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Can gays turn straight?

By Auntyji Tuesday, May 8, 2012 - 17:03
Q: If a gay person decides to become straight, can he be successful? After trying various sex acts with different females, he could first become bisexual then slowly turn heterosexual. At least some if not all gays would be cured. Sumit, Gurgaon

Auntyji says... Sumit beta, first of all, thanks for your kind consideration into this topic. No, I am not wondering why you are interested in this issue at all. Your Aunty doesn’t judge. Even more importantly, yad rakhne ki baat hai ki being a gay person is not a disease, so it can’t be cured. Nor is it a crime.

Now let’s get to your question. See betaji, the thing is that all of us don't have to like the opposite sex only. It's not like men who spend too much time with men will turn gay, or the other way around. The same goes for lesbian women. Lesbian women aren’t frigid women who’ve never known the opposite sex. Just because some of them have short hair doesn't mean that they think of themselves as men.

Not a phase
Instead gay people are just people who are simply emotionally and physically attracted to the same sex. It's almost impossible for anyone to convert or un-convert. You're just born with it. The same way you’re born as a boy or a girl.

Sometimes the cultural environment can have some impact, but eventually very little. Always remember that it's not a phase that one can grow out of. Rather it's the way you are.

In my experience, it is possible that a gay person decides to get married, have sex, and have children with a person of the opposite sex. It’s not that he is not capable to intercourse with a woman, or bear kids. It’s just that he enjoys a different kind of sex. We all have our likes and dislikes. Right beta?

No scientific evidence
More often than not, a married gay person will denote that he or she is suppressing their individual right to have sex or a relationship with the person they desire. Just give them space and time to sort things out. It's not easy being a minority. Sexual minorities have it even tougher.

Marriages etc do not change the fact that they are interested in the same sex. It’s like saying heterosexual people can be turned bisexual or homosexual if they just had sex with the same sex. There is no medical or scientific evidence to support this. And my friend Saraswati also confirms this. No more details for now, but you know what I mean.

Not in our hands
And trust me, a lot of gay people do try out the opposite sex. At a younger age we are all a bit confused about sexuality. And then there is the pressure from mummy daddy, friends, neighbour uncle and even some aunties about how to behave and who to fall in love with. But you young people don't care. And you shouldn't too.

If you have seen enough Hindi films, you will know that we cannot control who to fall in love with. Just as a poor boy can fall in love with a rich girl and eventually marry her, he can fall for a rich boy too. Quoting another filmi dialogue, it's not in our hands at all! Wahi hota hai jo manzure khuda hota hai.

Why fight?
And as far as experiments are concerned, it's a great thought. We must try and test our theories. But betaji, when it comes to converting gay people to straight, many have tried and have failed.

What is natural cannot be vulgar, so why fight against it? No. Instead let's do a Rooh Afza summit, so people from different sexual orientations can come together and talk about their experiences over cold drinks. Rab rakha ji.

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Comments
auntyji please help me mei abhi 16 ka hu mujhe ladkiyo se zyada shayad ladko pe interest hai!!! mei bahut try karta hu change honne ka but i cant!!! i think i m nt normal mujhe to kabhi kabhi suicide karne ka man hota hai plzz giv a special advice aunty!!
Anti ji main 18 sal ka hun or main koi gay bot ya top ni hun par mujhe larko me bahot interest hai jb ki meri do girlfriend v hai or main ek lover chahta hun jo mujhse sadi v kare kya ye possible hai.?
Beta suicide kisi baat ka solution nahi hain. Agar aap ladkon ki taraf aakarshit hote hain to isme bura hee kya hai? Aap pehle mard thodi na hai jo aisa mehsoos karte hain. Bas beta be careful Humesha – HUMESHAA condom use karna hoga aur rishta- yaani ki roohani, ya romantic wahan hee banao jahan aapko confidence ho ki isko galat nahin samjha mana jayega. Aap akele nahin, apne jaise aur bhi log ya sansthan dhoondo- aapke sheher mei zaroor hongee!! Relax !! Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
aunti ji mere penis ke gurde pr kucch dane h jo ki mai 2009 me test kraya tha jisme gurde ka bhi test,urine test , boold test, doctor ji ne approx 7 text likhe the sbhi ok mile ae dane na to bdte h na hi come hote h jb se mai dekh rha hu o itne ke itne h kaise pta chalega ki ae dane koi infection h ya jnm se aese hi h please reply me
Ha aap kar saktay hai agar aap pori umar kay hai Mansik aur sharirik roop se iskay liey tayyar hai to aur sabse important baat apkay pass aisa partner hai jo umar my poora yani 18 saal se uppar aur porri tarah se razi ho to .
Aunty ji muje aapse mere baare me kuch personal baat share krni hai.please aap muje fb me cntct kijiye kch v kaar ke mere se contct kijiye.me aapna fully indnty nahi bata skta sorry.please help me.muje aapki help ki jarurt hai bohot please.:(i hope aunty aap kch respons dogi :)
Aunty meri umer 26 saal ha mein ne kabhi kisi larki se sex Nhi kiya. Boys se kiya ha. Meri next year shadi ha kya mein us ka Saath sex kar payou ga. Kya normal life guzar sakta ho. Plz help.
im krish first in my age of i started matrubate. when im alone im dreaming about sex with women . most of the times i was in sex mood. then at my age 19 i know about gay sex. i admired on guys and try to sex with them. that time if any guy touches my cock or rub it my cum was out within few seconds. i cant put my cock in anybody ass. if me took my cock near the ass my tempted cock was down. it had not enough tempt to fuck. so then im changed as bottom i get fucked in my ass.im not like when im fucked. but after sometimes i lovet it. so finally im straight who become gay bottom . so can i became a straigt guy. can i marry a girl . i want my straight life back
Respected anty, how can gay sperm semen able to give birth a child with sexual intercourse with women. Whether semens are not changed to think about same sex or it remains as would as straight men semen.
Beta jee, Gay bhi Normal hee hai!! Yeh mein kya sunn rahee hoon puttar?!! Apne aap ko bilkul akela na samjho, na hee galat ya kharab. Aap bilkul theek hain, normal hai. Apne sheher mein apne jaise aur logon se milo aur apne aap ko bhi pehchaano. Sex ke Vishay mein humesha safe raho. All the best dear.
Aunty.. kya gay bottom bhi sucessful married life lead karskte with women and have kids. I mastrubate like 2-3 times a day is it ok? N if my dick is small likr 5 inches, what are any effects?
Beta ane behaiviour par control sirf humaara apna hee hai hai na? Yadi mein apna koi bhi behaviour change karna chahoon to mujhe hee jatan karna hai, kosish karnee hai. LEKIN, aap jaaie hain wasie apne BF koo pasand nahin? Aaj aapko apna andaaz badalne ke liye pressure aa raha hai, kal avaaz ke liye ho, parson kapdon ke liye, logon se baat karne ke iye, kaam ke liye, apne vichaaron ke liye... aap kya kya badalna chahtey hain? Yeh toh soch leejiye. Kisi aur ko khush karne ke liye hum apne aap ko badal toh leytey hain lekin woh nahin rehtey jo hum actually hain, au rna hee jinhe us bf ne pasand ya pyaar keeya hai... Pyaar mein sauda nahin beta....!!
Aunty ji Mein manta hoon Ki gay men straight nahi ban sakte lekin gay bi sexual bhi nahi ban sakta agar woh highly motivated ho toh
can a gay prsn produced child!!? And some gay look like a totally straight men so what is difference a feminine gay and a gay who looks like a man. Please tell me
YES of course he can, if he can have sex with women, he can procreate!! SO the difference is that some men assume or take on the role of being more womanly and effeminate and that is the identity they like to project and feel good about. Other gay men, look and seem like any other “straight guy”. Both are just fine!! It is really the individuals choice how or what they want to project or look and behave like. This is like asking, “”why do straight men behave so straight, so “manly” all the time, why can’t they be a little effeminate/ girly sometimes!!”” Each to their own, let people be happy with who they are and what they are, is’nt it? Have you read a bit about LGBTIQ issues, start here: https://lovematters.in/en/term/lgbt
namaste aunti ji, aunty ji main mastuburate bahut karta hu is liye mera pinis right taraf ko bent ho gya hai abh main kya karu ? jaldi hi meri shaadi hone wali hai? kya main bache ka baap ban sakta hu?? aunty ji please answer dena bht jaruri hai
Relax! Pehle toh apne mann se yeh baat nikal dijiye ki yeh sab hastmethun ke karan ho rah ahai kyunki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Aur Ling ke size mein ek apna teda pann hona is quite common bete don't worry isse apko koi samsay nahi hogi. Yeh padhiye zara: http://lovematters.in/en/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizesc
Is der any treatment's any medicine's any Way's to become straight? Can we keep our emotions our sex in control?? Cn v ignore d people whom v like??? Plz help me out, m fed up wid dis....
Dear Shyam, when no there's no disease, there can't be a cure, right? If you are attracted to guys, what's wrong in it? You are not the first person to feel this way. Just be careful, always, ALWAYS use a condom and don't get intimate or romantic at any place that may not go well for you. You are not alone, find a support group, your city must have one, too. Relax!! If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Unknown Bhaisahb
Fri, 10/23/2015 - 23:38
aunty ji I'm extremely immature(and maybe Mentally Disturbed), I'm worst student in my class ,I'm little bit girly , I can't go anywhere outside freely (as there are many people who are controlling my life), I'm worst in sports ,I'm not that physically healthy , so is there any solution to turn into a mature person without going outside?
Dear Akash, you are who you are. You can't change yourself. If you are attracted to guys so what's wrong in it? You are not the first person to feel this way. Just be careful, always, ALWAYS use a condom and don't get intimate or romantic at any place that may not go well for you. You are not alone, find a support group, your city must have one, too. Relax!! If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Madam mera penis upar bala skin puche ata hai lekin jab hot ho jata hai tab mere ko dard mahesus hota hai. Matlab ki mera penis ka age bala hissa thora mota hai. Please help me
Bete Tapas is skin ko nahataye samaye halkaye se pichay kar ke saaf karna hota hai jissey ki waha saafai bani raheye, yadi aisaye kartaye mein koi jyda takleef ya blood araaha hai toh ek doctor se mill lo iskaye baaraye mein. Aur jyada yaha padhiye : http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/penis
adyant ratha
Sat, 12/10/2016 - 16:08
auntyji, if a dad is bisexual. will his son be a bisexual ????
Sexual orientation is not inherent , a bisexual man's son can be straight, gay, trans, polysexual, asexual, demisexual...just like any straight man's.. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hi, Sahil beta. Yadi aap mardon ki aur aakarshit hote bhi hain toh isme bura hee kya hai? Aap pehle mard thodi na hai jo aisa mehsoos karte hain. Bas beta be careful Humesha – HUMESHAA condom use karna hoga aur rishta- yaani ki roohani, ya romantic wahan hee banao jahan aapko confidence ho ki isko galat nahin samjha mana jayega. Aap akele nahin, apne jaise aur bhi log ya sansthan dhoondo- aapke sheher mei zaroor hongee!! Relax !! Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Krishna bete, sorry!. Yeh koi bimaari nahi jiska ilaaj maujood ho. Hum samajh sakte hain ki aap aisa kyun keh rahe hain lekin isme bura hee kya hai? Aap pehle mard thodi na hai jo aisa mehsoos karte hain. Bas beta be careful Humesha – HUMESHAA condom use karna hoga aur rishta- yaani ki roohani, ya romantic wahan hee banao jahan aapko confidence ho ki isko galat nahin samjha mana jayega. Aap akele nahin, apne jaise aur bhi log ya sansthan dhoondo- aapke sheher mei zaroor hongee!! Relax !! Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum Hum yahi hain aapke liye!
Eklavya Rathod
Fri, 05/15/2020 - 01:27
Aunty ji namste bhut acha lega apke bare me sb kuch padker. Anty ji meri umar 26 saall hai or meri sadi ko 4 sall hone wale hai 1 tin sall ka beta bhi hai or ab wife dobara pregnent bhi hai actily starting se hi m ledko me jeyada intersted rha hu muje lega tha sadi k bad sb normal ho jaega per ab dikat badti ja rhi hai wife k sath samband bnane me bilkul ruchi nhi aati jabki ledko ko dekhke achi felling aati hai me apni wife ko presan nhi dekhna chata me kya kru kuch samj nhi aa rha plz help me aunty ji
Hmmm - beta- yeh toh bahut khushi ki baat hai ki aapki wife aur aap ""pregnant"" hain. Lekin saath hee jis kashmakash se aap guzar rahe hain - woh kewal badene waala hai ... sawdhaa rahiye. Aap akele nahin is stithi mein, Humare desh mein bahut zyada samlaingik purush shaadi kar leyety hain bache bhai lekin phir pnee sachhi feeling ko samajh nahin paate, sambhaal nahin paate. Abhi aapke pas zyada koi option nahin. Apni wife aur family ko pyaar aur izzat se rakhiye, unhe stable keejiye - aur dekhiye life aapko kahan le jaati hai. Bs yeh 100% yaad rakhiye ki yadi aap unsafe sex kartey hain - usse apki wife ko bahut khatra hai. Samy aa raha hai - ki aap apne aap ko samjhne mein, aur aage ki planning mein bahut soch vichar karien - aur saath hee apni poori zimmedari aur pyaar se apn family ko support karien. https://lovematters.in/hi/sexual-diversity/sexual-orientation/am-i-gay Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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