Will I break her hymen if I finger her?

By Auntyji Tuesday, December 18, 2012 - 07:30
Q: My girlfriend wants me to finger her vagina – will it break her hymen? She also wants me to insert it deep inside. Is there any way I can prevent her hymen from breaking? Ravi, Ahmedabad.
Auntyji says… Ravi beta, ki haal chaal? Or like they say in Gujarati, kem cho majama? You are a lucky man Ravi puttar You should be happy that your girlfriend is taking the initiative and telling you what to do. Better follow her directions betaji. I am not kidding because most young men come to me with their problem that their girlfriend/wife doesn’t let them finger her. So you should be very happy that you can pleasure your girl. As far as she is enjoying it, why should you be bothered about anything else? She has let you know she is ready for this next step in your lovemaking, and her body is her body, after all.

Losing her virginity?
Ravi, really there is no need to worry about her hymen or tearing it. It’s true you could stretch her hymen by fingering. But as far as I go, this should not matter. It doesn’t mean she would no longer be a virgin, if that’s what you are worried about. ‘Losing your virginity’ means one thing and one thing only: having vaginal intercourse for the first time.

About the hymen
Frankly, I don’t know how much you know about hymen. So let me tell you a few facts about the female anatomy. Maybe this will help you calm down.

The hymen is a layer of skin around the opening of the vagina. It doesn’t usually cover up the entrance completely. And you can just gently push through so the opening and the thin skin stretches wide enough.

The hymen can also be stretched or torn by playing sports or using tampons. That doesn't mean a girl has lost her virginity. So a lack of hymen is not really a sign of sexual experience. Even a medical expert can’t tell for sure if a girl is a virgin or not.

So there you go. Very clearly betaji you are worrying yourself sick unnecessarily. For all you know, she could have broken her hymen while horseback riding much earlier. And you are sitting and stressing about breaking it while fingering.

In case you are worried about her not bleeding the first time. Then you should know that one should not even expect every girl to bleed at her first intercourse. Especially if the hymen has already been gently stretched during your excellent lovemaking!

If you take your time making love to her then she ought to be relaxed and there is also no need for it to cause her pain. Meanwhile, worrying about trying not to stretch or tear her hymen will probably make you so nervous it will spoil lovemaking for both of you.

Bigger picture
Ravi puttar, I hope with this I have solved most of your worry. Like they say in Punjab, khao pio aish karo mitron. Just stay calm and be happy and always look at the bigger picture. You should be grateful that the two of you love each other and are sexually compatible as well. The same folklore in Punjab goes on to say dil par kise da duhkao na.


Hmmm! So toh aap Kuch mat kijiey aur sahi sammaey aaney ka intzaar kijiey jab wo khud sehmati dikhaey sex ke liey.Kyunki kisi bhi rishtey mey jabardasti acceptable nahi hai . in baton se dhyan hatiey aur apney rishtey ko aur majbut banaiey.
Jatin yadav
Mon, 01/11/2016 - 01:07

hi aunty meri gf fingering kara leti hai 2finger bhi dala leti hai mera penis suck kar leti hai bhut penis apani vagina mei ni daalne deti Kai baari wo penis pe baith chuki hai but jump kar jaati hai mei kya karu plz sugges isse mei setisfy ni ho paata
dur e najaf
Sat, 06/27/2015 - 13:43

Hi...I did fingering last night for the first time and I was little bleed.have I lose virginity?? will I bleed again when I'll do sex fisrt time???

Aapko aisa kyun lag raha hai ki hymen nahi toota hai, kya blood ke karan. So yeh bilkul bhee nischit nahi hai har mahila ko pehli baar sex ke duran blood niklega kyunki Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. Yeh padh lijiye:' Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon!

I had a fingering with my bf,but when he tried it the third time he insert 2 fingers and i had a pain for two days and he asked me if am still a virgin.when he want to insert his penis it pains and we didn't have sex that day and now i am afraid to have sex with him.please reply want to know if um still a virgin

m y pochnaa chahtii hn k mere bf n mere fingering k n thora as blood b aya now my seal is open to kiaa jab m real m sex karungii to blood ayega ?? kia koi tareka nii k seal wapis s ajaye PLC help

Jab me hasta maithun karta hu tab foreskin peechhe kar leta hu aur only penis ke head ko thoda sahlane se mera virya pressure se Bahar nikal jaata hai, to kya ye normal hai, aur future me marriage ke baad sex life me koi problem to nahi hogi na?

Hello mam, parso ke din Maine mere bf ke sathme sex kiya. Hamara first time tha. And Jab Meh khudko fingering krti hun 3 finger aaram se chali jati hai. Aur parso un honone unka penis eject kiya mere vagina me mujhe thoda hi dard Hua. Humne Condon nai use kiya air thode sperms vagina ke ander gye lekin hymen ki bleeding nai hui. Toh ky Meri virginity lose hui? Aur ky Meh pregnant ho skti hun?
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