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First time sex: what are your tips Auntyji?

By Auntyji Tuesday, March 26, 2013 - 16:38
Auntyji, I am 18 and all set to lose my virginity to my boyfriend very soon. Is there anything I should definitely take care of apart from condoms? Swati, Noida

Auntyji says... Swati puttar, kya baat hai ji. First time sex can be very exciting and very scary at the same time, not to mention sensual, embarrassing, awkward and fun. So I am glad that you want be ready for it.

It makes me so happy that sex is finally getting out of closet. Makes sense too, because the more we talk about it, the better prepared we will be for it. And as you know what’s natural is never vulgar. But I’m diverging from your question. Puttarji, my super simple advice to you would be to play it very safe, know what you’re doing and when in doubt, just take it slow.

Now we all know about safe sex. Condom is a definite must. Not just to avoid pregnancy but also to keep most sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) at bay as well. I know a lot of people insist that condoms take away from real pleasure, but don’t take their word. And if your boyfriend has any issues, feel free to use the female condom. I know it can be slightly cumbersome, but definitely worth it.

Birth control

Another thing you should think about. Now, condoms are a good method of birth control, they protect you from disease, and they’re easy to get hold of. But they are not as reliable as hormonal methods like the pill. So you should ask yourself, "How would it be if I got pregnant?" If your answer is "A total disaster!" then you should think about using another form of birth control as well as a condom.

Here you can read about different birth control methods. And for confidential help you can contact our good friends FPA India – you can find their clinic nearest to you on their home page.

Kissing and caressing

Now, finally my two words on how best to enjoy your experience. Now I am assuming that you already know how you actually have intercourse with him. What I can tell you is not to take things too seriously. It’s not just an act, it’s also an emotion and an experience. So savour every moment of it. You might fumble a bit, but you’ll learn a lot as well. It’s difficult to go wrong with a lot of kissing, caressing and touching. Remember there are many ways to make love.

Puttarji you might think of me as old fashioned, but truth is that one should have sex for the right reason and with the right person. When it comes to great sex, just like cricket, timing is everything. Worry not, there is no guesswork required here. Your body will tell you when the time is right and your heart will tell you who the right guy is. But even your diehard romantic aunty will tell you to run the decision through your head before you execute it.

Pain?

I’d say that don’t worry about experimentation and diversity of positions. Just relax and take it slow. Save a few moves for the second time as well.

You might anticipate some pain or discomfort, but with time and practice, you’ll ease into it. The main thing is to take plenty of time to get really, really aroused so your vagina is very wet before you try taking his penis inside you. The main reason for first time sex to be painful is if you are so nervous and distracted that you aren’t properly turned on, and your vagina tenses up. If need be, feel free to use a lubricant or ask your boyfriend for a time out.

Exhilarating

Well Swati, as long as you know what you’re getting into, there won’t be many unpleasant surprises. There might be some awkward moments, but this will be something you’ll remember for a lifetime. In fact I am slightly jealous because first-time sex is definitely the most exhilarating thing that I won’t experience again. Now I am not that naughty that I’d ask you for reviews, but do have fun puttar.

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed. 

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Ji nahi, bete! Pregnant hone ke liye purush ke shukranu ko mahila ki yoni mein jakar dimb ko nishechit karna bohot zaruri hai. jo ki sirf Yoni Maitun ke dwara ho sakta hai. Zara yeh padho. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Auntyji
Fri, 04/21/2017 - 09:39

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auntyji..parnam... aunty ji mero problam ye hai ki mera penis se pisab karne ke bat sprem k jesa padarth aata hai ...kiu aatha haii aunty ji plz batadijiye
Amrit bete, relax! Aisa kabhi kabhi ho jaata hain , par agar aisa kai baar ho raha hain to behtar hoga ki aap kisi panjikrit doctor se iss baare main milein. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aunty g meri gf ko 10 din pahle period aay the mene abhi 2 din pahle sex kiya to use phir se periods a gya to koi problem to nahi hogi batao plzzzzz......
Ummm! Yadi unsafe sex ke baad bhee unhe periods ho rahe hain toh ismein pregnancy ke chances na ke barabar hai. Phir bhi yadi aap aur safe hona chahtey hain to ek Home pregnancy test kar leejiye aur stithi nischit kar leejiye. Kripya aaj ke baad condom ka nirdharit upyog keejiye, apne liye aur apni partner ke liye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Naina pandey
Tue, 10/31/2017 - 13:24
Aunty ji maine apne boy friend se mc aane ke 16 din bad sex sex kiya hai ..par bina sefety ke .unka verya 5-6 bar meri yoni me nikla hai ..kya pragnancy ke chances hai ...pls help me
Naina beti, ismein pregnancy ke chances ho sakte hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Sex se koi nuksaan nahi jab tak ki wo safe sex hai, yaani poori samjhdaari dono logo ki sehmati aur safety ke sath kiya gaya sex ho. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Sahi - Galat ka nirnay, sirf hum khud hee le saktey hain, aur koi nahin kar sakta humare liye. Apne se umar mein badi mahila ke saath sambadh ke bare mein bahut se log sochtey hain. Lekin apki is soch ke kaaran kahin aap kisi badi musibat mein na padd jaye isliye zara aap swayam chintan kar lijiye, aur soch lijiye. Jara yeh writup bhi padh lo : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/should-i-try-sex-older-woman Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Dard hone ka ek sabse mehtvpurn karan yeh ho skata hai ki apki partner sex ke liye theek tarah se tyyar hi nahi hui hon. Bete yeh baat bohot achhe se samjh lo aap ki sex kare ke liye dono hi partners ko tanavmukat hona bohot hi zaruri hai! Aur dono ka tyyar hona mentally, physically, emotionally bhi bohot zaruri hai. Ho sakta hai unhe koi darr ho ya doubt, yeh bhi ki woh pregnancy se darti ho ya society se? Jo bhi ho shayad woh abhi tayyar nahin, pehle yeh sab baatein clear karo aur phir sex ki planning. Sirf ek person ready hai aur doosre nahin, so phir toh koi maza nahin na? Aap samjh rahe hain na mera matlab? isliye make sure ki apki partner in sab cheezon ke liye tayyar hui hain. zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-can-i-please-my-wife-bed Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete yadi shareer mein uttejna adhik ho, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheegra hi patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisi stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay, yaani bete ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaen karna , jinse dono ko anand mile, apne partner ki uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehle jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aunty mera penis straight hai pr anticlockwise direction me thoda sa muda hai ye shayad mujhe bachpan se hi hai aur i do masturbate once a week . Aunty kya iske wjh se mujhe koi dikkt ayegi meri sex life me ya mujhe iske liye operation to nahi krwana pdega. Mujhe na urination me prob ati hai aur na hi masturbation me but mujhe dr lgta hai is bat se ! Kya kru aunty?? Plz help me
Auntyji namaste ! Mera name krish hai mai 22 sal ka hu aur mujhe koi bhi sexual smashya nahi hai but aunty mera penis anticlockwise direction me thoda sa twist hai mujhe lgta hai ye mere bachapn se hi hai qki maine pehle bhi n9tice kiya tha but aunty mujhe dr lgta hai ki iske wjh se mere sex life me problem to nahi ayegi ya mujhe operation to nahi krwana pdega
Namaste, Krish beta! Ling ke size mein ek apna teda pann hona is quite common bete. Don't worry, isse koi samsaya nahin hoti hai. Yeh padhiye zara: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Antyji mene apni gf se bina condom k sex kiya ussi din uski date band ho 10 12 din ho gye hume kuch patta ni chll paa rha ki wo prgnent h ya nhi pregnency k kya lakshn h plz tell me
Period ke DAURAAN? Tab toh pregnant hone ka chance na ke barabr hai beta.Phir phir bhee doubt nahi jaa rahaa hai toh aap ek homo pregnancy test kijiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-period https://lovematters.in/hi/news/sex-during-my-period-do-i-need-contraception Yadi aap iss mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judhna chahte hain toh hamare Discussion Board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Akash sharma
Wed, 02/13/2019 - 12:30
Aunty ji mene meri gf ke sath sex kiya h uski shmtii se use us din bleeding hui thi to mene kaha babu ye normal h .fir next din use bleeding hui ese 3din use bleeding hui mene usse kaha mc to nhi h ..usne kaha nhi . Fir use bleeding bnd ho gai fir 1 din ki gap me use vaps bleeding ho rhi Aunty ji plz btay hum ky kre
Akash bete ab kya sthiti hai? First time sex mein halki bleeding ho sakti hai lekin agar bleeding jyada ho toh phoran kisi vshesagya ya ek panjikrit doctor se mill lena sahi hota hai. Ise bhee padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/virginity/first-time-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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