How to convince parents about your relationship?

The situation that Rohan and Gauri find themselves in is one that is faced by many young couples in India, where cultural and societal expectations, as well as the influence of family, can make it difficult for a couple to be together if their parents do not approve.

So, what can a young couple do when they find themselves in this situation? How can they help their parents understand and accept their relationship, despite their differing backgrounds?

Here are some tips that may help:

1. Start a dialogue: The first step in trying to gain your parents’ approval is to start a conversation with them. Explain your feelings and the reasons why you are in love with your partner. Are they good at taking care of you? Are they ready to support you in any situation? Have a deep thought about your relationship and then talk to them! However, make sure to listen to your parent’s concerns and objections and try to address them as respectfully as possible.
2. Show them your commitment: Demonstrate to your parents that your relationship is serious and that you are committed to making it work. Share your plans for the future and let them know that you are willing to work together to overcome any challenges that may arise.
3. Seek the support of trusted friends and family members: If you have close friends or family members who are supportive of your relationship, seek their help in trying to convince your parents. It can be anyone - an elder sibling, some chacha or mami, anyone who supports you. They may be able to provide a different perspective and offer guidance on how to approach the situation.
4. Be patient and understanding: Gaining the approval of your parents may take time and patience, and it may be a difficult process. Try to be understanding of their concerns and objections and avoid getting into arguments or confrontations with them.
5. Prepare for a difficult decision: Ultimately, the decision about your relationship is yours and your partner’s to make. However, it is possible that your parents will not support you despite all your efforts. If your parents do not approve of your relationship, you may need to make a difficult decision, whether to proceed without their support or bring your relationship to an end. Both decisions will be difficult and will give pain in the short run. So you should take time to consider and choose to keep your long-term well-being and happiness in mind when making this important life decision. 

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed. 

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