pe kaam keejiye - nazdik rehne ke alag alag tareke dhoondiye! Theek hai beta? Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Nitesh bete, pehli baar sex karte samaye kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kaise theek tarah se kiya jaye, is bare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijieye : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/en/news/first-time-sex-dos-and-donts Saath hi sex activity mein alag-alag tariko ka istemaal karte huay isse kese aur mazedaar banana hai is baare mein yaha padhein: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
M a 18 yrs old boy nd mai sex krna chahta hu bt mujhe drr lgta hai ki may be mujhe v pain hoga to koi bta skta hai ki 1st time sex k baad penis me kya change aayega bcoz mera penis 5 inches ka hai bt ekdum skinny hai
Hmmm! So bete is dauraan pain ho bhi sakta hai aur nahi bhi. Bete iski wajah penis ki skin ho sakti hain. Yadi woh theek tarah se peechhe nahi hui hogi toh yeh durd ka karan ban sakti hai. Isliye is skin ko nahate samay halke se pichhay kar ke saaf karna hota hai jissey ki waha saafai bani raheye. Iske alawa sex mein dryness bhi durd ki wajh ban sakti hai jis baare mein poori jaankari aap yeh link padh kar hasil kar sakte hain. https://lovematters.in/en/news/will-my-foreskin-hurt-when-i-first-have-sex For happy sex: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/secret-happy-sex-right-lubricant Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
mai 16 yrs ka hu nd 16 yrs k apne gf se sex krna chahta hu aur wo v chahti hai. to kya hm sex kr skte hai aur agar ha to usko satisfy krne k liye mere penis ka dimension kya hona chahiye
Please size par mat jao apna andaaz achchha karo unke saath time bithao. Ling ke size ki sahi jaankari yahan se hasil kijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes https://lovematters.in/hi/news/penis-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/news/worried-your-penis-too-small https://lovematters.in/hi/news/what-women-penis Lekin ye bhee jaan lijiye ki 18 saal se kam umar ki mahila ke saath kiya gaya sex chahein woh uski marzi se hee kyun na kiya gaya ho RAPE ki category mein aata hai. Is baare mein bhee vichaar kijiye. Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Zara Khan
Sat, 07/21/2018 - 15:42
I would like to have sex soon.... And then I am going to share my experience... But I am little bit afraid as everyone says it hurts..
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