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First time sex: what are your tips Auntyji?

By Auntyji Tuesday, March 26, 2013 - 16:38
Q: Auntyji, I am 18 and all set to lose my virginity to my boyfriend very soon. Is there anything I should definitely take care of apart from condoms? Swati, Noida

Auntyji says... Swati puttar, kya baat hai ji. First time sex can be very exciting and very scary at the same time, not to mention sensual, embarrassing, awkward and fun. So I am glad that you want be ready for it.

It makes me so happy that sex is finally getting out of closet. Makes sense too, because the more we talk about it, the better prepared we will be for it. And as you know what’s natural is never vulgar. But I’m diverging from your question. Puttarji, my super simple advice to you would be to play it very safe, know what you’re doing and when in doubt, just take it slow.

Now we all know about safe sex. Condom is a definite must. Not just to avoid pregnancy but also to keep most sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) at bay as well. I know a lot of people insist that condoms take away from real pleasure, but don’t take their word. And if your boyfriend has any issues, feel free to use the female condom. I know it can be slightly cumbersome, but definitely worth it.

Birth control

Another thing you should think about. Now, condoms are a good method of birth control, they protect you from disease, and they’re easy to get hold of. But they are not as reliable as hormonal methods like the pill. So you should ask yourself, "How would it be if I got pregnant?" If your answer is "A total disaster!" then you should think about using another form of birth control as well as a condom.

Here you can read about different birth control methods. And for confidential help you can contact our good friends FPA India – you can find their clinic nearest to you on their home page.

Kissing and caressing

Now, finally my two words on how best to enjoy your experience. Now I am assuming that you already know how you actually have intercourse with him. What I can tell you is not to take things too seriously. It’s not just an act, it’s also an emotion and an experience. So savour every moment of it. You might fumble a bit, but you’ll learn a lot as well. It’s difficult to go wrong with a lot of kissing, caressing and touching. Remember there are many ways to make love.

Puttarji you might think of me as old fashioned, but truth is that one should have sex for the right reason and with the right person. When it comes to great sex, just like cricket, timing is everything. Worry not, there is no guesswork required here. Your body will tell you when the time is right and your heart will tell you who the right guy is. But even your diehard romantic aunty will tell you to run the decision through your head before you execute it.

Pain?

I’d say that don’t worry about experimentation and diversity of positions. Just relax and take it slow. Save a few moves for the second time as well.

You might anticipate some pain or discomfort, but with time and practice, you’ll ease into it. The main thing is to take plenty of time to get really, really aroused so your vagina is very wet before you try taking his penis inside you. The main reason for first time sex to be painful is if you are so nervous and distracted that you aren’t properly turned on, and your vagina tenses up. If need be, feel free to use a lubricant or ask your boyfriend for a time out.

Exhilarating

Well Swati, as long as you know what you’re getting into, there won’t be many unpleasant surprises. There might be some awkward moments, but this will be something you’ll remember for a lifetime. In fact I am slightly jealous because first-time sex is definitely the most exhilarating thing that I won’t experience again. Now I am not that naughty that I’d ask you for reviews, but do have fun puttar.

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Autiji namaste meri shadi ko 4 mahine ho gaye par meri wife sex k liye mujhe respond nahi kar rahi hai aaj tak humara intercourse bhi huva nahi hai meri bahot icha hote huve bhi woh respond nahi karti mujhe bahot ghussa aata hai woh abhi mere pas bhi nahi soti niche soti hai me kya karuuu????pls answer immediately
Auntyji meri shadi love marrige h but shaadi se pehley se hi mai bahut hi ziyada bimaar rehti thi but phir bhi mere husband ne mujhse hi shadi ki wo mujhse bahut pyaar kattey h mera bahut khayaal bhi rakhtey h mai sex m fast nahi aur mujhe ziyada sex ki feeling bhi nahi hoti h but mere hubby wo chatey k wo mere saath har terha ka sex kare mai kiya karo ki inko mujgse koi shikayet na ho aur mai bhi in ka baraber saath do aur ha aunty ji mai maa banna chahti to kiya karna hoga mujhe sex ke duraan help me plz auntyji
Yeh toh bahut hee common baat hai beta. Sex ki bhavna yadi adhik ho to yeh hona bahut hee common hai. So don’t worry. Haan yeh toh zaroor hai ki yadi app HAR mahila ya ladki se koi bhi baat karety waqt uttejit ho jaaatey hain so shayad aapka nazariya mahiloun ke prti bahut eke k tarfaa hai… isme toh sudhaar laana hee chahiye. Har mahila sex ki vastu bilkul nahi! Hahaha, FB ki baat sun ke toh mujhe bahut hee hansi aa rahe ehai, kya pata us taraf mahil ahai bhi ya nahin,!!
Aunty g mri Ek problem hai jab b mai kisi ladki se thodi fb ya phone pe baat kru to simple baatein krta hu tab ya Ek do hi romantic baatein to mra bhut jyada paani sa nikalta hai as like sperm....ye kya hai problem hai ya aur kuch auntys g btana jrur plz
Yeh ek mythya hai ki pehli baar sex karne par blood aaye aur yeh bhi zaruri nahi hai ki dard ho! Bete pehli baar sex karte samay; kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaye iss baare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijiye : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Utejna hone par ling se paani nikalna ya sex ki bhavna aana dono hi bohot common hai par hum aapki ismein koi sahayata nahi kar sakte! Lekin aap hastmethun try kar sakte hai kyunki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Sukhvindar bete, ling ka koi nishchit size nahi hota. Sabhi purushon mein ye alag alag maap ka ho saktaa hai. Iss baare mein aur jankari yahaa hasil karein: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes https://lovematters.in/en/news/penis-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete Periods ke shuruat mein inska aneemit hona swabhivik hai lekin baad mein yeh takreeban 28 se 34 dino ke antral pe hoti hai, jo ki har mahila ke liye alag alag hota hai. Ok?. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/menstrual-cycle Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Jee nahi hasthmethun se toh yahi nahi hua hai lekin jo aap dhabba ki baat kar rahe hain e k panjikrit doctor se mill lijiye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Anonymous
Wed, 04/03/2013 - 22:49
auntyjii i had not done sex any time i wana do but dont find girls.i like to masturbate.hw can i get plesaure
Antyji you hv very good knowledge about it . I want only to know that Is there any compulsion to be bleeding time .
aunti ji good morning. i'm 24. there is a girl (23) we live in different cities.but her father's village and my mother's birth village are same as you can see she's like my niece. when we were children we both used to go to village twice a year and i adored her but as time passed by and studies got higher it reduced to once a year. i appriciated and adored a lot her but never had feelings like that you know(not vulgur), i just like her company and i want to talk to her a lot now i havn't seen her in one and half year and we never even talk on phone ,still i can't forget her or stop thinking about her. her father is my mother's second nephew and she respects me as her uncle. now her parents(my second brother ) are thinking of her marriage in last of this year. please,,,please ,, tell me what to do. i've never told/said anything to anyone ever. please tell me what to do . and if i talk to any of her/my family that i would like to marry her then both would just kill me right there and then.
aunryjee u r doing great job..hats off 2 u mai 17 saal ka ldka hu meri cousin Jo ki 13 saal ki h mere sath sex Karna chahti h..hm dono ek dusre se pyar karte h..kya ye sahi rahega??
Aap jiss ki baat kar rahe hain Isse oral sex kehte hain, jisse karnay mein koi samsya nahi maslan saaf-safai ka poora dhyan rakha gaya ho aur ismay dono partners ki barab marzi shamil ho! Mukh maithun ka ek ehem pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. All the best beta. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
anti jee meri girl Frnd sex Marne me doran mera penis jab me under dalta hu to oo bahut chila ti hai bolti hai bahut dard ho raha hai baad me haat bhi lagane nhi deti uski chut bhi bahut choti hai me kya karu
namastey aunti ji...mere ek dost ki badi sister h wo mujhse v badi h jb me uske ghar jata to wo mujhe thora idhar udhar touch krti h mai kuch nh kr raha kyun ki mujhe dar lagta h...pr mai kya kru pls bataiye
Shubham Rathor
Sun, 04/19/2015 - 18:45
Auntyji Namaste . . . .meri age 17 h meri classmate ko me bahot like karta hu but me use propose nhi kar paa rha hu wo muzse achhi tarah se baat karti h but muze dar lagta h ki wo kisi ko bol na de so aunty ji please help me how to know what is there in her heart plz. . .
aunty g namstey..mere age 21 hai...mujhe mastrubation k adat the but ab chood chuka hu...but mujhe ab nightfall hota h...or 1 week me 4 bar ho jata h ....mera penis b week ho gya h..or mere health b down ho gai...mera semen b thin ho gya ..hai.....me kya karu...kya frequent nigtfall normal hai...plzz help me plz plz aunty g rply me plz thnk u
Sir.i mastrubat...but i took off ..now im facing nightfal.,small size of penis ,soft erection,thin body and semen....im 22year old..and donot have beared and mouches..what can i do??
vivek condu
Sat, 04/25/2015 - 22:17
Aunty ji charan sparsh. . .actually mujhe masturbate karne ki bht buri aadat laga hui hai. . .hamesha din mei 3-4 bar masturbate karta hu . .mujhe darr hai shadi k baad iski wajah se koi problem na ho. . .sometimes blood bhi aa jata hai waha se. . .meri age 21 years hai body growth bhi ruk gyi hai face par beard bhi nahi aati hai. . Plz help Karen ?
Suno bete! Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti aur phir Yeh koi beemari thodi na hai- Lekin haan, sirf iske hee bare mein saara waqt sochna, Lekin haan, sirf iske hee bare mein saara waqt sochna aapki baki ki zindingi se aapko door ya laaparvaah kar na de, isliye iske bare mein itna sochene ki bhi avashayakta nahin. So koi aur activities kar lo, movies – BF Nahin – dost- yaar, books, gym, exercise… enjoy karo aur relaxed raho. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating Aur zara ek baar ek hormone doctor se bhi mill lo.
Aunty Ji Hastmathun Karne ki Aadat Toh Hai Hi Lekin Ek Problem Ye Hai Ki Mujhe Badi Umar Ki Ladkiyo Ko Dekhke Jyada Sex Ka Mann Karta hai...Matlab Young Girls Se Jyada Mujhe Aunties Mei Interest Hai...Iska Koi Ilaaj Btaiye ??
Hmmmm!Sahi - Galat ka nirnay, sirf hum khud hee le saktey hain.,Aur koi nahin kar sakta humare liye .Apne se umar mein badi mahila ke saath sambadh ke bare mein bahut se log sochtey hain. Yeh aap svyum chintan kar leejiye, aur soch leejiye. Jara yeh writup bhi padh lo : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/should-i-try-sex-older-woman
Hello aunty ji ..I m 19 now ...my problem is when I was in 10th I sucked cock of one boy in my class ...is there any problem after marriage because after three month my marriage so plz help me aunty ji
Suniye Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti aur phir Yeh koi beemari thodi na hai- , Lekin haan, sirf iske hee bare mein saara waqt sochna aapki baki ki zindingi se aapko door ya laaparvaah kar na de, isliye iske bare mein itna sochene ki bhi avashayakta nahin. So koi aur activities kar lo, movies – BF Nahin – dost- yaar, books, gym, exercise… enjoy karo aur relaxed raho. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
I am having sex with a lady who is Married she is also interested In doing sex with me and with her husband neither of us are not having and diseases. Can we have any chances of getting infected from any STD if we doesn't use condoms
Aunti ji aaj koi question nahi hai lekin aaj pahli bar aapki site dekhi bohahat pasand aai mujhe Kuch janna hoga to surf aapse hi puchunga thanks
suriya kumar
Mon, 07/20/2015 - 17:58
ist time larki se sex karne se uska blood aata hai to oh virgin hoti hai....aur blood nahi aaye to kya oh virgin nahi hogi? blood nahi aane ka kya karan ho sakta hai... 23 year ki villageme rahne wali larki ka????
Aisa bilkul bhee nishcit nahi hai ki pehli baar sex karne se blood ayega hee. Kyunki Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. Isliye dekho bete yeh janne ka koi bhi tarika mojjud nahi hai siwaye iske ki woh swayem apko yeh bateyin. Lekin pyar ka sabse eham pehlu hai vishwash aap woh rakhiye apne mann mein, Aur apne rishte ko majbut baniye. apnay mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
charan safaras auntyji.actualy mje yeh problm h ki mere boyfriend mujc sex krte but hum ne kabi condom use ni.kuki condom mje bilkul pasand ni .but hun mnu dar h ki m prengnt na hoja..pllzzzz aunty g koi solution btye b sex b continoue rhe or prblm b na ho
Yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi yeh unsafe sex tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. After 10 days aap ek home test kar saktey hain. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
aunty jii hm apne gf ko vrgn ma pns put krte ha but seal brk nhe kiye ha kya kch prblm hge upper se put krne se wdout cndm nd kya ass ma fck krne wdout yh sprm gir jye andr toh kch prblm ha plz say
Virginity ka pregnant hone ki possibility se koi lena dena nahin. Yadi andar skhalan na ho aap pregnant nahin ho sakti. Yadi ek bhi boond andar pad jaye, so aap ho saktee hain. Bas.http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
I m 21 Yrs old and i dont talk with my sister....kuki meri uske sath banti nahi h pr mai uske sth sex krna chata hu or wo 17 yrs ki h koi upay bataye jisse ki wo khud mere pas sex krne k liye chali aye
Hmmm! Yaani aap RAPE karne ki planning kar rahe hain? Actually aap logon ko shayad lagta ho ki kyunki yeh sab cheezein porn filmon mein bahut common hai aur shayad aapki sister aapke aas paas hee hain, so un hee se kar leeya jaye!! Yeh vahiyaat idea apne mann se nikaal deejiye aur yeh jaan leejiye ki sirf ki yeh ek ghinoni harkat hai jo ki aapki sister ke poori zindigi pe asar kar saktee hai, saath hee apka rishta wbane nahin hain, yeh toh aap bhi jaantey hee hain!! Apna chintan swasth karo!! https://lovematters.in/en/news/i-am-attracted-my-sister Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aunty g main yeh puchhna chahta hu k frst tym aggr sex kre toh aisa kya cheez use kre jisse penish andar jne me koi takliff na ho achchhe se ghus jaye
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