Auntyji says ‘Wah wah! New choices, new decisions – can be very cool and can equally make you go quite crazy!’
Not for the faint-hearted
Quite frankly – this is a big move indeed. Both literally and figuratively! And it can be the best choice you made. Chances are – it can also be the reverse. Perhaps there are a few things you may want to first keep in mind.
So, are both of you equally sure about this? Do you both feel committed enough to get to this level? It’s not only about moving in – it also involves many other decisions and here are a few. Moving in is not like checking into a hotel room, it's changing your entire lifestyle.
Now for the elephant in the room. Living together is also a clear signal – ‘we are doing it’. You both cool with that?
Because you know the minute you get your own key to the apartment – the jungle bells will sound out loud and clear as well – ‘they are having S**!’ All sorts of comments – judgements, quizzical looks coming your way. Tayyar?
Make sure beta that it’s not just you, the ladki, left fielding the comments and charchas – as it is practice, but the boyfriend also steps up to tone down these inquisitive enquiries!
Sharing a house also means sharing roles and responsibilities. Who will keep an eye on the house help? Who leaves early and who packs the lunch or even makes plans the dinner? Do make sure the expectations are not totally out of context. For example, you hate the kitchen and all that comes with it but now our man assumes that is a ‘woman’s role’ then what happens?
The other very big issue is of expenses. Brutal truth beta Avani. Money can kill any dosti, any relationship. So this uncomfortable conversation is better discussed very upfront – very clearly in the very beginning itself. Place your contribution ability now and ask him his – now itself.
Whose flat is it?
Avani puttar, this is a great step if you both are equally committed, equally sure – and not if one wants it more than the other. If that be the case beta, hold off. Wasie beta, whose flat is it? Yours, his or are you getting a new one? Don’t think me as an inquisitive Aunty ji but this is one more issue to decide on.
One way of semi-testing the waters is to stay over for a fortnight or something and do a small test run. Will it be good for both of you? Aisa na ho that the move into a flat is the cause of moving out of the relationship! Lock keeya jaye?
*Person in the picture is a model.