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First time sex: what are your tips Auntyji?

By Auntyji Tuesday, March 26, 2013 - 16:38
Auntyji, I am 18 and all set to lose my virginity to my boyfriend very soon. Is there anything I should definitely take care of apart from condoms? Swati, Noida

Auntyji says... Swati puttar, kya baat hai ji. First time sex can be very exciting and very scary at the same time, not to mention sensual, embarrassing, awkward and fun. So I am glad that you want be ready for it.

It makes me so happy that sex is finally getting out of closet. Makes sense too, because the more we talk about it, the better prepared we will be for it. And as you know what’s natural is never vulgar. But I’m diverging from your question. Puttarji, my super simple advice to you would be to play it very safe, know what you’re doing and when in doubt, just take it slow.

Now we all know about safe sex. Condom is a definite must. Not just to avoid pregnancy but also to keep most sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) at bay as well. I know a lot of people insist that condoms take away from real pleasure, but don’t take their word. And if your boyfriend has any issues, feel free to use the female condom. I know it can be slightly cumbersome, but definitely worth it.

Birth control

Another thing you should think about. Now, condoms are a good method of birth control, they protect you from disease, and they’re easy to get hold of. But they are not as reliable as hormonal methods like the pill. So you should ask yourself, "How would it be if I got pregnant?" If your answer is "A total disaster!" then you should think about using another form of birth control as well as a condom.

Here you can read about different birth control methods. And for confidential help you can contact our good friends FPA India – you can find their clinic nearest to you on their home page.

Kissing and caressing

Now, finally my two words on how best to enjoy your experience. Now I am assuming that you already know how you actually have intercourse with him. What I can tell you is not to take things too seriously. It’s not just an act, it’s also an emotion and an experience. So savour every moment of it. You might fumble a bit, but you’ll learn a lot as well. It’s difficult to go wrong with a lot of kissing, caressing and touching. Remember there are many ways to make love.

Puttarji you might think of me as old fashioned, but truth is that one should have sex for the right reason and with the right person. When it comes to great sex, just like cricket, timing is everything. Worry not, there is no guesswork required here. Your body will tell you when the time is right and your heart will tell you who the right guy is. But even your diehard romantic aunty will tell you to run the decision through your head before you execute it.

Pain?

I’d say that don’t worry about experimentation and diversity of positions. Just relax and take it slow. Save a few moves for the second time as well.

You might anticipate some pain or discomfort, but with time and practice, you’ll ease into it. The main thing is to take plenty of time to get really, really aroused so your vagina is very wet before you try taking his penis inside you. The main reason for first time sex to be painful is if you are so nervous and distracted that you aren’t properly turned on, and your vagina tenses up. If need be, feel free to use a lubricant or ask your boyfriend for a time out.

Exhilarating

Well Swati, as long as you know what you’re getting into, there won’t be many unpleasant surprises. There might be some awkward moments, but this will be something you’ll remember for a lifetime. In fact I am slightly jealous because first-time sex is definitely the most exhilarating thing that I won’t experience again. Now I am not that naughty that I’d ask you for reviews, but do have fun puttar.

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Beta aisa hona bohot hi common hai par hum aapki ismein koi sahayata nahi kar sakte! Lekin aap hastmethun try kar sakte hai kyunki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Beta yeh common si baat hai, ki unhe kya acha lagta hai. App yeh padh lijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
vicky vicky vicky
Mon, 03/21/2016 - 20:53
aunti g ladkiyno ko kitna lamba ling pasand hota hai . aunti g me bhut persan hu kynoki mera ling 5:30 inch ka h kya mere gf mere ling se khus ho jaygi ki ni kya me use apne ling se khus kr paunga ya nhi
Aaap khud ye nirney lein ki aapka ling chota hai ya bada yeh itna uchit nahi hoga. Ling ke size ki sahi jaankari yaha se hasil kar sakte hai aap: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes Aur please size par mat jao apna andaaz acha karo unke saath time bitao. Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Yoni bahut choti hoti hai aur lacheele bhi. Toh Jald baazi mat keejiye, Poora ling ek hi baar andar jaaye yeh bilkul zaroori nahi, aur naa hi iski rai di jaati hai. Iske barre mein yeh padhiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Mai apne gf ke sath sex kiya tha condom lagakar lakin wo fhir bhi dar rahi hai ke kahi wo pregnent to ni na hui hai qki uska period aya hua tha 2sra din tha uska aap bataiye kya wo sahi hai please help me aunty g
Agar sex protected tha toh isme pregnancy ke chances bilkul naaa ke barabar hote hai. Sure hone ke liye unprotected sex ke 10 din baad aap ek home test kar sakte hai. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? Saath hi kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se bhi mil lijiye. Relax rahiye and chinta naa lijiye zyada. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Hello... Mai join family se belong karta hu or meri 4 aunty h jis me se ek k hsband bahar rahate h to mai un aunty k saath sex karna cahata hu
Sex ke liye kuch rishto mein bilkul hi manai hai, jinme family sex bhi shaamil hai, samajik roop ya koi bhi nazar family sex ki permission nahi deti hai! Aur yeh humme kaun kehta hai ki family ke rishto mein sex allowed hai ya theek hai? Yeh ideas kahan se aate hai? Shayad blue filmo se ya chat rooms se? kya jo bhi hum wahan dekhte hai wo asal hota hai? Shayad nahi. So yeh idea ki family ka koi vyakti sex ke liye ready ho sakta hai iss mein ek satta hai; ek power ki jhalki hai jo ki kisi bhi soorat mein niyamit nahi hai. So zara relax kar puttar!! Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
If the sex was unprotected then it is possible that one could be pregnant, so to be sure please take a home pregnancy test after 10 days of unprotected test. Also if you have taken emergency pill then it is a possiblity that it could have affect the period cycle, please be relaxed and do not take anymore medicines without consulting a doctor. The reason of pain could be tension or pressure, please be relaxes and you could also consult a doctor to know the exact reason. Please read: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask". https://lovematters.in/en/forum
aunty me ek ladki ko pyar krta hu pr bo muje pyar nhi krti saaf mna krti h PR 2 year se bo mujse baat kr rhi h as a friend PR baat ESE krti h jese gf ho or relation me aane ki bolta hu to MNA kr deti h kya kbhi humare beech sex ya relation ho sakta h kya krna chaiye muje.
Bete kunal jab unki taraf se ye rishta sirf dosti tak hee seemit hai toh sex ka kya relation ka sawal kaise ho sakta hai? Aur yadi koi humaare saath nahin rehana chahtey toh kyaa hum unhe force kar saktey hain? Shyad Nhain?!! dekhiye Yadi koi hamare saath rehna chahtey hain so unhe yeh nirnay lena hai, hum unse sirf isliye haan nahi karwa sakte kyunki kewal hum unhe pyar karte hain. Thoda shaant rahiye aur apna chintan bhee swasth kijiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/love-and-relationships Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
rohan thakur
Sun, 04/17/2016 - 09:50
Hlw Unty ji mujhe aapse puchna hai mai first time sex kiya hai 15 ki age mein bina condon use kare mujhe ye janna usse kuch problem to hogi nhi na ya kuch uske period par kuch effect to nhi padega na plzzz help me
Bete yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes isme pregnancy ke chances ho sakte hai. Iske liye foran ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske ilava aap FPAI clinic se bhi sampark kar sakte hai jiski jaankari aapko issi website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Hlw anty jee ...meri prob ye h Ki Maine apne boyfrnd ke sath relationship bna liye h or hmdonosadi nhi kr skte qki hmdono other cast se belong krte h ..or hmare parents iske liye kV nhi manenge or aise me Mai agr Kisi or se sadi krti Hu to ye to pkka h Ki use scchai ka pta chl jayega to Mai iske liye kya kru I min kon si medicine use kru jis se Mai bilkul pehle Ki trh normal Ho jaungi or mere pti ko pta v na chle
Bete Supriya aap abhi bhee normal hee hain relax! Aur kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. isliye jab tak mahila khud nahi batyegi ki woh pehli baar hi sex kar rahi hain woh is baat ka pata nahi laga saktaye! Lekin sex mein jo bhi karein safe karein. Apnay mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yeh ek mythhai, yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hi asani se toot sakti hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. Isliye jab tak mahila khud nahi batyegi ki woh pehli baar hi sex kar rahi hai toh koi iss baat ka pata nahi laga sakte. Waise bhi isse koi farak nahi padta, yadi pyaar karte hain toh vishwaas bhi keejiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
aunty ji plzz help me...meri ek gf ha wo bs avi 16 years ki ha and she is ready to sex with me and jada force bhi wohi krti hai sex ke liye so mai ye janna chahta hu k mai us k sath kasa sex karu ya sex kru bhi ya nhi bcoz muje dar lgta hai k avi wo choti hai and use jada pain ya kuch ho na jaye
Dekho bete 18 saal se kam umar ki mahila ke saath kiya gaya sex chahein woh uski marzi se hee kyun na kiya gaya ho RAPE ki category mein aata hai. Isliye is baat ka nirnye ab aap swayam lein! Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Hii Meri shadi ko ek mahina ho gya h but pain ki wajah se main apne husband kuchh bhi nii krne deti so plz Ye batai ki main aisa kya kru jisse dard na ho
Auntyji
Tue, 06/14/2016 - 11:22

In reply to by aafree

Yoni bahut choti hoti hai aur lacheele bhi. Toh Jald baazi mat keejiye, phele finger se try karne ko kahiye, koi lubrication use keejye… Lekin bahut hi relaxed rehna hai aur apko bhi iss dauraan unhe bahut hi support karna hai. Poora ling ek hi baar andar jaaye yeh bilkul zaroori nahi, aur naa hi iski rai di jaati hai. Iske barre mein yeh padhiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Maine phli baar apni gf se sex kiya bina condom ke lekin sirf aadha hi gay sprum uske andar nhi gira hi Agr WO pregnant hogi to kya feeling aayegi use ki WO pregnant hai
Yeh ek bohot badi mithya hai ki sperm bahar nikalne se garbhdharan nahi hota hai kyunk pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Isse bachne ke liye condom ka istemaal karna chahiye. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths Sure hone ke liye unprotected sex ke 10 din baad aap ek home test kar sakte hai. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? Saath hi kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se bhi mil lijiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Bete anal sex mein yadi dono partners ki poori sehmati hai isse karne mein toh kar sakte hai lekin wo part bohot dry hota hai jiske liye koi chiknaai Jaise ky jelly ka istemaal kiya jaa sakta hai ya chiknaai yukt condom bhi use kar sakte hai, yadi condom ka istemaal kiya jae to koi side effect nahi hai. LEKIN, yeh jaan leejiye ki har koi har kism ke sex ke liye tayaar nahi hota – isme unki marzi honi chahiye. Yadi unhe yeh pasand nahi toh iska matlab hai, NAHI. Samjh Gaye? https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Beta, jaldi aana koi badi baat nahi, dont worry. Sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisee stithi mein partner par focus badhaye yani ki foreplay; pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaien karna jo aap niche diye gaye link par jaake padh sakte hai, apne partner kee uttejna badhane ke liye, yeh sab activities karna sabse zaroori hain. Iske elava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle ek baar hastmaithun kar sakte hai, utne samay pehle jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi aapki iss samasya ko sujhane mein madad kar sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Sex activity mein alag-alag tariko ka istemaal karte hue isse kese aur majjedaar banana hai iss baare mein yaha padhe: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love All the best beta! Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
hi antie jee how r u.mera aapse a sawal hai mai ek antie widow hai.uski sath sex try kiya lekin fail hogaya.kyun ki uski hips bhut fat hai aut mera fast sex.jab mai uski pusy me dalne lagaya mera lick hojata.hai hamesha aise he hua haI.har bar.aur mai jab uski sath phone per bat kartha hu mera tit hojatha hai light drops nikal the. wo mera sath be nahi dete sex karme time bhut sharma the hai.mai kaise karu.sex batao
Yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai . Aur apne se umar mein badi mahila ke saath sambadh ke bare mein bahut se log sochtey hain. Lekin is soch ke karan kahin kisi badi musibat mein na padd jaye isliye aap svyum chintan kar leejiye, aur soch leejiye. Yeh bhee padh lijiye : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/turned-older-women-normal Yeh bhee padho: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/en/resource/making-love Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Oral sex karne mein koi samsya nahi, agar saaf-safai ka poora dhyan rakha gaya ho aur isme dono partners ki barabar marzi shaamil ho! Aur behtar hoga yadi condom ka istemaal kiya jaye. Ab baat aati hai ki kya isse pregnancy ho sakti hai? Toh nahi isse pregnancy nahi hoti lekin Kyunki Mukh maithun ka sabse ehem pehlu hai atyant saaf safai toh dono partners ko iska dhyaan rakhna hoga. All the best beta. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0 Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Utejna hone par ling se paani nikalna ya sex ki ichha hona dono hi bohot common hai par hum aapki ismein koi sahayata nahi kar sakte! Lekin aap hastmethun try kar sakte hai kyunki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Hi, beta. Yeh janne ka koi bhi tarika mojjud nahi hai siwaye iske ki woh swayem apko yeh bateyin. Lekin pyar ka sabse eham pehlu hai vishwash aap woh rakhiye apne mann mein, aur apne rishte ko majbut baniye. Apne mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Auntyji mai jab bhi 4ya5 bf eksath lagatar dekh lunga na to. mere land se pani nikalne lgta h Aisa kyu hota h meko janna h or rokne k upay janna h please aunty ji bataiye
Utejna hone par ling se paani nikalna ya sex ki bhavna aana dono hi bohot common baate hai aur isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahi hoti toh relax rahiye. Haan yeh toh zaroor hai ki app ye yaad rakhiye porn ka maksad keval manuranjan tak seemit hai aur isse asal jeevan par laagu karne ki koshish naa karre. hum aapki ismein koi sahayata nahi kar sakte, Lekin aap hastmethun try kar sakte hai kyunki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Bete pehli baar sex karte samay; kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaye iss baare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijiye : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Sex activity mein alag-alag tariko ka istemaal karte hue isse kese aur majjedaar banana hai iss baare mein yaha padhe: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Zaroori nahi hai ki har mahila ki yoni se first ime sex main bleeding ho. Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. isliye jab tak mahila khud nahi batyegi ki woh pehli baar hi sex kar rahi hain aap is baat ka pata nahi laga saktay. Waise bhi isse koi phark nahin padta, yadi pyaar karte hain toh vishwaas bhi keejiye. : https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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