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In love with my colleague – should I tell him?

By Auntyji Tuesday, October 20, 2015 - 08:39
I am almost in love with my colleague at work. He will be travelling abroad for a few months. Should I confess my feelings before he leaves? Lucy (22), Mumbai.

Auntyji says… Oh my lovely Lucy, who has the flight to catch, you or he? Achcha hunn, sunn...

Broadly speaking

Achha jee…. very pecheeda situation. Sabse pehele toh beta, let me tell you just one thing. I doubt if there is anything called, “a little bit in love with someone”. Either you are or you are not.

Think about it. You have a bit of crush, some feelings, a bit of romance and desire. Is it enough to qualify under the broad category that love is?  You can choose to turn down the flame or screech the brakes. Woh sab alag baat hai, some dimaag ka maamla not dil ka maamla, nahin? What do you say?

New guy on the block

So chalo jee, now your love train has taken off, slowly easing out of the platform. All this happened with this colleague you spent an abnormal amount of time with? You suddenly realised he is quite cool, quite happening after all! He has been in and around the office and you never really saw him? How exciting!

One day he shows up in your team and you guys have such a great time. You have so much in common, work and fun at the same time, same place and a lot more. Suddenly, Lucy is going to office early, leaving late, haan?

Eyes on the target

Lady in love Lucy, listen to me! At times, we mistake proximity for love or feelings and emotions. What he may well be showing to you, could only mean care for a colleague to him.  While he does that, his goal may well be to deliver a great project. This can be why he is ensuring you are ok, you give your best and you keep up.

All the stuff that goes with it could just be a part of this deal. Have you thought about that? I am definitely not saying that he is cheating or misguiding you. Nopes! He may just be very focused on the project and you are as well, but maybe a bit on him too!

Now is the time

Lucy, is now a good time? That’s a question you need to ask. How about you use this time to get to know if you both still have a lot in common, when work is out of the way. Now you can communicate on an absolutely neutral ground, right?

How about you check if you really dig him that much, when he is miles away in a different time zone? How about you see if he misses you in a similar way? Check if the spark really exists?

Perhaps this distance may bring you closer. There is no need to hurry. Are you somewhere worried that he might find someone else, or someone might find him? Isn’t that better, Lucy? Wouldn’t it make things somewhat easier?

There is a lot to think about. Keep calm and go dancing, before the flight takes off!

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Hmmm! Bete kyun naa aap pure pyaar aur vishwaash ke saath untak yeh baat rakhein. Lekin haan bete khud ko mentally unki HAAN aur NAA dono ke liye tyyar bhi rakhiye. All the best. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
aunt me ek ladki se bahut pyaar karta hu me us se bat bhi karta hu pr km hi karta hu me usko izhar kaise karu ki me us se pyaar karu LekinKeh nahi sakta me kaise use fill karu ki me usse pyaar karta hu
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