Auntyji says…Oho puttar, looks like your boyfriend needs some self control device – a restraining himself order perhaps!
Hit or miss?
So there is no doubt the man loves you and has decided that he wants to show you – to sweep you off your feet, to delight and excite you… Granted. I can just imagine your gal pals swooning at that auto of flowers, the sounds of delight and the hurried texts to their own boyfriends – 'When was the last time you got me even a cactus?’ Nice, very nice - but at the office reception? An auto full? Does he expect you to arrange all that as well? Ehh… Thoda too much ho gaya!
Space invasion
To top it all, this springing a surprise when you are with your own pals, however fleeting it may be, popping out the bushes when you are walking in the park, matching you step by step at dance class...oh dear God. It’s a case of OD on love! It’s like you can’t go anywhere – he may just jump out of the next box you open, the next powerpoint you are presenting, the next shower you are taking! Is this supposed to be causing happiness or give you an occasional heart attack?
Securing his feelings
The issue is beta, is it really love or something else? Some sort of insecurity, maybe even a way to control. It’s like he is marking you and his territory. Telling, rather announcing, to everyone – ‘she’s MY girl!’ Right? But you know that – why does the world need to be shown that? He needn’t prove his love for you by being omnipresent – all the time.
Does he even know
Tell him Kaveri. Tell him because he may not even know you are not liking this – he may think it’s the sweetest thing he could do for the person he loves so much. Tell him, no more surprises, no more shocks, no more jumping out of the woodwork! Explain how a cupcake in the fridge will be as delightful as the auto of flowers at your workplace. In fact, office is no place to show crazy love – that is totally out of bounds! Assure your love for him and urge him to respect your boundaries.
OD’ed on Love
Not everyone is into surprises. Some folks get freaked out and this total display of attention can actually be more alarming than calming! There is a huge difference betaji in being loved and being smothered. The man has to do his own thing and let you do yours - which will make you both enjoy the time you spend together – even more! Go talk to him Kaveri, and let’s hope he hasn’t set up the coffee shop as a shaadi ka mandap before you reach there! Surprise!
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Auntyji says…Oho puttar, looks like your boyfriend needs some self control device – a restraining himself order perhaps!
Hit or miss?
So there is no doubt the man loves you and has decided that he wants to show you – to sweep you off your feet, to delight and excite you… Granted. I can just imagine your gal pals swooning at that auto of flowers, the sounds of delight and the hurried texts to their own boyfriends – 'When was the last time you got me even a cactus?’ Nice, very nice - but at the office reception? An auto full? Does he expect you to arrange all that as well? Ehh… Thoda too much ho gaya!
Space invasion
To top it all, this springing a surprise when you are with your own pals, however fleeting it may be, popping out the bushes when you are walking in the park, matching you step by step at dance class...oh dear God. It’s a case of OD on love! It’s like you can’t go anywhere – he may just jump out of the next box you open, the next powerpoint you are presenting, the next shower you are taking! Is this supposed to be causing happiness or give you an occasional heart attack?
Securing his feelings
The issue is beta, is it really love or something else? Some sort of insecurity, maybe even a way to control. It’s like he is marking you and his territory. Telling, rather announcing, to everyone – ‘she’s MY girl!’ Right? But you know that – why does the world need to be shown that? He needn’t prove his love for you by being omnipresent – all the time.
Does he even know
Tell him Kaveri. Tell him because he may not even know you are not liking this – he may think it’s the sweetest thing he could do for the person he loves so much. Tell him, no more surprises, no more shocks, no more jumping out of the woodwork! Explain how a cupcake in the fridge will be as delightful as the auto of flowers at your workplace. In fact, office is no place to show crazy love – that is totally out of bounds! Assure your love for him and urge him to respect your boundaries.
OD’ed on Love
Not everyone is into surprises. Some folks get freaked out and this total display of attention can actually be more alarming than calming! There is a huge difference betaji in being loved and being smothered. The man has to do his own thing and let you do yours - which will make you both enjoy the time you spend together – even more! Go talk to him Kaveri, and let’s hope he hasn’t set up the coffee shop as a shaadi ka mandap before you reach there! Surprise!
To protect the privacy of the author, the person in the picture is a model.
Does your partner also go over the top in displaying his or her affection? Share your thoughts in comments or on Facebook. If you have a personal question, please visit our discussion forum.