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How can I tell if she’s a virgin?

By Auntyji Tuesday, September 4, 2012 - 17:20
I love a girl Aunty ji and want to know if she is a virgin or not? How can I test that? Nadir, Bikaner.

Aunty ji says, 'Nadir bhai, the answer is rather straight and simple. You can’t tell'. 

There’s no definite way of finding out if a girl is a virgin or not. Even for a doctor.

In some cases there is a thick hymen detectable partly covering a woman’s vagina. But then a lack of hymen is not really a sign of sexual experience. I think I tore mine while horseback riding when I was 16. No, that's not a joke.

All in the past

That actually leaves you with only one option. Ask her and take her word for it. But do that at your own risk. And while wearing full body armour.

But let’s talk about why are you so curious? It’s all in the past and shouldn’t affect your present or future relationships. This hullabaloo over virginity is a meaningless rat race. I didn’t expect young men your age to care about this at all.

Have questions about her virginity? Watch this short video for some answers:

Myths

Since you’re so curious, Rakesh puttar let me explain to you a little more about the hymen. It is a layer of skin around the opening of the vagina. It doesn’t usually cover up the entrance completely.

And you don’t have to ‘break through’ it the first time you have sex, just gently push through so the opening in the thin skin stretches wide enough. It can also be stretched or torn by playing sports or using tampons.

Don’t mind me saying but it is people like you who are boosting the doctors’ ‘restoring’ hymens and ‘creating’ virginity business. They are just fortifying a myth and playing with your minds. Waste of time, money and emotions, I say.

Meri mano toh, don't even expect every girl to bleed at first intercourse. Just like you’re not expected to stay hard the entire night! Lack of blood doesn’t mean she’s done it before. Just that her hymen is very stretchy. And you have been nice and gentle!

Warned

Don't complicate your relationship (and compromise sexual pleasure) by over-analyzing this issue. Enjoy what you have and use all that energy in pursuit of love and pleasure.

If you still have doubts, maybe the two of you should talk things through. But I doubt if this talk will have a good ending, leave alone a happy one. You’ve been warned. Seriously my boy, does virginity really matter?

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed. 

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I want to know if my gf is virgin since she cqnt tell that because she drank with her friends i.e., boys and girls and she cant remember what happened that night what to do pls help!!!!!
We can’t tell you this, neither can you ever guess unless she tells you herself. Also the hymen can be torn or stretched in lots of ways even without having any kind of sex, in Sports like cycling horse riding, running to catch a bus. To Clear your doubts read more here: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Are you saying that she can’t recall if she had sex or not? Is that the point? That is possible, no doubt yet there must be some signs of what went on the night past, no? What to do- I really cant say. Talk to her very openly and see what she says is return… On the basis of this, make your final decision, either you let it be- forget it ever happened– or then move on and find your sense of love and balance, elsewhere.
We can’t tell you this, neither you could know this anyhow or no one can know about this, and hymen can break because of any reason, unless your girlfriend herself didn’t admit or tell you about it ok?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity
Abdul saheed
Wed, 05/13/2015 - 04:53
Virginity matter most in marriage.to be absolutely sincere 99% of girls nowadays are nt virgin.taste it and withdraw out the fact from it.
aunty ji .. can u plz tel me abt female arousal .. as my gf dsnt show interest during sex .. her body just cramping .. and even she dsnt holf me tight.. how to get her in mood ?
Mayur dude, there’s no hurry Bro!! take it easy, make friends with her, let her get used to you… and want to get intimate! And read about female arousal first, here, http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed
Me and gf get in physical touch a month ego. But now I got conversation between her & her ex-bf. And it was very sextual conversation. I asked her several time but she just ignore. I know that I made for her only & I love her so much. But I want to know the reality. So kindly help me please.
Right!! So your gf is having a conversation which is sexual in nature with her ex… what does that tell you? While in a new relationship we have to be very understanding but also clear in what works and what not… hai na? So ask her, yeh kya maajra hai madam… and see what she says…All the best.
I am 23 yrs old, I am very much desperate of having sex. For controlling myself i usually masturbate regularly for the last 6 years. Will it affect my penis size or my sex power.
Bete Ritesh! Masturbation is a safe way to satisfy yourself. It would do no harm nor any illness. But there are many other activities such as sports, games Or hobbies. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
We can’t tell you this, neither you could know this anyhow or no one can know about this, and hymen can break because of any reason, unless your wife herself didn’t admit or tell you about it ok? Clear your doubts read more here: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
auntiji plzz muje btaye ki agr m apne bf k sath sex kru tw shadi k bad mere oati jb mere sath sex krege tw kya pati ko pta chl jaega ki me phle b sex kr chuki hu...me abi virgin hu..muje bf k sath sex krna h..uska penis mere vagina m dlvana h..plzz btaye kya pati ko pta chl jaega ki me sex kr chuki hu phle b..is bat ka darr h muje..me fst tym sex bf k sath krna chahti hu..pr drr h ki shadi k bad pati sex krega mujse tw use pta chal jaega...tw ap btaye ki kya pta chl jaega????
Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. Isliye jab tak mahila khud nahi batyegi ki woh pehli baar hi sex kar rahi hain woh is baat ka pata nahi laga sakte! Lekin sex mein jo bhi karein safe karein. Apne mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
We can’t tell you this, neither you could know this anyhow. No one can know about this, not even a doctor, as the hymen can break because of any reason, unless your girlfriend herself didn’t admit or tell you about it, ok? Clear your doubts read more here: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Apoorv beta, you might wanna consider what love means to you. Sorry to be the one to break this to you but a woman's attitude is in no way connected to the tissue between her legs. So, you can't find out, neither can someone else unless the girl herself disclose her sexual history to you.Clear your doubts and read more here: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Harsh beta, age se jyada kisi bhi insaan ka mentally, emotionally, physically - har tarah tayyar aur zimmedaar hona zaruri hai, isliye age se badh kar yadi iss par focus kiya ajaye toh hi aap apne aap ko sex ke liye tayyar maan sakte hain. Sex se koi nuksaan nahi jab tak ki wo safe sex hai, yaani poori samjhdaari dono logo ki sehmati aur safety ke sath kiya gaya sex ho. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
No, it's not possible. In fact, the only way one can make out or guess is if the hymen has broken, which can be for any reason actually. No one can know anyhow about a woman's virginity unless she herself doesn’t admit or tell them about it ok? So read about this here: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mritunjay Chauhan
Thu, 12/14/2017 - 10:04
My girlfriend is 27 , which is 8 years older than me...when I ask about her past she says that use koi interest hi.nii tha kisi ko dekhne me ..vgaira vgaira..I just want to know till 27 years can a girl control to have sex ...??? Or is this possible that she didn't had a bf in her past and never had sex?? Plzzzzz plzzzz plzzzz tell me I am madly in love with her. Plzzzzz
We can’t tell you this, neither you could know this anyhow or no one can know about this, and hymen can break because of any reason, unless your girlfriend herself didn’t admit or tell you about it, OK? If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
TejU Satsena
Thu, 01/18/2018 - 11:16
Mam,I have no idea about sex but my first time I had a sex for few minutes without complete penetration.I didn't bleed that time and never had sec after that However I feel certain changes in my body since then like having more sexual thoughts,changes in my breast and vaginal size but still I'm getting my periods. Does it mean I lost my virginity? Please answer me.
Having sex for the first time is considered as losing virginity. If you are talking about losing virginity in terms of hymen, it's not possible to comment on it as all hymen can be torn or stretched in lots of ways without having any kind of sex, or any Sports like cycling, horse riding. Clear your doubts read more here: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hello aunty, i wantd to knw i did sex with my b.f but he was nt able to put his penis in my vagina but at tht time i got much water from my Vagina i didnt get any blood. Is it tht my hymen is broken
Listen bête, the only way one can make out or guess is if the hymen has broken, which can be for any reason actually. No one can know anyhow about your virginity unless you yourself didn’t admit or tell them about it ok? So don’t worry. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Abhay bête aisa bilkul zaruri nahi hai ki first time sex karne mein bleeding kyunki seal ya hymen, kisi bhi cheez se toot sakta hai… tez khel, daudna, poncha karna vigerah ya kai baar janm se hee hymen nahi hota hai toh bleeding ki chinta mat kijiye. Ise padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/female-virginity-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Alfiya naaz
Tue, 02/07/2023 - 14:22
Maine bhohat bar sex kiya hai mujhe shadi karni hai kye shadi ke bed mere pati ko pata chal jaye ga maine phale sex kiya hai aunty ji mujhe batao
Kya aapko darr is baat ka hai ki aapke husband ko pata chal jaygea, yeh nahin ho sakata Alfiya beta. Keval mahila hee bata sakti hai ki woh pahli baar sex kar rahi hai ya nahi. Aur yeh ek mahila ka adhikar hai ki woh yeh batana bhee chahti hai ya nahi. Bilkul relaxed rahiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/female-virginity-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna   chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Maam mene aapne husbend se 5 sal m 6-7 bar hi sex kiya h bo bi 2-2.5 sal ke gap se fir bi vegaina ka size normal nhi h mere husbend ko lgta h ki mene kiso k sath sambhandh rkha h pr esa kuch nhi h bat divoce tk phuch chuki h kya aap ye bta sakti h ki ye kese ho rha h
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