Myths about homosexuality
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Ten myths about homosexuality

Hundreds of myths about homosexuality are doing the rounds out there. Here are ten common myths from around the world.

1. You need to have sex before you know if you are gay

Most straight people know they’re straight before they have sex. It’s no different if you’re gay, lesbian or bisexual. Your orientation is about who you are attracted to emotionally and physically.

2. Being gay is a choice

When did you decide to be heterosexual? Of course you didn’t ‘decide’ to be straight, because it isn’t a choice. Neither is being gay. It’s just the way you were born, and the way you feel inside.

3. Homosexuality is a mental illness or a disease

Homosexuality is a normal part of human sexuality. The idea that being gay is wrong is based on culture, traditions, or religious belief.  But from a medical or psychiatric point of view, being homosexual is perfectly normal.

Being gay is natural. Humans are not the only ones to have homosexual relationships: researchers have found examples among many animal species, from elephants to dolphins, from bears to buffalo.

4. There’s a cure for being gay

Being gay, lesbian or bisexual isn’t a disease, so you can’t be ‘cured’. There’s no scientific evidence that anything can change you from being homosexual to being heterosexual. It’s just the way you’re made. People who are unhappy about their homosexuality, perhaps for religious reasons or because of social and cultural pressure, sometimes learn to suppress their sexual feelings.

Some people try to change their sexuality through therapy, exorcism, or religious rituals. These can have very damaging effects, and none of them provide a ‘cure’. Many doctors and psychologists have spoken out against this ‘conversion’ or‘ex-gay’ therapy. These programs hurt the person who goes through them, and they can’t do anything to change a person’s sexual orientation.

If you have been or are thinking of going to ex-gay therapy, check out the site Beyond Ex-Gay.

5. Gays and lesbians can turn other people into homosexuals

You can’t be ‘converted’ to homosexuality, any more than you can be ‘cured’ of homosexuality. It’s just the way you’re made. And gays and lesbians aren’t out to ‘recruit’ people to homosexuality, even if it were possible!

Some people say they became properly aware of their sexuality through a particular person or experience – but that didn’t ‘make’ them homosexual. Most gays and lesbians say they’ve always known about their sexual orientation.

6. You’ll be cured of your homosexuality if you get married, or make love with someone of the opposite sex

No experience will make you straight if you’re homosexual. If you’re straight, sleeping with someone of the same sex can’t make you gay, and it’s the same the other way round. Again, it’s just the way you’re made.

So-called ‘corrective rape’ can never change a person’s sexuality. In any circumstances, rape is a serious crime.

7. You can tell homosexuals by the way they look and act

Just like heterosexuals, gay men and lesbian women don’t all look or behave in the same way. There are some gay and lesbian people who might fit into a stereotyped image, and plenty more who don’t. And there are homosexual people in all walks of life.

8. All homosexuals are paedophiles

A paedophile is someone who is sexually attracted to children. They may be straight or gay. There’s absolutely no relationship between being homosexual and being a paedophile.

9. Homosexuals are likely to have Aids – It’s a gay disease

Around the world, HIV/AIDS is more common among heterosexuals than homosexuals.  Anyone who engages in unprotected sex is at risk, whether they’re straight or gay.

10. The way homosexuals have sex is disgusting

Some straight people are horrified at the idea of homosexual sex. This is because they wouldn’t like to do it themselves, not because there’s anything ‘disgusting’ about gay sex.

People tend to associate sex between gay men with anal sex. But many gay men don’t have anal sex – they prefer to make love in other ways.And many heterosexuals like anal sex. Whether you’re into it or not is a matter of personal preference, whether you’re gay or straight.

Gay women can have sex in all sorts of ways too – just like straight couples.

If you think homosexual sex is disgusting, it’s just because you’re looking at it and judging from your own point of view. After all, your favourite food might be delicious to you, but revolting to someone else!

 

 

Comments
Ek minit, aapko female gay, yani woh mard jo ki female ke jaise dikhety hain , rehate hain…unke saath sex passnd hai right? Haan yeh common hai, aur koi beemari nahin. Aap sirf yeh dekh leejiye ki job hi sex aap karein, safe karein… aur yeh bhi yaad rakhiye ki isse dhokhe ke naam deeya jaa sakta hai. Is baat ko aap kasie sambhalna ki planning kar rahe hain?
All this myths are meaningless, before you judge someone you should try and understand the person
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Vishal bete, agar aap ladkon ki taraf aakarshit hote hain so isme bura hee kya hai? Aap pehle mard thodi na hai jo aisa mehsoos karte hain. Yeh koi beemari nahi hain, beta jiska ilaaz maujud ho. Yeh bilkul natural hain. Bas be careful Humesha – HUMESHAA condom use karna hoga aur rishta- yaani ki roohani, ya romantic wahan hee banao jahan aapko confidence ho ki isko galat nahin samjha mana jayega. Aap akele nahin, apne jaise aur bhi log ya sansthan dhoondo- aapke sheher mei zaroor hongee!! Relax !! Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Toh aap isme humse kya umeed rakhte hain? Hum aapki is vishay main koi sahayata nahi kar sakte. Koi sawaal ho to poochhiye. Yadi aap kisi bhee mudde par humse gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Kishor bete, rishta ek samanta ka hona chahiye. Das sal se zyaada ka fark satta ka prateek maana jata hain. Aap khud shadi shuda hain, aap is baare mein kya sochte hain? Aisa kuchh bhi mat keejiyega jisse aapki wife ki garima ko thes pahuche. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Agar IndIA me ye illegal hai or me kisi ke sath relationship me hu toh kya me Bina shadi kiye rah skta hu mere Ma ye alow nhi krenge toh me apna ghr chhodkar apne love ke sath rah skta hu kya Mene Bhut kosis ki hai badlne k Ma papa k liye Par khud ko hi hurt kiya ap btao me kya kru :'(
Lagta hai aap samlaingik ya purushon ke beech rishtey ke baare mein baat kar rahe hain. So baat yeh hai puttar ki han is kism ke rishtey hote hain, aur log saath reh ke yeh rishtey nibahate hain - family banate hain. Isme koi nayee ya adbhut baat nahin Lekin, yeh bhi sach hai ki samaj ghar pariwaar - in sab baaton ko achcha sahi nahin maanta - aur iski vajeh se bahut see problems ho saktee hain - yeh bhi aap sahi soch rhe hain beta. Ab aapke saamne nirnay lene ka waqt aa raha hai. Ki kya jiss vyakti ke saath aap rehna chhatey hain veh aapke is bade balidaan ke laayak hain, kya aap unke bharose - apne doosre ati ahem rishte chhod dein - yeh sahi hoga? Yeh sawaal to har rishtey pe laagu hote hain - lekin is stithi mein shayad zyaada. Beta, ek dum se is rishte mein aa jaana shayed itna madadgaar na ho - kyun na aap ahist ase yeh baat uthana shuru karien - dekhiye veh kya sochtey hain - unhe thoda tayyr keejiye - thoda aware keejiye. Saath hee sath apni naukri, kaam, society mein jageh bhi banane mein time deejiye. Yeh sab baatein aapko "negotiate" charcha karne mein madad deyngee. Mushkil samay beta, apna khayal keejiye aur shant ho kar ek ek baat pe, vichaar keejiye. Chahe to kisi sansathan ki bhi madad lein, jo ki in muddon pe kaam kartee hain, support deytee hain. Shyed auron ki baatein sun ke bhi aapko himmat aur safai mille. Ok Puttar? Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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