We’re virgins – is unprotected sex OK?

By Auntyji Tuesday, August 7, 2012 - 13:50
Q: Is it safe to have sex without a condom if we're both virgins? My boyfriend and I are both virgins, and for the first time we want to have the perfect experience of sex without a condom. Is it a bad idea? Bharti, New Delhi

Auntyji says... sex vex hai rabba, badhaiyan ji badhiyan! I am so happy for the two of you. One should really learn how to live it up from you youngsters. But I am mighty impressed with you Bharti puttar for coming to aunty for advice. Jury is still out on sex without condoms as there are many things to be considered. You need to make two glasses of chilled Rooh Afza and sit down with the love of your life and talk things out.

Prevention is better than cure
See betaji, no doubt that your first time should be the most memorable one but you need to be very careful. I don’t mean to freak you out but there is a huge difference between being a virgin and claiming to be one.

I am not telling you not to trust your guy. But it’s very important for us women to have a sensitive set of antennae. You might mistake Aunty for ‘doubting Thomas’ but prevention is better than cure, they say.

Even if you both are virgins, it does not mean that you cannot have sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). I hope you know that you could get the HIV virus through infected needles, or even open wounds.

An STD is too huge a price to pay even for a memorable first time. I am telling you guys, better be very clear before you actually get down to anything. In the scenario that you both want to go ahead with having unprotected sex, I will tell you to run basic tests to be sure about any such eventuality. Better be safe than sorry. No?

Unplanned pregnancy
Moving on. I am not trying to scare you but you know na the biggest risk of unprotected sex is conceiving a child. I know 'coming outside’ is an option that men have. But it’s certainly not the most foolproof thing to do – especially for young people and with all the excitement of a first time. I always tell people that it is all in the moment and he might or might not be able to act with that much spontaneity.

He could also ejaculate a small amount of sperm without even realising – but it only takes one to get you pregnant. So mere puttar it is not as simple as it might sound.

Last but not the least it also depends on where exactly you are in your cycle. But your Aunty will always tell you that unprotected sex is not really a smart thing to do. When in doubt go for protection.

Birth control options
If you do decide that you are confident neither of you have an STD and decide to have sex without a condom, of course there are many other options for making sure you don’t get pregnant. Have a look at the contraception top five facts or information on different birth control methods right here on Love Matters.

Now don’t judge me to be old or regressive. I am just making you aware of all the possibilities. I strongly believe in taking calculated risks only. In our times they used to say that a known devil is always better than an unknown one. So go ahead have a great time with your friend. But do it safely. Why take chance with the first time when you’ll have rest of your lives to experiment?

Would you ask your partner to have an STD test before you have sex for the first time - even if your partner says he or she is a virgin? Comment here or join in the facebook discussion! 

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sweet shamu.
Wed, 04/29/2015 - 00:56
Nice information antijii I am feel so relex to read it nd kiip it up ... Thnx for the inform by u all the teen who are vergin
Thanks Aunti ji..very helpful info. :* I also have a Question: I am virgin but my partner is not,she hv done sex only once with her ex, so can we do sex without condoms?
Aunty ji I have sex addiction problem I masturbate every second day can u tell it is good or bad or how can I end this problem please tell me soon
Relax bete! Masturbation is a safe way to satisfy yourself. It would do no harm nor any illness. But there are many other activities such as sports, games Or hobbies. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" .
Karthik, this is a very personal choice. There is no right and wrong here and nor can we say what is the “right time to have sex”. If and when you are ready, you are well prepared of the impact , on both you and your partner, that is the right time, and when that is, who can judge but you. But yes, there is no hurry, one can get intimate with each other, try to get comfy, try other sexual positions, and see how you feel. Ok? And LAST but not least, don’t even think of sex without a Condom!!
Try this technique and see if it helps you. Emphasize on your partner's body, and focus on your partner. Involve yourself in foreplay. If you are highly aroused, there is an increase in chances of premature ejaculation. So, you could also masturbate before sex, giving enough time for your body to get an erection again. Condom also helps in prevents premature ejaculation. Read the link given. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask”
Hi pls I have a very important question that has been bothering me since. And hope u can help me with the right answers. Pls does it really matter if u hav a small penis?, can u still satisfy a girl?. Small penis has kept this guy from having sex from day one till now!. Pls reply as soon as u get this. Thanks.
Read this, son: If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask”
Very helpful.. But plz help me for one another thing.. My partner is not supporting me while having sex as she tells that she gets pain even if I arouse her properly before entering. Still now we are not successful entering even 3 inches.. I m stressed..
That is a very sad situation beta, but don’t worry. The thing is perhaps you need to ask her about what she likes and enjoys in sex… what is she missing and what she wants in sex. The other thing is you may want to check how comfortable she is how relaxed and is she has any fears around having sex. Also ensure she has no infection or discomfort in and around her vagina, which could also be the problem. Get to know her body better, talk to her and find out what she is looking for. I hope this helps. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask”
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