Sex? No thanks! Asexuality: top five facts
© Love Matters

Asexuality: top five facts

If you’re asexual you’re just not interested in sex, or maybe not even attracted to anyone. It’s not the same as making a conscious choice not to have sex. Asexuality is pretty rare – only one per cent of people are asexual.
  1. Of attraction and arousal - what is asexuality?
    “Asexuality (or nonsexuality) is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone, or low or absent interest in sexual activity,” according to Wikipedia.

    But, as always, things are not so clear cut. Take attraction, for example. Some asexuals feel very attracted to others, and want to be in relationships, but just without it getting sexual. Other asexuals don’t feel attraction or want any type of relationship.

    When it comes to arousal, it's not straightforward either. Some asexuals get aroused regularly, without the arousal being directly related to wanting sex with somebody else. Others masturbate occasionally, while some feel no arousal at all.
  2. Celibacy, sex, relationships and asexuality
    If someone decides not to have sex for personal reasons, or due to religious and cultural beliefs, he or she is celibate. Being celibate is different from being asexual, because it’s a choice. People who are celibate do feel sexual desire and sexual attraction towards others, but people who are asexual don’t.

    Not all asexuals are actually celibate. Some people who are asexual do have sex. Many asexuals have partners and relationships, and some have sex with their partners – they might do it just to please their partner, or because they want to have a child.

    Nevertheless, while some asexuals do have occasional sex, others are sex-repulsed. That means that sex can make them very, very uncomfortable, and even the thought of sex can make them feel literally sick.
  3. Don’t expect change
    Whether or not asexuality is a sexual orientation is still debated in the scientific community. What is for sure though, is that asexuals can’t change. Don’t expect them to start feeling sexual desire when they ‘meet the right person’. People who are asexual are born that way, and there is no way of ‘fixing’ or ‘‘curing’ them. It would be insulting to imply that you could.
  4. What causes it?
    There is no cause for asexuality. People are just born asexual. It’s neither a mental nor a physical illness. Asexuals haven’t been sexually or otherwise abused or are closet homosexuals. They don’t choose to be asexual.

    Many people who are asexual are perfectly happy the way they are. Being asexual doesn’t change anything about a person’s behavior, other than their sexual behavior. And there’s no way of telling whether or not someone is asexual by looking at them.
  5. How do I know if I am asexual?
    Whether you consider yourself to be asexual all depends on you. In the end, asexuality is a personal orientation. Only you can decide whether you’re asexual or not. There aren’t fixed categories or tests that tell you that you are asexual. Of course there are certain signs, like never having felt sexually attracted to anyone, but in the end, it’s up to you to decide what to call yourself.

For more info check out the Asexual Visibility and Education Network.

Did you find this useful?

Ma'am mujhe 2 June ko periods huvee thee aur humne 3 aur 4 June dohh din sex kiyaa tha periods kee dhoran aurr Bina condom kee kiyaa thaa aur kuchh dhino kee badh mera stomach mai drd Hui aurr vomit bhi lazy lazy tried saa feel hotaa lose motions bhi huve blood pressure low bhi aurr periods jaise drd sa rehta hai kaii barr aurr white discharge bhi hota hai aurr mainee 4 Barr pregnancy test bhi kiya tohh charo tym negative ayaa lekin jaise YouTube mi symptoms btaye waise lgte hai mujhe toh kyaa mai pragnant hu iska kya matlab hai bhut tension hai ma'am please btaiyee ????
Ekta bete relax!! Period ke duran sex mein koi dikatt nahi kyunki ismein pregnancy ke chances na ke barabar hote hain, aur aapka test bhi 4 times negative aaya hai, so, itna pareshan hone ki baat nahi. Lekin yaad rakhiye is duran condom ka istemal anivarya hai taaki kisi bhi sankarman se bachha ja sake. Aur jo bhi symptoms aap bata rahi hain wo stress tension ya kisi anya karan se bhi ho sakta hai, aap chahe to iske baare mein ek panjikrit doctor se mil lijiye. Yeh bhi padh lijiye: Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna   chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho!
Add new comment


  • Allowed HTML tags: <a href hreflang>