First time sex
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First time sex: what are your tips Auntyji?

By Auntyji Tuesday, March 26, 2013 - 16:38
Auntyji, I am 18 and all set to lose my virginity to my boyfriend very soon. Is there anything I should definitely take care of apart from condoms? Swati, Noida

Auntyji says... Swati puttar, kya baat hai ji. First time sex can be very exciting and very scary at the same time, not to mention sensual, embarrassing, awkward and fun. So I am glad that you want be ready for it.

It makes me so happy that sex is finally getting out of closet. Makes sense too, because the more we talk about it, the better prepared we will be for it. And as you know what’s natural is never vulgar. But I’m diverging from your question. Puttarji, my super simple advice to you would be to play it very safe, know what you’re doing and when in doubt, just take it slow.

Now we all know about safe sex. Condom is a definite must. Not just to avoid pregnancy but also to keep most sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) at bay as well. I know a lot of people insist that condoms take away from real pleasure, but don’t take their word. And if your boyfriend has any issues, feel free to use the female condom. I know it can be slightly cumbersome, but definitely worth it.

Birth control

Another thing you should think about. Now, condoms are a good method of birth control, they protect you from disease, and they’re easy to get hold of. But they are not as reliable as hormonal methods like the pill. So you should ask yourself, "How would it be if I got pregnant?" If your answer is "A total disaster!" then you should think about using another form of birth control as well as a condom.

Here you can read about different birth control methods. And for confidential help you can contact our good friends FPA India – you can find their clinic nearest to you on their home page.

Kissing and caressing

Now, finally my two words on how best to enjoy your experience. Now I am assuming that you already know how you actually have intercourse with him. What I can tell you is not to take things too seriously. It’s not just an act, it’s also an emotion and an experience. So savour every moment of it. You might fumble a bit, but you’ll learn a lot as well. It’s difficult to go wrong with a lot of kissing, caressing and touching. Remember there are many ways to make love.

Puttarji you might think of me as old fashioned, but truth is that one should have sex for the right reason and with the right person. When it comes to great sex, just like cricket, timing is everything. Worry not, there is no guesswork required here. Your body will tell you when the time is right and your heart will tell you who the right guy is. But even your diehard romantic aunty will tell you to run the decision through your head before you execute it.

Pain?

I’d say that don’t worry about experimentation and diversity of positions. Just relax and take it slow. Save a few moves for the second time as well.

You might anticipate some pain or discomfort, but with time and practice, you’ll ease into it. The main thing is to take plenty of time to get really, really aroused so your vagina is very wet before you try taking his penis inside you. The main reason for first time sex to be painful is if you are so nervous and distracted that you aren’t properly turned on, and your vagina tenses up. If need be, feel free to use a lubricant or ask your boyfriend for a time out.

Exhilarating

Well Swati, as long as you know what you’re getting into, there won’t be many unpleasant surprises. There might be some awkward moments, but this will be something you’ll remember for a lifetime. In fact I am slightly jealous because first-time sex is definitely the most exhilarating thing that I won’t experience again. Now I am not that naughty that I’d ask you for reviews, but do have fun puttar.

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed. 

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Comments
Sorry for delay bete! yoni bahut choti hoti hai aur lacheele bhi. So Jald baazi mat keejiye, phele finger se try keejiye, koi lubrication use keejye… Lekin apki partner ko bahut hee relaxed rehana hai aur apko bhi is dauran bahut hee support karna hai. Poora ling ek hee baar andar jaaye yeh bilkul zaroori nahin, aur na hee iski rai dee jaati hai. iske barre mein yeh padhiye http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Yadi sex dono pyaar ke saathiyoun ke beech ho, surakshit yaani bina koi zore zabardasti ke ho, so bahut hee achcha. Hmm… bête aap please bilkul relaxed raho. Koi jaldi nahin hai bilkul… just relax and take it slow. Apne partner ko bhi yeh salaah deejiye, Slow down. Yeh link padh leejiye : http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love Aur bête Pehli baar sex kartaye samaye kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaye is bare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijieye : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts
Aunty ji namaste meri badi behen hai jiska age 21 he me meri behen ko sliping pill dekar chodna chahta hu kese sliping pill du or kitana dekar chodu plz help me
Kya? Acha toh kya aap hamse RAPE karne ka tarika puch rahe hain? zara suno Actually aap logon ko shayad lagta ho ki kyunki yeh sab cheezein porn filmon mein bahut common hai aur shayad aapki sister aapke aas paas hee hain, so un hee se kar leeya jaye!! Yeh vahiyaat idea apne mann se nikaal deejiye aur yeh jaan leejiye ki sirf ki yeh ek ghinoni harkat hai jo ki aapki sister ke poori zindigi pe asar kar saktee hai, saath hee apka rishta wbane nahin hain, yeh toh aap bhi jaantey hee hain!! Apna chintan swasth karo!!
aunty ji mera boyfreind sex me jyade intrest rkhta h..or hm ni..hr wqt sex related bat krta h to hmme excitment a jati h fall ho jata h..wo hmare sath sex krna chahta h but use pta h hm shadi se phle ni krnge..man v gya h..bt oral sex krne ko khta h..plz aunty ji btae kya ye shi h hmare liye
Hmm! Lekin bete Akriti jo viykati apse pyar karneka dawa karta hai woh aapse koi bhee aisi cheez karne ke liye jismein aap comfortable nahi hai kese dawab bana sakta hai? Isliye bete sex ke liye koi jaldi nahi hai! apana pura time lo har baat ko achhe se samjho! Mentally, physically, aur emotionally bhi. Is website pe bahut see jaan kari de gayee hai use padh lo… aur us vyakti ka intezaar karo jo ki aapke is darr ko samjhe bhi aur mitane mein bhi madad kare. Hum humeshan yahan hai aapke liye. Saath hee apne rishte par ek phir se vichar kijiye.
kamal jaipur
Fri, 09/18/2015 - 14:56
namste aunty ji ... mene 2 sep ko meri gf k sath sex kiya tha or uski 3 tarik ko period aane walw they or mene condam b use nhi kiya ...bt uski abi tj date nhi aai ..usne tablets b li bt fr b kuch nhi ho rha ..aaj 18 sep ho gai h...plzzzzz rply ab kya hoga or kya krna chhiyee,, rpplyy pllzzzz
Bete yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy http://www.fpaindia.org/
hi aunty ji...great site for querries...hatts of for your word...keep it up...anty ji...muje kuch puchna h..mai or meri grlfrnd dur dur rhte h to hmesha milna nhi ho pata..pr jb hm phone to talk krte h or romantic talks hone lgri h to mai masturbate krta hu to mera ijaculation ho jata hai..but uska nhi hota...one more problem..she is still vergin..to wo kaise masturbate kre ki ijaculation b ho jaye ..qki fingering to kr nhi skti...please rply...i m waitng..plss
Thanks Vipul bete! Acha suno mahilaoun aur purushon ko kese masturbation karna chahiye iski poori detail aap yaha se hasil karo. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/women-masturbating
Aunti ji..maine bf k st 16 sal ki age me hi sex kiya h.coz wo muzse shadi krna chahta h.or mai b..humare reletn ko 5 sal ho gye h..pr agr usko sex ki icha hoti h to mere ps time n rhta..mai 2,3 din rukne ko bolti hu to reletn todne ki bt krna h.phone bnd kr deta h..bt n krta.muze hi har man kr man jana pdta h..or shadi ki bt krti hu to tal deta h..mai kya kru?kya usse chod du..bat bat par galiya b deta h.sochti hu k chhood du usko..pr bdme sochti hu k meri virginity to khtm ho gai h..kon krega muzse shadi??kya kru mai plz help me.
Hmmm! Lekin bete Snehal abhi aapki umar hai ki kya? Kya aap khud is zmmedari ke liye tyyar hain kabhi socha hai aapne? Aur aap zara yeh swayam sochiye ki jo viykati aapse sirf sex na karne ki baat pe rishta tod deta hai, woh aapka sacha saathi kese ho sakta hai bete? Zara is rishte ke bare mein dubara socho. Aur saath hee yeh bhi padhlo dhyan purvak ok?: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/marriage https://lovematters.in/en/resource/making-love https://lovematters.in/en/resource/love-and-relationships
Anonymous
Wed, 12/16/2015 - 00:01
ek ladki hai sindhu jiske sath maine sex kiya hai tabse wo mere sath br br sex karne ki zid krti hai mai kya karu mujhe kuch samajh nhi a raha hai she is love mai nd i love her so kya krun
aunty ji namaste... m apni padosan k sath sex karna chahta ho.. uski abhi ek saal pahle hi shadi hue h.. koi tips dijiye na.. plz.. ki kese m usse sex k liye baat karo...
Hmmmm! pehle zara yeh sochiye ki apke mann mein jo chal raha hai woh sab jaankar yadi woh mahila aapki complaint police mein kar day ya aapki pitai shuru kar de toh isse apka career apki life par kya prabhav padea? so zara bete apna chintan swasth kijiye aur yeh baat apne mann se bilkul nikal dijiye ki mahila kewal sex ki vastu hai. apne aas pass ki mahilao ko respect dena shuru kijiye jese aap apni ghar ki mahilao ko dete hain.
If it was unsafe sex? So there are chance of getting pregnancy. Please take a home pregnancy test. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Daniel guptil
Fri, 12/25/2015 - 00:46
Hello aunty ji...mujhe ye problem hai ki jab mai apni girl friend ke sath sex Karne jata hu us se pehle hi mera sperm gir jata hai Or fir penis khada NHi hota kya karu plz plz
Hmmmm! So bete Beta jaldi hone se koi baat nahin, dont worry. So sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik hee hogee. aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani bête ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge mein help karta hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
Lekin chinta kis baat ki bete? Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
sikha verma
Sat, 12/26/2015 - 23:52
Auntu ji boyfriend se jyada close ho gayi sex to nahi hua but sperm mere v** me lag gaya tha to mere pregnent hone ke kitne chances hain plz aunti ji help me mai kaafi dari huyi hun.
Yadd rakhiye chahye ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Abhilasha
Wed, 12/30/2015 - 22:31
Namsete aunty Ji mene apne bf ke sath 23 oct ko sex kiya usne unwanted 72 di uske baad muze havey blooding hui .2 month ho gye mc nhi aai home pregnancy report negative aai .pls btAiye mai pregnant hu ya nhi
Safe sex ke liye condom ka istemaal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bete, Yeh mahila ke masik dharam par asar kar sakti hai. Aur agar reports negative hai toh periods ka itna late hona bhi theek nahi hai, isme koi problem ho sakti hai. Saath hi kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se bhi jaldi mil lijiye. Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Yadi aapko koi dard ya dikkat ho rahi hai, aur chahate hue bhi nahi ho raha toh shayad aapko kisi doctor se mil lene chahiye. Nahi to its ok. Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Aunti g sex krte smay jo pani jesa nikalta ha drop drop kya ussey pregnant toh nai hota na koi .sperm toh white or gada hota ha par bo nhi bt bo jo pani pani nikalta ha agar bo sex krte time andr girgya ho toh pregnant hone k chance hote hain kya
Beta isse precum kehte hai, aur yaad rakhiye chahe ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua ho, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liye ek shuraanu bhi kaafi hota hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
hii aunty ji i am skyy aunty ji meri age 25 h me marrid hu par shadi s phele mera love kisi or se tha she also arrid par ham sex me ek dusre ko bahoot aache se stsfid krte hai kya isme koi risk hai plss help me??????
Bete aap kis risk ki baat kar rahee hain? Please vistaar mein likehin. Saath hee yeh bhee padhein: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhee nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
king rahul
Thu, 02/11/2016 - 07:26
auntiji me apni bhabhi ke sath sex kerna chata Hu kese karu kuch sal phele unhone muje line Di thi per me samaj ni paya
Sahi - Galat ka nirnay, sirf hum khud hi le sakte hai aur koi nahi kar sakta humare liye. Apne se umar mein badi mahila ke saath sambadh ke bare mein bahut se log sochte hai. Lekin aapki iss soch ke kaaran kahi aap kisi badi musibat mein naa padh jaye isliye zara aap swayum chintan kar leejiye aur soch leejiye. Jara yeh writup bhi padh lo: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/should-i-try-sex-older-woman Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Mai hastmatun sr bahut pareshan hu ye bimari mujhe 10 shal se hai ab mera ling thik se khada nahi hota aur veerya bhi nahi bacha ab bataye kya kare aur haal me meri shaadi hone wali hai
Bilkul nahi beta, yeh koi beemari nahi jiska koi illaj ho, It’s quite common; bus swasth raho aur yaad rakho ki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apne aap ko santusht karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahi hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities mein samay bitta sakte hai, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies, ok? https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Batao!! Iska koi formula hota hai kya? Sahi - Galat ka nirnay, sirf hum khud hi le sakte hai aur koi nahi kar sakta humare liye. Apne se umar mein badi mahila ke saath sambadh ke bare mein bahut se log sochte hai. Lekin aapki iss soch ke kaaran kahi aap kisi badi musibat mein naa padh jaye isliye zara aap swayum chintan kar leejiye aur soch leejiye. Jara yeh writup bhi padh lo: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/should-i-try-sex-older-woman Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apne aap ko santusht karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahi hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities mein samay bitta sakte hai, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies, ok? https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
shiva jaiswal
Sat, 02/27/2016 - 11:29
Love u my sweety aanty...!! Mom ji ek bat puch ni hai meri gf hai smthing age 19 virgin hai... Mam humara afair 2sal purana hai mai use bahut pyaar krta hu or vo mujhe... Mujhe usse sex karna hai.. Mai raazi bhi kar lunga Problem ye hai jab mai uske privet part me me penis in kru to use blode aayegaa or jyada dard hoga Matlab aisa krne se use asahniya dard hoga Plzzz bataiye... First time grls ko bloud ata hai aisa suna hai
Anti ji namste ...mare wife six m intrest nahi late h jab mera mud hoti h or m romantic hota hu to wo to bas hansti rahti halanki uska paani bhi mere sath chot jata h plz bataye ki wo bhi mare tarh romantik ho jaye
It is very common bete! Koi jaldi nahi hai! apna pura time lo har baat ko achhe se samjho! Mentally, physically aur emotionally bhi. Is website pe bahut si jaankari di gai hai usse padh lo… aur uss vyakti ka intezaar karo jo ki aapke is dar ko samjhe bhi aur mitane mein bhi madad kare. Hum humeshan yaha hai aapke liye. Sex activity mein alag-alag tariko ka istemaal karte hue isse kese aur majjedaar banana hai iss baare mein yaha padhe: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Namste anty Ji mere bf se sex ho chuka h hum shadi ke liy b ready h par ager meri shadi bf se nhi hui or kisi se ho gai to Jo mera husbend hoga use pta chal jayga ki me sex kar chuki hu plzz help me
Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yeh ek mythhai, yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hi asani se toot sakti hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. Isliye jab tak mahila khud nahi batyegi ki woh pehli baar hi sex kar rahi hai toh koi iss baat ka pata nahi laga sakte. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
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