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आप कैसे जानेंगे की आपने सही साथी चुना है या गलत?

द्वारा Sarah Moses जून 14, 10:58 पूर्वान्ह
स्वस्थ रिश्ता वही है जिसे चलने में संघर्ष न करना पड़ेI यदि साथ निभाने के लिए कुछ ज़्यादा ही प्रयास करने पद रहे हों, तो कई बार अलविदा कह देना ही बेहतर हैI लेकिन अगर आपके बीच कुछ जुड़ाव है, तो रिश्ते को सफल रूप से चलने के लिए सभी प्रयास करने चाहिएI

कुछ लोग कहते हैं की उन्हें पहले ही पल से महसूस हुआ की उन्होंने जिसे अपना साथी चुना है, वही उनके लिए उपयुक्त थाI लेकिन आप और हम जैसे बहुत से लोगों के लिए राह इतनी आसान नहीं हो पाती, खुशहाल ज़िन्दगी के लिए मेहनत करनी पड़ती हैI

हो सकता है की हमारे बीच बेपनाह प्यार हो लेकिन अपने साथी के सामने हम असल में हम नहीं हो पातेI ऊपर से देखने पर शायद सब सामान्य दिखता हैI शायद जीवन में हमारे लक्ष्य, हमारी पसंद मिलती जुलती है और हम एक जैसी पृष्ठभूमि से आते हैं, लेकिन जब बात एक दूसरे के लिए दीवानगी की आती है, तो कहानी कुछ और ही हैं क्यूंकि शायद वो दीवानगी कहीं है ही नहींI

आप ये कैसे जाना सकते हैं कि जिस रिश्ते के लिए आप अपना सब कुछ न्यौछावर करने को आतुर हैं, क्या वो इसके काबिल है या नहीं? लव मैटर्स ने वाशिंगटन यूनिवर्सिटी के मानव संबंधों के विशेषज्ञ डॉ पैपर श्वार्टज़ से इस बारे में पूछाI विख्यात प्रोफेसर ने हमें अपने द्वारा कि गयी रिसर्च पर आधारित कुछ टिप्स बताये जिनसे ये समझने में मदद मिल सकती है आपका और आपके साथी का रिश्ता आगे बढ़ने योग्य है या नहींI

 

लव मैटर्स: किशोर अपने रिश्ते में खुश किस तरह रह सकते हैं?

डॉ पी.एस.:.मेरे विचार में किसी भी ख़ुशी का आधार है खुद से खुश होनाI और युवा अवस्था में ऐसा होना अक्सर मुश्किल होता हैI जब आप युवा होते हैं तो अक्सर आप सिर्फ अपनी कमियों पर ध्यान देते रहते हैंI आप सिर्फ इस बात पर ध्यान देते हैं कि आप में फलां खोट है जो दूसरे में नहीं हैI ऐसा काम ही होता है जब कोई युवा खुद से कहे,' मैं लाजवाब हूँ"!

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लव मैटर्स: खुश जोड़े कौनसी महत्वपूर्ण चीज़ें करते हैं जो शायद बाकि लोग नहीं करते?

 

डॉ पी. एस.: स्नेहपूर्ण बर्ताव बहुत असरदार है, छोटी चीज़ें जैसे 'आई लव यू' कहना, एक दूसरे कि तारीफ करना, उन्हें बताना कि वो कितने सुन्दर और आकर्षक हैं, हाथों में हाथ डालनाI और ये ज़रूरी नहीं कि ऐसा सार्वजानिक जगह पर ही किया जाये. यही छोटी-छोटी चीज़ें रिश्तों में खुशियां लाने का काम बखूबी कर सकती हैंI

अपने दिल कि बात बेझिझक एक दूसरे से कह पानाI एक दूसरे को ईमानदारी से अपने दिल का हाल कह पाने कि आज़ादी, और जब दूसरा व्यक्ति भी आपकी बात को बिना बुरा माने समझ सके, ये काफी महत्वपूर्ण हैI

लव मैटर्स: क्या रिश्तों को स्वस्थ रूप से चलने के लिए आपकी कोई सलाह है?

डॉ पी एस ; मेरा मानना है कि अगर चीज़ें सहजता से बही चल पा रहीं तो बहुत कोशिश करना समय और ऊर्जा नष्ट करने जैसा हैI रिश्ता ऐसा नहीं होना चाहिए कि जैसे आप उसे धकेल रहे हैं या हर समय किसी और के इशारों पर नाच रहे हैंI क्या ये सही होगा? कहीं ये गलत तो नहीं होगा? कहीं मैंने कुछ गलत तो नहीं कह दिया? ये सब सवाल स्वस्थ रिश्ते कि निशानी नहीं हैंI स्वस्थ रिश्ता वो है जो बिना कठिनाई के चल सके, इसलिए शायद उसे स्वस्थ कहा जाता हैI

तो यदि किसी को आप में केवल कमियां दिखाई देती हैं, या आपको लगता है कि उस व्यक्ति को आपके होने न होने से कोई फर्क नहीं पड़ता, तो ये दलदल से बहार निकलने का सही कारण हैI आपका साथी बनने का हक़दार वो है जो आप कि तरह सोचता हो और आपके उसके जीवन में होने पर गर्व महसूस करता होI

कुछ किस्मत वाले लोगों के शायद ऐसे बॉयफ्रेंड या गर्लफ्रेंड हों जीमे उन्हें सच दोस्त दिखाई देता होI जिससे आप दिल कि हर बात साझा कर सकते हैं और जिसका दिल आप कभी नहीं दुखाना चाहतेI लेकिन अगर कोई व्यक्ति बिना आपकी परवाह किये कुछ करता है तो वो असल में आपका दोस्त है ही नहींI

कोई भी कदम उठाने से पहले खुद से ये सवाल कर लेना अच्छी परीक्षा होगी," क्या मैं अपने दोस्त के साथ ऐसा करूँगा? क्या कभी मेरा दोस्त मेरे साथ ऐसा कर सकता है?" यदि इस कसौटी में खरा न उतर सके तो शायद आपके सम्बन्ध में कोई न कोई कमी हैI

क्या ज़्यादा महत्वपूर्ण गई- रिश्ते को चलने के लिए प्रयास करना या ये समझ लेना कि किन हालातों में और प्रयास करना बेकार है? अपनी राय यहाँ या फिर फेसबुक पर हमें ज़रूर बताएंI

क्या आप इस जानकारी को उपयोगी पाते हैं?

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Tamanna bete aap unse pyar karti hai, unki izzat karti hain, isse jyada aur kuchh karne ki zarurat nahi. Aur unhe sirf isliye trust nahi ho raha hai ki aap unse mill nahi pati? Please khud ko shaant kijiye. Khud ko thoda samay dijiye. Dono hee sthithion se door. Phir sochiye ki aap kya chahti hain. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Naveen bete kisi bhee rishte mein pyar aur respect ka hona bahut zaruri hota hai. Aur aapki baaton se toh yahi lagta hai ki unki marji nahi hai, unki marji ka samman kijiye. Aur yadi koi humaare saath nahin rehana chahtey toh kyaa hum unhe force kar saktey hain? Nhain na?!! dekhiye bete Yadi who aapke saath rehna chahtey hain so unhe yeh nirnay lena hai, aap unse sirf isliye haan nahi karwa sakte kyunki kewal aap unhe pasand karte hain. Thoda shaant rahiye aur apna chintan swasth kijiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/love-and-relationships https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/meeting-someone/saying-no Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete agar ismein aapki marji thi toh koi problem nahi hai, lekin agar aapko yeh sahi nahi lag raha hai to aapko kya lagta hai , kya aap abhi un par vishwas nahi kar pa rahee? So yeh bhi unhe bata saktin hain. Thoda samay aur ho jaye...unke behavior se aapko pata chal jayega ki kya wo aapko use kar rahe hain? Agar aap chahen toh ek baar unhe iske liye mana kar ke dekhiye, isse shayad aapko samajhne aur nirnay lene mein madad milegi. Lekin saath hee yeh bhi ki bf - gf ke rishte ka yeh ek ahem hissa hai – aisa maana jaata hai – ismein koi sharam ki baat bhi nahin yadi ismein aapki bhi marzi hai toh. Bas safe rahiye, satark rahiye. Theek hai bête! Ise bhee padhiye: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/love-and-relationships Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Tiya bete aap yeh baat kah rahi hai ki aap unke dil ko dukha deti hain - toh har rishte mein thodi bahut nok jhok hoti rahti hai - lekin iska ye matlab nahi hota ki rishta tod diya jaye. Pyar ka sabse aham pahlu hota hai vishwas, bharosa wo aap dono rakhiye apne man mein aur aur apne rishte ko majbut banaeeye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/love-and-relationships Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Nikita bete yadi wo aapse misbehave karte hain- gussa karte hain saath hi dhamki bhi- toh bête aap khud sochiye ki kya aap is kism ke rishte mein rahna chahte hain? Is kism ke purush ke saath?? Yadi koi bhi rishta aapko khushi se zyada dukh de raha hai - to yeh kis kaam ka? Beta Jo aadmi aapke saath aaj aisa kar rahaa hai- wo baad mein kya kya karega? Khud sochiye aur ek sahi pakka nirnay lijiye!! Balki beta AUNTYJI ki maano – ise bilkul LOCK DOWN karo - CORORNA ki tarah. Madad ke liye ise padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/breaking-up/how-to-get-over-a-break-up-a-proven-technique https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/sexual-harassment/abusive-relationships Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete wo aapko pyar karte hain ya nahi yeh toh keval aap hi pata kar sakti hain- baat chit kar ke, unhe tatol ke dekhiye. Now beta, sirf sex ki baat karta hai – aur pyar ka daava bhi. Aap mein dilchaspi dikhaata hai – aapko madad karta hai – aapko protshahan karta hai – aisa kuchh? Yaad rakhiye ki jab ki sex ki baat karne mein koi buraayi nahi, lekin yeh aapki razamandi se ho – aapka bhi ismein yogdaan ho toh baat banati hai nahi toh yeh ek kism se vastutikaran hai – Objectification. Lekin kaali kahte hai aur hamesha sex ki baat karte hain? Kahi aisa toh nahi ki aapka rishta keval sex par hi tika hua hai? Please har tarah se vichaar kijiye aur ek sahi nirnay lijiye. Theek hai bête! Ise bhee pdhiye: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/love-and-relationships Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Yadi wo aapko galat samajhate hain- gussa karte hain saath hi gaaliyan bhi- toh yeh kaun sa pyaar hai beta? Aap khud sochiye ki kya aap is kism ke rishte mein rahna chahte hain? Is kism ke purush ke saath?? Yadi koi bhi rishta aapko khushi se zyada dukh de raha hai - to yeh kis kaam ka? Beta Jo aadmi aapke saath aaj aisa kar rahaa hai- wo baad mein kya kya karega? Khud sochiye aur ek sahi pakka nirnay lijiye!! Balki beta AUNTYJI ki maano – ise bilkul LOCK DOWN karo - CORORNA ki tarah. Madad ke liye ise padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/breaking-up/how-to-get-over-a-break-up-a-proven-technique https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/sexual-harassment/abusive-relationships Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
meri jis ladki se shadi hone wali hai vo whatsap pe din bhar bich bich me online aati hai lekin mujhse bat nahi karti isliye mujhe shak hota hai ki kahi uska koi boyfriend to nahi hai or vo shadi ko bhi teyyar hai to fir wo mujse call ya whatsap pe bat ku nahi karti
Beta jo bhi aap tark laga rahe hain uska koi aadhar nahi hai - na hee yeh koi baat siddh karta hai ki is rishte mein vishwas ki kami hai. Isliye yeh baat mann se nikaliye kyunki pyar ka sabse eham pehlu hai vishwas aap woh rakhiye apne mann mein, Aur apne rishte ko mazboot banaiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/love-and-relationships Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete Ishaani, hum aapki duvidha samjh sakte hain. Aap keh rahee hain ki woh aapse bahut pyaar karte hain! Asal mein bete kai baar pariwaar walon ke saamne pyar ko swiakar kar pana itna asaan nahi hota hai, woh bhi tab jab aap abhi financially independent na ho aur kai baton mein pariwaar par nirbhar hon. Bahut se log pariwar walon ko tabhi yeh batein bata patein hain jab relationship shaadi tak pahuchne ki baat ajaati hai aur woh khud ko financially, mentally, har tarah se kisi tarah ke virodh(agar yeh sthihi aati hai toh) ka sammna karne ke liye tayyar hote hon. Ab aapke mann yeh baat aa he gai hai toh iski kya koi wajah hai? Jo aap detail mein hamse hamare forum par share karna chahengi? Jahan ham aur jyada, gehri charcha is par kar sakein? Aur jyada madad ke liye ise padhiye: https://lovematters.in/en/love-and-relationships/happy-relationships/how-do-you-know-your-relationship-is-the-right-one https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/love-and-relationships Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
mam mra 1 saal se jyda ka relation h hm dono bhut serios h ek dusre k liye mre partner ko lga ab hm alg ni rh skte isliye hm marrige ka decision liya uske baad unhonne ye baat apni mummy ko bta unki mummy ne unse kch ni kha vo mjhe aakr daatne lgi khti intercaste hmre yhn ni hoti h mre bete se alg ho jaa....unhoone mre phn m unka no. block kr diya hm ek colony m ek hi blok m rhte the ..jb se unki mummy ko pta lga vo mjhe ghurne lgi mre pr najar rkhne lagi mne ye baat apne bf ko bta vo bole unse unhonne kha esa kch ni uske baad vo bdl gya .....ek din hm mile busstop pr mile vo mjhe apni bike se coaching class chodte bt unke papa hmra piche kiye hm pkd liya unko bhut sunaya mara pita....last m vo thappd mar diye mjhe mra bf ko gussa aya vo mjhe le gye vhn kha hm vapis ni aayenge unhonne mjhe apni sakal mt dikhana mre se khte tjhe m colony se niklva dunga bhut gnda khye ...uske baad hm vo mre sath pure tym the last m unke papa ne unki call trace krke pta lga hm khn h vo le gye hm logo ..mre bf ne mjhe ghr bhj diya safely uske baad uske papa ne use bhut mara sar se blood ..mri family ko jaan se marne ki dhmki unki mummy ne mri bdnami kr di mjhe next mrngg vhn se gaav jana hm 2 day m vhn se shift ho gye ...ab vo or m 5 day baad baat ki unki family unpr njr rkhti h unko bhut sunne ko milta h ye sb unki pdose k uncle ki baato m aake kiye ab vo khte h mre bf ko vo mri lyf kr diye jbki prblm unki family ko h mre bf ko ni..phle mri family ready thi mre bf k liye bt ab vo unse nafrat krte h ...vo ab hmri shadi kbhi ni hone denge m or vo ye chahte hmri family ki bdnami na ho hm shadi kr le ek dusre se ab bhi unka phn check hota h unpr najr rhti h ...or mjhse phn chin liya ab m baat kr leti hu jese tese mjhe suggestion chaiye m court marriage toh kya hoga mjhe apni family ko dukh ni dena kuki vo us nyt bhut sahe mri vjh se m apne bf ko hurt ni krna jo mre liye un logo se pita m dono se pyr krti hu ...i want a suggestion plzz mam help me......reply as soon possible
Krishna bete bahut gambhir sthiti hai! Please koi bhi kadam uthane se pehle - jis mein caste, dharam, age, parents ka virodh jaisee stithi saamne aa rahee ho- apni family aur apne lawyer / vakeel/ local police thaane, aas-paas koi NGO se apne haq aur adhikaron ke baare mein poori jaankari lein. Yadi koi kadam uthate hain - to uske kya parinaam ho sakte hain - sab pooch leejiye aur aapko, unko aur family ko kiss-kiss stithi ke liye tayyar rehna hai - uski poori knowledge le leejiye. Aapko, hum sab ki ore se - best of luck. https://lovematters.in/hi/marriage/thinking-about-marriage/love-marriages Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Krishna bete jawab dene mein deri ke liye maafi chahungi! Lekin bete kisi bhi legal rights ko janane ke liye aapko kisi achchhe lawyer/wakeel se consult karna hoga, yeh humare kaam se juda hua nahin - so legal rights ke baare mein hum aapki itni jyada madad nahi kar payenge. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ma am mai ek ladka se bhut pyarr krti hu or wo ve mujse krta hai wo pahle mujse bat krne keay liye rota tha or dur jati thi tav ve or bhut time dayta tha muje pr jav se job krne lga hai wo bdl gya hai av time ve nhi dayta or ns msg na call mai he unhe msg krti hu or call ve msg ka bhut late reply dayta hai kavi kavi to reply ata he nhi hai ham dono ka retaliation ka 1 saal ho gya hai or mai uske bina rah ve nhi sakthi mai chahthi hu use ve meri fikar ho wo ve khud se msg kre mai is bare mai bat ve ke hu us se pr nhi smjta hai mai kya kru jo use merj fikar ho wo ekdam se change ho gya hai msg ka reply ane ja wait krti rahthi hu pr nhi ata hai kya kru ma am ap he btayi mai wait krungi apka msg ka
Bete aapko kya lagta hai aisa kyun ho rha hai? Dekhiye bête time nahi dene ya kam dene ka karan yeh bhi ho sakta hai - ki wo apne job me jyada busy ho gaye ho ya paise kamane mein busy ho. Jaisa ki aapne bataya hai job se pahle wo aapko time dete the- job ke baad bhi jab unhe time milta hai toh der se hi sahi wo aapko khud hi msg ka reply bhi karte hain- lekin bete agar aapko lagta hai ki unki life koi aur gati pakad rahi hai toh aap unse khul ke baat chit kijiye aur apni baat - apni feelings unhe samjaane ki koshish kijiye - saath hi unhe bhi samajhna ki koshish kijiye. Dekhiye bête kisi bhee rishte mein pyar, vishwas aur ek dusre ki kadra karna bahut aham pahlu hota hai – aap dono apni apekshayen ek dusre se match karne ki koshish kijiye. Theek hai bête! https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/love-and-relationships Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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