Aunty ji says, 'Nadir bhai, the answer is rather straight and simple. You can’t tell'.
There’s no definite way of finding out if a girl is a virgin or not. Even for a doctor.
In some cases there is a thick hymen detectable partly covering a woman’s vagina. But then a lack of hymen is not really a sign of sexual experience. I think I tore mine while horseback riding when I was 16. No, that's not a joke.
All in the past
That actually leaves you with only one option. Ask her and take her word for it. But do that at your own risk. And while wearing full body armour.
But let’s talk about why are you so curious? It’s all in the past and shouldn’t affect your present or future relationships. This hullabaloo over virginity is a meaningless rat race. I didn’t expect young men your age to care about this at all.
Have questions about her virginity? Watch this short video for some answers:
Since you’re so curious, Rakesh puttar let me explain to you a little more about the hymen. It is a layer of skin around the opening of the vagina. It doesn’t usually cover up the entrance completely.
And you don’t have to ‘break through’ it the first time you have sex, just gently push through so the opening in the thin skin stretches wide enough. It can also be stretched or torn by playing sports or using tampons.
Don’t mind me saying but it is people like you who are boosting the doctors’ ‘restoring’ hymens and ‘creating’ virginity business. They are just fortifying a myth and playing with your minds. Waste of time, money and emotions, I say.
Meri mano toh, don't even expect every girl to bleed at first intercourse. Just like you’re not expected to stay hard the entire night! Lack of blood doesn’t mean she’s done it before. Just that her hymen is very stretchy. And you have been nice and gentle!
Don't complicate your relationship (and compromise sexual pleasure) by over-analyzing this issue. Enjoy what you have and use all that energy in pursuit of love and pleasure.
If you still have doubts, maybe the two of you should talk things through. But I doubt if this talk will have a good ending, leave alone a happy one. You’ve been warned. Seriously my boy, does virginity really matter?
To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed.