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My best friend told everyone I kissed a boy! Help!

By Auntyji Friday, June 7, 2019 - 15:12
I kissed a boy and shared my secret with my best girlfriend. She has now told everyone about us. I am being teased and called a chalu ladki. Kaushiki, 18, Bihar.

Auntyji says, ‘Chalu ladki? Your saheli is a buri ladki! Very poor show – this is dosti?’

No sin, no crime

Beta Kaushiki, you have done no big sin, nor paap. Its OK. These things happen and they happen with everyone – so what’s the big deal? Don’t you panic, betajaan, and don’t worry at all. It’s really ok. You did not harm anyone – then why the ghabrana?  

Isn’t it weird – when we hit someone, abuse someone, then no one creates such a panic and here it’s a kiss and everything seems amiss. No Kaushiki, no need to feel small or ashamed – you are no ‘chalu ladki’ – though what is that qualification?

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But first, I want to talk about your friend who you trusted. If there is any such thing as chalu, she is the one. Now tell me what does chalu mean? Smart, clever, chaalak? Or extra smart – and not in a nice way – right? Who is that here? She is.

So chalu – that she won your trust, heard your story, took full interest in it and mauka miltey hee went and told your secret to everyone.  

That is too chalu behaviour if you ask me. She used your trust, rather abused it. Very poor show. If there is any chalu business going on, it’s her.

Feeling low, walking tall

So, what are you going to do now? First, call the guy who got kissed – is he also feeling chalu? No na? He is feeling cool... top of the deck.

Ask him if he heard anything. If not, tell him what happened. Apologise to him because you telling the story to your so called friend, has ‘outed’ him in a way too. Who knows how his pals are behaving? Find out and apologise.

Most important – tell him not to behave as if you both did something terrible. Tell him – you are not ashamed but if he behaves like an ashamed cat then it will be very stupid – of him and you.

Kiss keeya to darna kya. Tell him to copy the ‘kauva chale hans ki chaal’ look. And you just do the same. Be cocky, be sure, be firm. Just repeat after me. ‘I haven’t killed anyone, I’ve not let a friend down. I’ve kissed someone because I like him, he likes me and respects me’.

Just be normal, but with an attitude. Anyone says anything – just confidently say, ‘Ask whoever told you, she seems to know more than me’. Someone will say, ‘XX told me’ - who may not even be your ‘friend’. ‘Fine ask them then'. Ek dum, bindass.

Choose wisely

Beta Kaushiki, for your confidences. delete that dost who has no respect for you. And beta, learn a lesson – all of you reading this column. Choose your friends wisely.

Gossip lovers and dagabaaz people come in all genders, shapes and sizes.  

Beta, you have nothing to be ashamed of – she does, along with others who are gossiping about you and the boy. You didn’t harm anyone – they did. Problem is theirs, not yours, beta Kaushiki.

*To protect the identity, names have been changed and the person/s in the picture is/are models.

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Ankur Tnaeja
Wed, 06/12/2019 - 16:45
Aunty Ji..... mujhe apni sagi bhua ke sath sex karne ka man krta hai....wo bhot hot hai...bade boobs...badi aur moti ass...fat curves..lambe baal...i can't stop myself... should i ask her out ??? or should i wait for a sign ???
Dekhiye bête Sex ke liye kuchh rishto mein bilkul hi manahi hai, jinme family sex bhi shamil hai, samajik roop ya kisi bhi nazar se family sex ki permission nahi hai! Family relations mein ya nazidiki rishetdaar ke beech sex humesha ek bahut hee pecheeda mamaala hai - kai samuday mein bahut galat mana jata hai , bilkul asweekar hai - amamaneeya hai. Yeh idea ki family ka koi vyakti sex ke liye ready ho sakta hai, tayayr ho jayega, hum usse ""pata "" leynge - is me ek satta hai ek power ki jhalk jo ki kisi bhi soorat mein niyamit nahin hai. So zara relax kijiye puttar!! Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho!
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